Im married, but my ex came back

Ok, heres the deal, I dont know why I have these feelings for my ex still, but in a way I still am attracted to him. I know, it sounds bad, but I would seriously never cheat on my husband. I need to know if I should just drop him as one of my friends...

or what I need to do?!?! When we were dating he was awful, one of the worst guys I had ever been with! He was controlling, manipulative, and verbally abusive! Why am I still attracted to him? Help me please...

Why?, because you shared a piece of your life with this person. I have plenty of my ex's that I still felt like I had feelings for, but I remember they are ex's for a reason, just like you did, and was able to just be friends. It is only natural to think of what could have been, or how he could have changed to become a better man than what you knew him as. Once you get over that stage of reaquainting, you should be fine to continue as friends. It helps that you are so dedicated to your husband, and know you wouldn't cheat.
My advice would be to be frank with your ex and your husband. If you can't tell your husband because you know it will cause an arguement, or hurt feelings that can be avoided, don't. If that is your decision, don't see your ex without your husband around. It will help you and your ex set boundaries so you can be alone and carry on a healthy friendship. Even if you decide to tell your husband, only being with the two of them together is a good idea. It will let your husband know you have no intentions of cheating.
I've been through a similar situation just a couple months ago, only the guy and I were not officially together. I let my fiancee read over my shoulder while E-mailing, and I talked on the phone only with him in the room. I still care for this guy a great deal, but I am in love with my fiancee. They both know that, and now my fiancee is fine with our friendship. He even get's annoyed when I talk with my friend on the phone with him in the same room. LOL.
The last thing I can tell you is you know yourself better than anyone on here does. If you feel you can't carry on a friendship with him without thinking of cheating, maybe it is best to cut ties. If you know that it is only thoughts of the past and you would never act on it, a friendship should be fine. You are your best judge. Good luck.

LOL Yeah, I know where your coming from. My husband knows that I talk to him, he trusts me fully, as I trust him. The only prob. that he has with it, is how the other guy used to treat me. Thats my main prob. My ex was a very mean guy, and inside of me, I hate him! But somewhere deep within me, I still want to talk to him, I dont know why. Plus, to make a long story short, I kinda left my ex for my husband. My husband is a wonderfull man, and I left the ex for a reason. Bad thing is, that he contacts me at the wierdest times. Like he is the one looking for me even though time afrter time I've'e told him that im not ever going to leave (or cheat) on my hubby with him. He just doesnt get the pic! I really want to stop talking to him, but were both on the same mil base, therfore I see him a lot. Im not really a mean person either, so I cant just be like dont talk to me HEL
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