Why is my boyfriend always looking at other girls?

I think my boyfriend hates me ! he is always looking at other girls and it makes me feel like I'm ugly I tried to tell him , and he blew up in my face what do I do !

hmm.. Well sorry if I sound mean but, if he's checking out other girls he probably doesn't love you. He may still like you but probably more of a friend level. I'm sure your not ugly, if you were then you wouldn't be able to get a boyfriend. If he blew up in your face maybe he was having a bad day. I'd say that you tell him it to his face not over the phone or have a friend do it and say somthing like ' I notice you look at other girls. It makes me fel horrible that you would look at other girls when you have a girlfriend.' then if worse comes to worse. I guess you could just ask him if he hates you. I'm sure he doesn't because hate is a sin, anyways sorry if I sounded mean or anything.
- Erin

It's either one of the two: you either have insecurity issues and are paranoid that he is checking out other girls in front of you because you lack confidence and security within the relationship -OR- he is guilty and is aware that you've caught him red-handed looking at other girls. I've been accused of looking at other guys by a very insecure ex-boyfriend..but the accusations were false. I was constantly questioned and ridiculed..and consequently I did blow up in his face because I couldn't take it anymore. Constantly questioning someone without reason will only raise issues regarding possessiveness, jealousy, animosty, etc. The next time you catch him looking at another girl, you should ask him (with a neutral and non-judgmental tone of voice), 'Do you think she's attractive?' or say 'She's pretty'. By saying these things (even though you may not think the chick is a bonified hottie), you will catch him off guard and be able to observe his responses, reactions, and any hesitations to your comments. If he becomes defensive, just reassure him that you weren't implying anything or accusing him of anything..you just wanted his opinion. You need to CALMLY bring up the issue without directly accusing him of anything. He'll know you caught him. In addition, you don't want to start a knock-down drag out fight over every girl he looks at. That's exhausting. Subtle questions will prevent arguments and psychologically throw him off track..because trust me..he won't expect that kind of response out of you. In addition, you may get the answer you're looking for. Then CALMLY inform him that his behavior concerns you and you both need to work out the issue together so arguments can be avoided. CALMLY reassure him that you care for him but his behavior raises a lot of questions, and you just need some reassurance. Nonetheless, if he is indeed looking at other women in front of you (enough for you to notice), it's disrespectful to you. If he cared about your feelings, he'd change his behavior. His eyes should be on you. He has a girlfriend, but he's not dead. I understand that. There are ways of quickly glancing at someone without your partner noticing. Good luck!

This is my advice: get out of the relationship with him. He probably feels bad about himself and just wants you to feel just as unhappy and insecure. From what you describe of him, he is not worth someone as special as you, and does not deserve your love. Plus, him getting angry at you for asking him a question means that he will probably try to abuse you in some way in the future.

I know that you probably love him, but it is better for you if you can find someone who treats you the way that you should be, that his eyes are only able to see you in that special way. if you still need someone to talk to, you can always fun mail me.

I hope this helps you.

He does not hate you only likes to watch all the girls on the Earth. Many boys are the same. You know, for boys girls are nice, like horses or other nince creatures.

My ex used to do that ALL the time. I mean a glance is fine, but when they look like they are undressing them with their eyes, thats being disrespectful! Defending himself by blowing up in your face..now thats down right rude!

Do what I started doing..staring at guys so he would notice. Sucks when the shoes on the other foot.

thats just a normal guy

Guys will always look at attractive girls. That is their nature. I go through it all the time. I tend to throw out a joke at my boyfriend or get revenage and stare at a cute guy...that ALWAYS gets them. A taste of their own medicine. He gets very jealous and its so funny seeing him having ants in his pants basically. Doing something like that will let him know how you feel. But to be honest its perfectly normal for a guy to do that. Don't be scare or nervous. If your man really cares for you and loves you; he won't do anything to harm you or break your heart. Good Luck!

Checking out other people has nothing to do with his feelings for you. That's like saying that if I think my cat is cute, I should never look at any other cat. It just does not work that way. People are visual. We like to look at things that look good to us. It sounds like the real issue here is your insecurity.