Im a real diffrent person

my name is t. but most people call me tk im a real friendly person but if your mean to me I am back. anyway at school im just a funny person trying to fit in I dont no what I really am I really got like 7 or 8 friends but I really want to fit in, I want to find the person I am and I dont no how to explain myself I try and make stuuf up when its not true and mostly when I have firendships I like to cause yelling drama but, I just cant find myself please help me.

I dunno, you gotta think and look at urself real hard, what kind of people do you want to hang out wiv, why, and then you mite be able to find a bit of urself. im sorry I cant help you more

Hello,
I am just like you, I am 14, and all I want to do is fit in. My mother says during the teenage years it is hard to find yourself, so I'm just waiting and waiting. lol.
well I hope I helped? I dont think so, but I just want to let you know that you aren't alone.

hey tk! after reading your piece, I have to say that I think that one of the hardest things in life is trying to figure out who you are and to actually find yourself. and in high school is where most people start to realize that crucial question of 'who am I' and searching to find out the answer. However, no one really can tell you the answer to this question, it's something that you need to find yourself. But don't go looking for it, it will find you. So, all you can go by for now would be to be yourself- develop relationships with people- friends etc. and make the most out of life starting now, drama will happen but you have the power to control how you get involved. just think about you're life: your interests, goals and try to focus on things like that...then somewhere down the road you will find yourself, until then just live life to the fullest

how old are you? I'm a senior this year and one thing I can tell you is that everyone wants to fit in around middle school and early high school. that's just how it is. evenutally you will figure out that fitting in isn't want will tell you who you are. I know I have changed a LOT since freshman year. don't worry too much, you will figure it out. just give it some time.

Dear t,
The fact that you are looking for answers is great! First stop trying to 'fit in' this is a dead end in life. If you start to develop this frame of mind, you put enormous amounts of pressure on yourself and future spouse/kids etc. By trying to fit in, what you are really doing is living your life and making decisions based on what you think people want to see/hear from you. There is an inner mechanism in us all that when we listen to it, this inner mechanism will always lead us to make the right choice. It is your comfort level and discomfort level. The next time you are confronted with a decision as to who to hang out with or what to do in a certian situation etc.., just ask yourself if the decision you make brings YOU comfort first. Keep in mind what brings you comfort may not be the same for one of your family/friends. This is where you may find yourself confronted by a friend to do what THEY want you to do,and if you continue to go in other people's direction you are fighting with your inner self. Many people/adults do this and they eventually go into denial building a huge wall that halts good things in their life to enter in. Even if it looks like they have it all, they don't know how to enjoy it. They become unhappy,restricted,controlling,jealous and a lot of times very abusive. You may (in the beginning) want to explain to family/friends why you are making certian decisions, if they get it and respect your decisions these are individuals that probably are good for you. If they are confrontational and unhappy with your decisions than you may want to start distancing yourself away from thes individuals. Listening to your inner mechanism is a great way to weed out bad people (for you) in your life. #2 You noted that you get into yelling matches etc.. Keep in mind if you treat people mean this is what to expect from people and how you will be treated. Begin to treat people good, and if these people take it as weakness and try and hurt you emotionally etc.. just remove these people from your life......simple. One thing about treating people right is thats what you will become more intune with as to what to expect from people. I am not talking about a stranger you may bump into at a store. I am talking about developing good healthy relationships for yourself. Imagine having people around you that are nice and respect your choices and you treat eachother nice and actually want the best for eachother.
Hope this helps!!
Familycoach