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like her too much to destroy our relationship for one shag

Asked by informer_220 6 months ago, 4 answers.
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Me and my girl have been going out for 2 months...problem is im a bit too horny all the time... Shes still a virgin and I want to have sex with her but im holding back (a lot)...thing is she has doubts about wanting to have sex...I see it in her body...she sometimes leads and other times she doesnt want to...
My question is...how do I persuade her? If at all possible...
Btw ill make this clear I can wait...I like her too much to destroy our relationship for one shag...

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Answered by pinkpearl on Apr 09, 2008, 03:11PM
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I think 2 months is still early, and it's extra early if she's still a virgin. She's probably feeling a bit of anxiety about that, and that might be why you're getting some mixed messages.

But two things are working in your favor -- 1) you can read her body language and 2) you don't mind waiting because you don't want to jeopardize the relationship. I think this is excellent.

If you get into a dialog, it may be uncomfortable and she may interpret it as pressure. So, if I were you, I'd keep going the way you are, turning up the heat a little each time. She may be the one who finally blurts out that she wants to go all the way. But don't forget... sexual intercourse is not the only way to have sex. There are millions of things you can do together that will not cause her to lose her virginity... and it might be best to do those things first for a few months rather than making intercourse (sorry, I do hate that word) the main goal.

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Answered by funadvice on Apr 09, 2008, 02:08PM
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well
from my perspective
I would just sit her down and ask her "why don't you want to have sex?"
and watever she says try to change if possible other wise just try to wait!!!
hope it helped but please emial me

Answered by informer_220 on Apr 10, 2008, 06:05AM
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right I see...I know it doesnt have to be intercourse...and I know she will take it as pressure...so just waiting is the answer *sigh* thnx for answering ^^

Answered by loulou11 on Apr 14, 2008, 08:32PM
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I know how she feels. I was feeling the same was she was when I was a virgin. You should talk and see what she's scared about and everything that is bothering her about having sex. My boyfriend wasn't a virgin I felt like if I didn't have sex with him he would go get it from someone else so make sure she knows that you will wait and just want her to be comfortable.