If you have the time.. please help

If you are not in the mood to really give me advice and not in the mood to sit and read for a minute then don't even bother to continue lol...

Well me and my fiance have been together 1 year and 4 months and I love him so much you have no idea but the...

thing is we dont have a place to live right now we are staying with his grandparents right now but they dont want us here for very much longer. Anyways I dont really know how to put this but I know so much about his past because of the fact that he dated my friend for a while so I know mostly everyhting I shouldnt know. And because if this I bring up his past a lot and he gets mad and sometime pushes me chokes me and slaps me not punch or anything. In a way I understand because I would go crazy if he kept bringing my past up but in another way I dont think he should do what he does. I have a choice of either going back to california or staying with him in vegas and try to work things out but I have no clue what to do and I have to make a decision soon because my ride is leaving on tuesday can someone pleaseee help me!!!

-shelby

Ok I am a man and under no ciercomstances should a hand ever be laid on a woman, with that said, you have been with this guy a while, stay with him as long as you can bear it, though if he continuse his behavior or refuses to progress it may be time to move on

you might be havin some hesitation spendin the rest of your life with him.. well, you have to have self-assessment of how you guys can be in the long run... to tell you honestly, bringin up the past annoys me, too, whenever my guy brings it up, like how I disregard my guy before that may have to be done to my present guy, too, which is not a good idea.. as much as possible, never bring up his past because you never realize that he's already changed his ways from before to a much better him at the present, until you let him go and knew he's really loved you like so mad..
and if you love each other -ready to stay together forever, then you have to plan not only for a short-term but for a long-term goals you two have to accomplish-more of like establishing everything together.. I know how you feel, but feel for your fiancé on how he feels whenever you do what you're doin to him.. and know how hurting it is bein accused again and again by the person you love...

DUMP HIM!

Any guy who pushes, chokes or slaps a girl is not only a loser, they are also very dangerous!

However, I know you are not going to just dump him as I suggest.
He clearly has an anger management problem. Insist that if he does not get professional help you WILL dump him.

You also need to get some help for your jealousy and stop upsetting him by bringing up his past.

However, NO words said to a guy HOWEVER harsh give him the right to hurt a woman in the way you describe.

He is also committing an offense by behaving in this way towards you.

There is some truth in the saying, 'A Leopard never changes its spots'IE If he treats you this way, he will continue to treat you this way.

He is a coward and a loser, please top making excuses for his behaviour, I have seen this so many times from women in abusive relationships.

NO WOMAN DESERVES TO BE TREATED LIKE THIS!

Come on ladies, a little support here please?

Kiasu

you can settle all your issues with him by a simple and peaceful conversation with him.. not a good idea for any of you to decide when something has happened, and on the state of angst and hatred.. ask for counselling if you wanna save the relationship..