Long distance relationship and he wants to sleep with others

I don't know what 2 do I am scared me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship he lives in arkansas and I live in nh so we don't see each other other then over cam and I love him but he told me the other day that he wants 2 have a threesome with out me witch really bothered me and I mean men all ways have there fantasy's but don't all ways act on them and my boyfriend is amazing hes every thing I have ever dreamed of hes sweet,funny, nice,charming,a gentlemen,he plays the piano,likes classical music hes hot,he has a amazing smile and gorgeous brown eyes,he likes the music I like,hes older,hes random I love randomness lol and he can cook I love him so much and I don't know what 2 do I don't know weather 2 believe him it scares me I mean he said he was sorry he knows I felt uncomfortable and sad and he said he didn't mean 2 hurt me and I guess it,s a good thing hes honest about it but still it bothered me and I after I asked him if he loved me with no hesitation he said yes I all so asked him if I told him he could have sex with a girl right now would he and he said only if I promised that is was okay so I don't know can men and adults please comment on this I know you younger people have some good advice but I really just want a adults point of view

he said he would have sex with another girl only if you said its ok???

wth>!? is he like brain dead?

no offense im sure hes a nice guy but also a sweet talker .

if you LOVE someone you wouldnt think of ever being with anyone else even if it was

OKAY because it just wouldnt feel right...I think you can do better than him

he is a sweet talker lol brain dead not at all and thats not really true I think of other people all the time but I would NEVER do any thing with any 1 other then him, I love him and it don't feel right I think of them but I just can't help it so I can kinda relate 2 him but I don't know if he will do any thing

I just don't know it,s so confusing

Being in a long distance relationship isn't easy. It requires very strong trust, commitment, guidelines, and communication. He doesnt seem to want the commitment to make your relationship work, so how can you say, 'I dont know if he will do anything', when hes already told you he wants to!

I don't know but at least hes truthful if he where any other guy he would have lied

How can you sit there and defend someone you only met online? You cant possibly know someone unless you spend one on one quality time with them...in person!

do you know how may successful relationships people have on line I am sure it,s more then you think I know allot don't but theres all so allot that do

Here is some information I found on what kind of teens date online>
Internet users, ages 10 to 17, explore the characteristics of youths who had formed close relationships with people they first met online4 and found that...
~Girls aged 14 to 17 were about twice as likely as girls who were 10 to 13 to form close online relationships.
~The two problem characteristics associated with close online relationships were high parent-child conflict and being highly troubled. The girls with high levels of parent-child conflict reported yelling, nagging, and taking away privileges by parents at a higher level than the other girls. The highly troubled girls had levels of depression, victimization, and troubling life events at a higher level than the other girls in the sample. Girls in either of these categories were more than twice as likely as the other girls in the sample to have formed close online relationships.
~Girls and boys who reported high levels of Internet use and home Internet access were more likely to report close online relationships.9
~Youth with problems were more likely to have formed online romantic relationships, been asked by online friends for face-to-face meetings, and attended face-to-face meetings with people they first met online.

This is what you said in one of your previous questions> **I am in special ed he don't know I have a hard time with math and understanding things I think he thinks I am home schooled but I'm not I dropped out he don't know allot about my dad he don't know that I live in a crappy apartment he thinks I live in a house he don't know I am lazy and I don't know how 2 cook very well and he don't know that I am over weight either I tell him I am fat but I think he thinks I am just 1 of those girls that say they are fat when there not and I don't have a job either cause I am 2 self conscious**

^^You have a lot of issues going on, and you seem to fit the above profile.

Realistically speaking, doesn't it seem like an unrealistic expectation to stay committed to someone you never (almost never) see, someone you can never touch/embrace, and someone who you cannot share moments with other than through a computer? That's no relationship at all. That's a fantasy.
You have to eventually meet someone in order for the relationship to get serious.
You don't grow together, you don't learn together, you don't experience life together. The only thing you give eachother are words - and that's not enough.

If an online relationship doesn't work, it doesn't teach you something about relationships, all it teaches you is that online relationships are a waste of your time. You should really get out in the real world, and meet people you can actually hang out with.

I see him all the time yea on cam put still and all the prob,s I have I had before I even met him hes helping me b a better person I don't drink as much I don't do drugs any more hes teaching me things I have never new he makes me feel good about myself and makes me happy most of the time and I will see him may b not as soon as I would like but still I will see him I am plaining on seeing him this summer if possible if that doesn't happen I will have 2 wait quite a bit longer but still he is worth the wait

Its usually women who are vulnerable and want to really believe that there is someone special out there who loves them. It's much easier to idealize someone you've never met before, then a person you spend ever day with! How do you know hes not doing this to other lonely girls out there? What is the point of having a boyfriend you cant be with physically? How can it even feel like your in a relationship? You cant expect someone to make you happy, that is something that has to come from within. It sounds like you are trying to justify reasons for dating someone over the internet. You just fell in love with the idea of having someone to talk to ... He made you feel good about yourself and you want to hold onto that as long as possible. You can't really know until you meet the person and even then, its 'IFFY'. The only catch is, you're not falling in love with 'them' as much as you are falling in love with your 'idea' of them. And a lot of times, the two just don't add up when you finally meet in person.

I do not I could have a boyfriend here if I would like I chose not 2 and I have dated some 1 on the comp before and I didn't fall 4 him theres only 3 people I have ever fallen 4 and there my best friends now well not so much my friend / X Mat hes more a pain in my butt then my best friend but still if my boyfriend leaves me ok w,e stuff happens I can deal with my life crashing down on me again but if I leave him I will dye inside and out he is truly amazing and I don't think he is I know he is and just cause I haven't really met him doesn't mean every thing about him is untrue I know this 4 a fact I know that hes funny I know that hes smart I know that hes sweet I mean yes that could be a act but he is sweet I know that he has a nice bod he knows how 2 make me smile he has the cutest smile ever I love is hair and dark brown eyes these things I know I don't have 2 met him 2 know that