In love with a married woman

How do I begin this, I am in love with a married woman and I am sure she is in love with me. She has been married for 12 years and I got divorced last year after 11 years of marriage. We have been together for only four months but I know we are...

completely in love. We both believe that we are each others soulmates. She says she will leave her husband and has done so twice before we met and came back she tells her husband that she is not in love with him anymore and says that she has not been for years. they have slept in separate rooms for the last 10 years.She was abandoned by her parents at the age of fifteen and has a fear of abandonment and is afraid that she will do harm to her twelve year old son by asking her husband to leave. That is because he tells her son that she is no good and a waste when she has left before. She wants to ask him to leave but is afraid of what he will tell her son. I told her to file for divorce and then ask him to leave but she wants to ask him first to leave. She was suppose to do it yesterday but didn't go through with it because something can up ( a family emergency). I have told her that she has to leave for herself and not for me. We have no plans on living together we do want to wait before doing something like that. I am thinking of giving her a date to ask him to leave because I feel I have to protect myself emotionally, and if she doesn't do it then I have to move on even though I truly am so in love with her and know that she is with me. What do you guys think?

I really hope this works out for you
yea its better if the mom tells the kid later on instead of the dad because moms can word it better
good luck bud

if you talk to the guy it wil end badly
he will most likely be aggressive about it and it could cause more problems betwen you the woman and her kid
give her time its not something you can do easely

I won't tell him because it will crush her son if he knows she left and has another man. My fear is that he will find out and tell her son. I wouldn't want the kid to get hurt. We did try to not see each other but it hasn't worked. This is why I told her she has to make a decision before her son finds out and then it will be horrible. She wants to be honest with her son and tell him that something like she feels like dating. She says the son knows the relationship is horrible, they don't sleep in the same room and have no intimacy not even hugging. She said she didn't want to leave until her son was older and she thinks now that he is 12 it is ok.

Thanks Joe1127, I think I need the luck for this to go all smoothly.

help anyone