Infedility, feel like am addicted to having sex with other women

Hi,
I married my girlfriend of 9years 7 years ago so you can imagine how long we have been together.

The problem is that I have been cheating on her since day one. I feel like am addicted to having sex with other women, it seems so easy. Recently wy mife discovered my latest affair and she is devastated. She wants a divorce. Now I realize what I have done, how come I kept doing it for so many years? We have kids and it kills me to think that I will no longer be present in their lives.

I want to save my marriage and my family. Should I? Any advice?

I'd start with telling her the whole story - everything. If she can't live with the truth, then in all seriousness, both of you are better off.

My parents were divorced when I was about two years old - growing up, it was very hard. And about eight or nine years old, my dad's girlfriend (my step mom) left him, but my step dad & mom have been together ever since they got together, when I was around three, so growing up, for a long time I had four parents, not two.

They lived close by each other, so it wasn't that bad, but kids will survive, as long as things between you & your wife stay civil.

The infidelity thing...seriously, she won't trust you if she knows the truth, and you can't lie about it, else you'll only hurt her worse. I firmly believe that you can find the love of your life out there, and they'll appreciate & love you, flaws & all...perhaps this will work out for the best for both of you.

Good luck. ~thedude.

Let me add a few things. First you might not have "true love." True love will keep you coming home at night, no matter waht the temptation. I've been tempted, offered free love, with no strings attached, but I always came home.

Second, you might have some addiction. You've heard of AA? Well sex is an addiction too. You might look into that. If you do have some sort of serious problem, than honesty is definately the best policy! If she understands you have a problem, and BOTH of you truly love each other, than you will work it out.

Thanks to "thedude" and "justwant2bedabest" for your comments.

If I tell my wife the whole story she will probably die. I forgot to mention that I have been seeing this other girl for two years now. She says she is love with me and wants to marry me(she is 10years younger). She tells me I am obviously not happy in my relationship. I am afraid to hurt my kids for the rest of their lives. I know I have been an A**hole and a selfish man. Should I stay in the relation for my children? I think some councelling might help but if my wife ever hears the whole story she would probably die. Sorry my ideas are not following eachother but its a very confusing time.

Thank you both for hearing me out.