Im in love with a married man!

Im a divorced 22 yr old mother of one (2 year old) and seeing a married 34 yr old man. He has two kids and hes my best friends brother. We've been attracted to each other since I was like 15, but never did anything about it bc of the age difference and him being married (he got married when he was 21.) About six months ago we got really drunk, ended up having to sleep in the same room, slept together and have been seeing each other since then.Its been great but now he's telling me that he loves me and wants to build a life with me. I adore his 2 daughters (ages 5 and 10) and they love me.(they spend at least one weekend a month with me.) I love this man and have cared for him for as long as I can remeber. No one knows that we have been seeing each other, so we could easily end things with out making things more complicated then they already are. I dont want to break up his marriage. But I love him and could see myself build a life with him. What should I do? should I cut off my relationship with him or do I go for it.

I would talk it over with him see if he wants to stay married or not cause not to be mean but he could be using you for sex. You also have to think how his wife would fill and his kids. Iam 21 and married also with a 1 ye old son if my man done that to me that would break my heart. But talk with him see how his feeling are for it then you never know good luck

THis is the classic example of how anti-marriage laws and stupid taboos can ruin lives. If you had been legally able to marry from the beginning, then none of this would have happened. Chances are that neither of you are going to be happy from here forward. I wish you luck, and I feel deep sympathy for his wife and children. By the way, the worst possible way to start a relationship is with alcohol. It didn't bring you together with him, it tore his marriage apart.

I know your feeling, I'm married and have two daughter's. I say I'm inlove with a married man butthat's just it. He's married, and so am I.We would like to have each other, he has made me cry, stressed me out and made me worry. tried talking me into unfaithful acts, but I have stayed true and I plan on keeping it that way. Whats to make you think after he was married to you for around 2 or 3 years he wouldnt do the same to you? I've thought about that. I have a great husband that takes care of all 3 of us and works every day, and I know that I dont have to worry about him. I would rather keep it like that. I see Jason every where, almost ever week, and I stray out of his way and keep my distance, whats not good for you, you stay away from, even if you love it-deeply! I'll always love him, but I didnt marry him and I'm sure you have heard- If you cant be with the one you love, love the one your with, and if you have noone- find someone else. Some good advice.

HI, not trying to be mean but honey its not worth it. god will not bless that mess control your hormones he's takin. wait for your mate theres someone for every one and its obvious hes not the one for you.

Here is a saying that I've always held onto:

{{If he will cheat WITH you, he will cheat ON YOU.}} >> Just something to keep in mind.

Once a cheater always a cheater. You have to remember, you would not just be making yourself happy, you would be ruining the wife's and two children's lives. Is that worth it to you? Only you can decide. The fact that the man you say you love could devastate his family like that would make me worry what devastating events he would dump in my lap in the future. Good luck.

if you marry a man who cheats on his wife.
you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife.