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Im just not ready

Asked by jackie_ob 4 months ago, 8 answers.

How can I get my boyfriend to stop bringing up sex?
Im already pissed that he pressuring me but now he wont drop it
I told him that im only 14 and I dont want to do anything untill im older and ready
But now hes like:
Oh well where should we do it???...

And keeps talkin bout it
I think im in love with him because other than this hes the best guy ever so I dont want to break up. But im not giving in to sex any time soon
What should I do???

Answered by toothpickcrw on Jul 07, 2009, 01:35AM
4 answers

okay girl lol I had a friend and this happened to her around when she was 16? so this is what she said to him... she started off with sayin and lets go eat lunch somewhere so then they got food and went back to his house and played on the xbox and while they were playin she randomly goes hey I was thinkin you no I dont like the fact that me not wantin to have sex with you bugs u. he pasued the game and looked at her and then she said you no what I mean? im only 16 and I want to wait and if you cant respect my wishes then it wont work out and he started laughin and said are you fn serious... and she goes we been together for 8 months and I no if I dumped you over this would be stupid but just think what people will say when they find out I dumped you because he kept pressurin me into havin sex... he reached over and hugged her and he said we can wait...

now im not promising what my friend did will work with you and your boyfriend... and if your very close to your parents or have a sibling or cousin maybe talk to them about it... let me know how it goes

Answered by 20junior on Jul 07, 2009, 01:38AM
84 answers

so why don't you want t have sex?

scarry?

and just tell him that you dont want 2 do it because of that.. if he ain't that stupid he wont dropped you

Answered by tedda14 on Jul 07, 2009, 01:39AM

you are so young! you should definitely wait until you are older. I am fourteen too. I don't have a bofriend b/c I don't want to get into any situations that I could regret. this guy may be a great guy but if he keeps pushing this sex thing I would break up with him because if he is bugging you about this and won't leave you alone then maybe he's not the guy that you thought he was. maybe he is just one of those sex crazy guys who use their good looks and good qualities to just have fun and leave you with the bad end of the deal. of course this isn't always the case so I guess you would have to figure out his motives... sorry if this doesn't help but just thought I'd say something...

Answered by damologist on Jul 07, 2009, 01:39AM
223 answers

Just reinforce that you don't want to have sex yet and see if he is willing to wait. He'll either be happy to wait, or will dump you and look for sex elsewhere

Answered by tedda14 on Jul 07, 2009, 01:51AM

I don't know this guy so I don't know his motives but he sorta sounds like one of those guys who just uses girls to have fun and then goes on to the next one... I'm fourteen too and I don't have a boyfriend b/c I want to avoid any situations like the one you're in. and other things I could do that would have regret written all over them. sex is very serious. I am going to wait until I am married b/c I am going to have sex only with my husband. 14 is very young and I think it's sad that kids our age have to think about this kind of stuff... I don't think any girl is ready to have sex when she is fourteen. so if I were you I would tell this guy to either back off and if he won't then he doesn't deserve you because obviously he doesn't like you or love you enough to respect what you think is right for you... because everybody is different. hope this helps. and I don't want to offend you... happy tedda14

Answered by key_bbz_x on Jul 07, 2009, 02:14AM
3 answers

I always find that muffling him out usually helps
I would suggest I thick hankerchief!
if not, take out his voice box

p.s
HIT IT OUT OF THE PARKKK!

xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Answered by simplychallenging on Jul 07, 2009, 02:14AM
404 answers

I think you just have to tell him straight up where it's at. Say I really care about you, but I'm not going to have sex with you yet and my opinion isn't going to be changing anytime soon. Please stop pressuring me.

As much as you don't want to hear this, if he respects you and your opinion, he will stop. If he doesn't, you deserve better. Simple as.

Answered by braver on Jul 07, 2009, 05:32AM
62 answers

Just tell him straight that you want to wait a while longer before you do it and that you'd appreciate it if he wouldn't try to pressure you into it. Tell him that if he has any feelings for you he'll respect your decision to wait, but if he keeps pressuring you then tell him that maybe you both need to split up and re-evaluate why you're in this relationship to begin with.