How can I find my long-lost father?

I dont know if this will work but I was just wondering if anybody out ther might know my father I have never seen him and I know that I have little siblings out there that have the same father . Im turning 18 on august 12th and I want to try to find him . my question is should I bother looking for him if he isnt even looking for me? what should I do ?

hi my name is jason im 23 and from a place called wychbold near droitwich wocester.
I understand want your thinking about my dad left me when I was 3 and he was a women beater so you could say he was and his a FU***ER TW**t but I had the chance to meet him when I was about 12 and the day was GREAT but then the day after he did not turn up I was left on my own for 3 long and upseting hours.So im trying to say your beter then him you should leave it and if he wast to be a men he will find you.But that is just my forts on your problems.You can write back if you went I talk to you when you went to TAKE CARE FROM JASON. HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON THE 12 MANDY
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON THE 12 MANDY

Chances are you'll be gravely disappointed by what you find. He hasn't been a father to you all your life, odds of him starting now are slim. If he looks for you, great. But I wouldn't go seeking him out.

I just met my father about 3 weeks ago. For the first time and I'm 22. He is everything I thought he'd be.

I thought the same thing, that he didn't want me and was never looking for me. But then I found out the circumstances. My mom pushed him away and he DID try to find me but was pushed away again.

Now I have this whole family that I never knew and they all welcomed me 'home'

You won't know if you don't try.

I want to add something again here...

I grew up mostly with my dad, fantasizing about my mom. Everytime I saw her, every few years, it was all that I dreamed it could be. She was so pretty and nice and by golly, I can't believe mean ole dad kept me from her! Then, like clockwork a day, a week, a month later after spending time with her, red flags about about her true nature. It took me until I was in my mid twenties to realize that mom was in fact faaaaarrrrr from being what I thought she was. There was a good reason she was kept from me. It took me years to get it through my head because I built it up to be so grand and so much more than it was--because I longed for a mommy so badly I didn't want to see or believe the reasons she was away from me. Sure, she had that 'Your dad wouldn't let me see you' story. But in the end, the truth couldn't be hidden anymore. She was away from me because she couldn't or wouldn't be a mom. Nothing really changed, ever. She didn't magically become Super mom one day. Now I have no contact or relationship with her at all after years of trying to convince myself I could make her love me enough to be my mother.

I'm not saying you shouldn't be looking for your dad. I'm just saying not to expect too much of him and don't be too surprised/hurt/disappointed if you learn the sad fact of life that most of us learn eventually: mom was right.

A real father, a real man, stops at NOTHING to father his child. Being 'pushed away' has no bearing in a court of law. A real man takes his baby's mother to court and fights for his right to his child and would never, ever let his child go fatherless because he was 'pushed away'.

So keep that in mind. He has been guilty of avoiding his responsibility to you. Don't expect Magic Superdad to come out of it. What you're going to probably find is a broken, somewhat fallen version of what a man should be. No one who is that great, that stellar, responsible and upright would go for 18 YEARS without seeking out their child and being a father to them. A real man understands the importance of being a father once he makes a baby.

Just keep it in mind.

http://ww.ussearch.com/consumer/index.jsp it might help u and I hope you finde uor father bye god bless u

I would because im only 14 and I have seen my father but the last time I saw him I was 2 and dont remember anything so all I want to do is find him you dont need to get in touch with him just so you know where he is

hey im only 14 and I dont know my father either...I want to look for him but at the same time I dont...I want to get to know him better but I dont because I've lived 14 years without him so why bother...BUT ITS ALL UP TO you IF you REALLY DO WANT TO FIND HIM...I need help on how to find him but I dont want to tell my mom

Hi my name is jason ny stupid dad left me when when I was 3 and he I next ment him wneh I was adout 12 the fist day whent GREAT but the next time I went to meet him the IDIOTdid not turn up and that was the last time I had any chance to meet him.My nan has said 1000 times men who can make us and then F***CK of do not deserve us so please belive me he dosert deserve you OK jason Fun mail me

P.s please be happy and write back any time if had the same kind of problems 4 23 years so I understand HAPPY BIRTHDAY ON THE 12

I am 34 years old and I cannot find my father. At 34 you would think that I could handle this fact, but I can't. My mother is evil itself with money and her other children by the another man her only driving force. I doubt after all this time he wants to know me or he would have found me. I get upset, angry and feel lost all of the time. I hope you find what you are looking for, I really do. I wouldn't wish this feeling on anyone.

yes you should try looking for him because the same way you're thinking he's not looking for you you never know he might think of you everyday. so looking for him might be the only way you'll find closure to the missing piece in your heart..

Hi two weeks ago I was told my paternal grandmother has died and the time and day of the funeral. I hadnt seen my dad since I was 4 weeks old and hadnt had any contact with him since I was 10 (14 years ago!!) But I decided to go to the funeral and pay my respects after all this woman was my grandmother. After a lot of pointing and guessing who my father was, my fiance and I realised who it was. My fiance held my hand and called his name and I introduced myself to him and I can honestly say it was the best decision I've ever made. He was so happy to see me and he couldnt beleive it that I had come to the funeral. We arranged to meet last sunday just for an hour to try get 2 know each other and we sat and talked for 4 hours.

Over my 24 years of having unanswered questions, anger, depression (I've cut myself over it) I feel like a dead weight has been lifted from me.

My advice to you is go for it but also beware that this person may not want to accept you as his daughter. I have been lucky and I really hope you are too. xxx

Wow.. I'm so glad to know that there are people experiencing what I am. Not that I would wish not knowing a father on anyone, because I wouldn't. Well, I never knew who my father was let alone having 3 step-siblings. Well, my step-brother's girlfriend found me on myspace of all places! I grew up thinking he wanted nothing to do with me, because of course he would have looked for me right? Well, supposedly he tried with no luck. I guess I will never know really, but I guess I just have to take his word for it. After all he did tell his son about me. Well, I will never know the father he could have been, or what kind of man he really was; just the man he is today.

Well, if you want to find your father, try these popular websites along with other searches. http://www.intelius.com (this you have to pay for, but comes up with fairly good leads)

I wish you luck in your search and like the others have said, keep your expectations low and your guard high.

Ok my advice is meet him at least once if yooh find him go see him no matter who he is yooh dont have to go back but just see him once because my father killed himself when I was 3 and I miss him dearly I really wish I had got to know my dad better at the age I am now my dad was schitzophranic and beat my half bros and broke the law in every way possible he was a alco and a druggo yet I would give up anything to have him in my life weather he was a bad person or good

Hi, I don't know anything about my dad but I would love to find him. I am not expectin everything to be a big fairytale if I did but it means a lot to me just to know, and everytime I try to talk to my mum about it she just gets angry because she feels as if im trying o push her out. I havnt really got a name but I know tiny bits of information Family has given me. Does anybody know any way I can start looking for him because I really don't know where to start!

Clo x