I want a baby??!!

im 14 and wanna have a baby with my boyfriend who I truely love...I dont think its weird but I also wanna marry him. I think he might porpose to me this year. anyway. do you think its weird to wanna have a baby while your 14 ?

It's not weird, but it is stupid.

A baby is not a toy.

Give up school, your social life, your self-esteem, your family, your friends...nothing is about you anymore - only the baby.

It's not a wise decision.

idc I want one... and btw I am stupid. lol

your brain isn't fully developed until you are 21. wait til then to decide if it is a good decision.

also don't have a child unless you are fully able to support it yourself financially. you cannot depend on your parents, him or his parents.

why not get a dog to love and cuddle with your boyfriend? That will be fun too!

There's nothing strange in wanting a baby, but seriously

Why would you want a baby at that age?, I mean seriously you can become anything you want to - all the opportunities in the world and you're thinking of settling down and having a child. I just don't get it.

ps...it's ok to WANT,just don't GET.

There's nothing wrong with haveing a baby
but at your age your too young. and what if you guys don't last... with my boyfriend I always wanted to have his baby but then the next week we broke up but thankfully were back togther and I dont' want to have a baby just yet espically if im young and have to look for the support of others. and its like your only 14 . guys will come in out of your life instead of a baby why don't you guys get a animal to take care of its like haveing a baby and at 14 you don't have a job to support the baby I think you should wait and see where it goes.
hope this helps

Having a baby is A LOT of responsibility. I'm 17. I have many friends who are already parents, and more than half of them aren't with their baby's father. It changes your lifestyle so much. Such as, how will you support the baby? I've wanted a baby very much,but seeing how my friends struggle to get someone to baby sit when they want to go out changed my mind. I say you wait until you're at least 17, and if you and this guy are still together and know things will last, then maybe take the chance.

I guaranatee you if you have this baby, the father isn't going to stick with you.. it nots because he's a jerk, but because you both are young...
when you are young, people tend to not know what they want, and not figure out who they truly are...
focus on school.. not a boyfriend!!!
focus on more important things in life...
your boyfriend isn't everything... you may love now, but several years from now you might not even be with him... why because you are still growing up.. and personally you are going to be constantly changing..
what you like now, you may not like it several years from now..

I remember when I was 14, and the guys I like then, I sure don't like them now..
focus on school, friends, family.. thats important..
remember in life there is no guarantees!! he may propose to you now.. but several years from now, you would be divorce.. wondering why did you get involve with him in the first place...
dont have a kid.. wait.. be a kid...

It's not weird some cultures actually allow this, but its not easy at 14 either, My best friend is female, she got pregnent at 15 and she had to grow up really fast, why not enjoy your teen years a while before you decide on such a permanent decision, I had my daughter when I was 20, and I could not imagine raising her at 14, Its alotta work, alotta fun too but the resposibilitie is huge, not to mention that at 14 love can be decieving.

WOW A BBY girl you TO YUNG 2 HAVE A BBY... MA friend HAD HER BBY AT 15 AND SHE REALLY REGRETS what SHE DID BUT SHE STILL LOVE HER BBY... GROW UP, BE MATURE, FIND A JOB, AND DEN you KAN MAYBE HAVE A BBY... you STILL YUNG THO you don't want to RUIN your LIFE LIKE that...

why ask advice if you arent gonna care what people say really.

I am 14 and I want a baby. So do I what to do?

Go to bed with a male and have sex. Do this frequently for a month and you are almost certain to become pregnant.

In nine months (when you are 15) you will have a baby. It won't be a toy that you can discard when times for its attention aren't convenient for you. It will be demanding and will tax your time and attention.

You will have to drop out of school to give the necessary attention to your child (unless you have a very loving mother who is willing and able to assist you) and you will find that the lack of a high school diploma will come back to haunt you.

You will also find that having a baby interferes with your social life. A lot of your friends will disappear because you and they will be living in different worlds and you no longer fit into their social scene.

Then we come to your boy friend. He either becomes less interested in you because a child doesn't fit into his plans and social life, or he attempts to fulfill his role as a father by getting a job (at the expense of further education) and providing for his new family.

Because of his lack of a good education he may be required to take second-rate jobs. Maybe his income alone won't be sufficient for the needs of the family so you will be required to work too which will create hardships for the child and will lead to family (relationship) problems between you and and your boy friend.

Then there's the possibility down the road that your boy friend comes to the conclusion that he has bitten off more than he can chew and he leaves (deserts) you and the child.

Or maybe as the child is growing you and/or your boy friend take it out on the child for the fact that you've missed out on some of the best times of your lives by having a child prematurely.

True, you, and maybe even your boy friend, may think right now that you and he are able to work things out and overcome all obstacles. That's a nice dream but the facts and life are against the two of you at such young ages and lack of worldly experience.

The two of you would be many times better off if you wait until you are in your early twenties. That really isn't so long a wait and it does give both of you a lot more time to get to know each other and life itself.

We often want what we want, right now! But, if we get it right now we often times aren't really ready for it.

Demonstrate your maturity by giving it time and growing in those ways and with those lessons that are going to serve you for the rest of you're lives -- which will be a very long time.

To sum it up, quit being selfish. Think about what's best for that potential human being's NEEDS -- not what simply satisfies your current WANTS.

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        And maybe lessen the cares in your way;
        And also, too, to help you to know,
        That in knowing you, many others grow!
 
 

no. wait until your 18 or 21 to have a baby your wayyy to young to have a baby.

um not stupid but umm I cant swear on this site so I hope you get the point. Your bouyfriend???...um is actually not stupid but a damn good munipulator. your 14 so im going out on a whim to gues that hes you first boy friend. oh and well 14 um you should be int slumber parties and make up not sex and marriage. You only fgot one life, you rally want to ruin it so early with a child and a husband at 14? if your boyfriend loves you and I doubt he truley does hewould wait until your both responsible and fully 100% ready.

Please leave me a comment when you get this to see if my advice helped.

Are you kidding me?... I need to explain that babies come with lots of responsibilities, Im a teen mother with the farther... I lost all my friends moved in with him, we fight to pay the bills im two years behind in school and going back next year . I'm going to get it done and get a good job but at 14... I wasn't thinking of having a baby I was thinking of other stupid things like - drugs and drinking. Id advice not to do that. But what Im trying to say it I've had a pretty rough life , When I was fifteen I got pregnant on accident and my mother told me to get an abortion I listened and lost my twins... Ill forever wonder what if... and the pain of going through that you wont ever wanna go through ! Also I never got over that so I got pregnant that sumemr I turned sweet sixteen, I didnt even get my licence before I had a baby... You know how weird that is? .. you are supposed to do certain things in your life like stages, dont jump all of them, take your time and learn from your mistakes. take in what your mom , dad and everything important says to you trust me you'll regret if you dont... pregnancy isn't the funest thing either, its neat but being young its hard... and if you get stretch marks thats another thing that could happen. there is so much, attached ... Once your a mother your a mother for life, you feed your baby every 2 to 3 hrs... think about that, every 2 to 3 hrs, forget about runnning in the store for a few mins, you gotta get the baby out hold her walk in , forget about movies, because a baby cant go to a movie, they need attention love, support .. diapers - diapers cost 12-17$ a pack ! and trust me they go through packs like we go through toilet paper. if u've read this Im just giving the best advice . ENJOY BEING YOUNG - you only have one life to live... Being 14 is the best year you'll miss it when your older, and you don't know if this guy will even stick around.

-monique

You're too young. Even if you're admitting your stupid that is BAD! How do you think the baby would grow up with a mother that got pregnant at 14. How would you support the baby? You think you want a baby but honestly, they're not as great as you think. My cousin had a baby last year and we can tell how much she's changed. For the good but also she's severely exhausted and tired all the time and she had bad complications with the birth. Not only your own safety but the babies you'd most likely have a miscarriage. You're only 14, your body isn't even fully developed. Boy's brains develop a LOT slower than girls. Who's to say years from now he's going to leave you to raise the baby on your own. All these girls these days want a baby but really they have no idea what kind of hell it's like to have a baby along with a school life.

Okay, I didn't even bother to read any of the other responses. I'm just going to say do you think having a child at the age of 14 is smart? You're a child yourself, you can't get a job and my guess is neither can your boyfriend. You may love your boyfriend, but trust me, there will be several men come and go. You shouldn't have a baby just because you want one at this age...you have no means to support it and you would basically be giving the best years of your life away.

are you crazyb no way! stupid girl!!!

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