How can i get over my ex who really hurt me?

I need help getting over my ex. He left me for another woman and they ran off to Vegas, and now they're living there together. But the problem is that I still love him. And I feel so spineless because I know that if he came back, that I would take him...

back. We were together for 8 years, and we have two wonderful kids together. So we were practically married. We weren't talking about separating or anything, we hardly ever really fought either, one day he was telling me he loved me, and that he would never leave us, and literally the next day he was gone, and then i found out he ran off to Vegas with this girl. This happened 5 months ago, and I am still so confused about what all happened. He tells me he still loves me, and that he realized his mistake, and wants to be with me and the kids, but then he says that he could never leave her! So i don't know what to do. Do I still hang on to this guy in hope? Or do I let him go? I've dated a few guys after he's left, but they didn't work because i guess they can tell that i'm still in love with him. And after they fail, I just go back to wanting to be with my ex again. Please help me!! I'm an emotional wreck!!

No, let him go. Don't hang on to this jerk. If he loved you he would have never lefty. And now he's saying he wants to be with you and your kids, but he can't leave h? What kind of bullsh*t is that. I mean, i'm sure he does love his kids and still loves you, but not like a firey love. Not to hurt you more than you're hurting now, but it's true. You know yourself if he truely loved you with a passion he would be able to leave her. See, what's going to happen when he gets kids by her and hhe still wants you back and then he leaves her for some other chick. You know? I'm not saying that will happen, but it could. You never know. He left you and your kids, it's time to move on Hun. He's not worth it. Forgive and forget. That's all you can do. Forgive him. Not for him, but for you. So you can move on with your life and you and your children can be happy. I may not have gone through this, but I watched my mother and father be together 13 freaking years and then he leaves My mother, my brother, my 2 year old sister, and I for some chick in West Virginia. I watched my mother ball her eyes out every waking minute for the past 7 years. Don't let it get to you. I know it hurts but as I said, forgive and forget. Your children don't need to see their mother hurting. Trust me, it's brutal. I was only 6 when my father left. And to this day it hurts seeing my mother hurt. Just let it go.

Let's see....you're in love with a man who fathered two children, but wouldn't marry their mother, then ran of with some chick to vegas and he would never leave her although he calls you and says he loves and wants you back? And you still love him and want him back? WTF is the matter with you? Are you that lonely, that desperate?

Whatever happened to you that caused you to have so little value for yourself--it's time to get over it before you pass it on to your children and they marry the same kinds of jerks.

Sue this man for child support and sole custody of your children and go about your merry life and that's it and that's all.

Do not date, focus on your kids and improving your life, dammit. You obviously don't give a crap about how a man treats you--I'd worry seriously about the kind of man you'd get into a relationship with next. Well, he molested my children and is an alcoholic, but he loves me, waaaaaah.

Come on, time to act like an adult and protect you and your children.