I want to have a baby

I want to have a baby but my boyfriend does not want to have a baby and everyday he sees babies everyday and they cry and he says that makes him not want a baby and it makes me sad I see my sister and friends everyday with their babies and it makes me want one for myself and it makes me so sad everyday...what should I do ...

I'm pregnant right now and trust me the last 6 months have been crazy. First off there is the first 3 months of morning sickness sometimes it last longer than that, mine lasted until month 4, puking and eating, but mostly puking all day and anytime, it's awful and I was working all the time. Then there is the peeing all the time and youir breast hurt so bad, you don't even want to move them. Trust me babies are wonderful and I'm happy to be pregnant, but a lot of it is just a drag especially the yeast infection, bladder infection, nasal problems, backaches, itchiness, crankiness, hunger pains, sleepless nights and the fact that your body is being taken over, it's a beautiful thing and all the things I listed are completely normal during pregnancy, and if you think you can handle 9 months of that and possibly more then by all means have a baby and the get ready to handle 18 years more.

Try to take him to Day cares, let him see what its like being a dad part time. Get him to play with the kids, play games with them. Hold them, watch them sleep, feed them. Get him interest in the idea of being a farther, and remind him he will make a great dad!

Baby sit your sister's baby. I was going through this with my boyfriend too, but we got pregnant unexpectedly. And now he hardly even speaks, so I wouldn't really push the subject unless you want a bad reaction from him. But if he is around babies more, it may change his mind.

I think you'll find a lot of the reason you want a baby is because you're surrounded by people with babies. To quote sgt_harris yet again 'babies aren't purses'- just because everyone around you seems to have one, doesn't mean that you have to have one too. A baby is not a fashion statement, it's a human life, one that you have to take care of for at least the next 18 years. Plus, they grow out of being babies very quickly, and what happens then? You can't just throw a toddler away and replace it with a new baby.

The big red flag here should also be that your boyfriend doesn't want a child right now. You need to respect his wishes, it's not all about what you want. Besides, if you go ahead and get pregnant when he doesn't want a baby, there's every possibility he's going to be upset with you for not respecting his wishes, and he may even want to leave you because of it. Are you really prepared to be that selfish that you will disregard what he wants for what you want? Not to mention, if the father leaves you because of it, how is your child going to feel knowing that 'daddy didn't want me'?

If you really want something cute and small to take care of,that will give you unconditional love, get a cat or a dog. They always stay your 'baby', they love you no matter what (unless you are cruel to them), they are way less expensive, you don't need a babysitter for them if you want to go out, and there's no strings attached if a relationship with your partner doesn't work out in the future. Not to mention, they are a lot less expensive than babies, and they never ask you for money.

YOU ARE ONLY 18. enjoy your life while it lasts! and if you are going to have a baby, at least wait until you are MARRIED and completely settled. he's your BOYFRIEND! not your life partner!