How can I tell my mom I'm 14 and pregnant?

I am 14 years old I turn 15 in july and im pregnant my boyfriend is 19 and our familys get along good but im scared to even tell my mom because im afraid of what she is going to tell me

You know that you have no choice here but to tell her. She's going to find out soon enough. You will disappoint her and she'll be very sad, but....you're the one that made the choice when you decided to have sex withuot a condom or birth control.

I'm guessing your mom will have only herself to blame in many ways. I mean, you're only 15 and on the internet with the name 'tata69' with a posed butt picture as your avatar. Obviously she doesn't have a big hand in supervising your activities to make sure you're on the right track with things.

Put the child up for adoption and move on with your life, WITH birth control.

TELL HER!!! SHE WILL UNDERSTAND BUT SIT HER DOWN AND TELL HER IM ONLY 13 BUT LOOK ITS NOT GOOD TO KEEP SECRETS TRUST ME !!!!!

It's NOT going to be easy, let's establish that...but this is something you can't just hide...now you are responsible for not only yourself, but another
human being...that's right, your pregnant, you have a child inside you living right now, and you need to face up and be responsible. My mother always
told me that if I wanted to make adult decisions, I made them on my own, and I dealt with them on my own. It was hard, and when I finally told her that
I had sex, she flipped out, but she's a MOTHER...that's what a mother is supposed to do, and if she doesn't, then she doesn't need children.
Your mother only wants to protect you, and since you went behind her back anyways, you might as well fess up and take the blame.

Just sit her down calmly...remember, you're the one who did wrong, so don't start yelling...and just say it..'mom I'm pregnant'
If you can't talk to her right away...make time ALONE, to sit and talk to her...tell her ahead of time that it extremely important, and that you want to be
fully alone to speak with her on the issue...

Don't fight back...take the yelling, take the punishment (if given)...if you didn't want this, then you should have worn a condom...
There are plenty of places to get them, like Planned Parenthood...It's the best place, becuase they DO NOT call your parents..
Good luck..and If you need to talk...I'm here

<3jaymie

You decided to act like adults, now you must BE adults and do the very best for that baby....there are plenty of Loving families out there who would provide that precious one with a chance at a quality life....you'll all be in my thoughts and prayers.

telling your mom you are pregnant at 15 is really hard to do. Im 16 almost 17 and 4 months ago I had to tell my mom I was pregnant. All I did was I took her back in my room and I sat her down, and I said that I have something to tell you I told her not to interupt me because this is very hard to tell me and I asked her if we could be adults about this. So I told her and she did go nuts and she was like that for the first month of my pregnancy, but no sh is ok now that she knows that she is going to have another grandson. But hun you should tell your mom right away.

First of all... GOOD JOB! your pregnant & just fu*ked up your teenage life
Second of all... 14 year old girls shouldnt even be having s3x! even with a condom!
AND hes 19!!
hes going to be in a lot of trouble!
what the fu*k were you thinking?!
Tell your fu*king parents how stupid you could get!
I dont give a fu*k if im being mean.
im just pissed of how many teenage girls get pregnant these fu*king days!
ughh... -.- sorry
but this is the 5th time I had to tell someone this.

Honey, I'm sorry to hear that. Honestly a girl whom is like my little sister is in the same EXACT spot! She is 14 and her boyfriend well ex now is 19. She was scared of everyone knowing since she is so young, she didn't know how to tell her mom but she told her dad. Does your mom know you guys have had s**? Do you know if she would press charges? I'm not going to be like everyone else and judge you for your decision. I won't say you can't make it either...You can do anything you put your mind to honey! build up the strength and courage and I know you'll do the right thing! If you need to talk honey. I'm here for you. I realise I dont know you but I give everyone a chance, and Im not a B*** like others on here seem to be!

hey, im no expert, im just a guy. but I know you can, I've seen it before. im not going to make the sun shine, its going to be hard. but if you can tell her, you can do anything. just be carful next time. and (im not assuming, but sometimes people think this) your not a dirty slut, or anything like that. sex is a natural thing, and it will happen sooner or later.

ok, first off, 'sandycandyluvsu' tha was a VERY b*itchy hing to say, I mean, really, the purpose of this website is to help people, not to put them down. I mena, this poor girl is going through enoguh already as it is. please dont add to her stress. its not easy...
oh, and girl, I know your only 13-14, but getting pregnent was your fault, and I am just hoping you will act responsibly. :] umm, well, I would suggest telling your mother alone, and tell her not to interupt, it would be easyer.. I mean, read kelly90's advice, this may possible help you!
:]
x good luck x
youwill be in my prayers, oh and if you need ANYTHING, just funmail me, k?
good luck!
-coup

ok...I know your going through a rough time but you have to tell your parents and that boy is going to go to jail he's an adult

and if they decide to not keep the baby PUT HIM UP FOR ADOPTION but DO NOT I repeat DO NOT have an abortion

meessage me if you need further advice

good luck

This is your chance in life to change. You can look at this as the biggest mistake of your life, or as a blessing. I know you're only 14, but maybe this was suppose to happen, maybe this just gave you a reason to turn your life around. Babies are always a blessing!!!

You need to tell her as soon as possible. She will be mad because she knows what you are about to go through and trust me, you can't imagine how much you are about to go through.

Your life is about to become very, very hard. Trust me, I know! But this isn't about me. You may want to think about adoption. But if you truly feel like you can provide this baby with the life it deserves then you can only make that call. Being a young, single mother is hard and scary. When your baby isn't feeling well and won't stop screaming and you've had very little sleep you will start to feel like you might lose it. You will never be able to go and do what you want because your life will revolve around your baby. It's not going to be fun and perfect like you are probably imagining it. At times you will feel like a horrible mother and then you will wish you could turn back time and had made better choices. Babies are a wonderful blessing, but you need to be ready to receive that blessing or you won't see being a mother as a positive thing.

Good luck, I wish you and your baby the best!

its probably a little late, but I would just like to say, I am 14, we are learning about abortion in religous studies, and I think that there is nothing wrong with abortion, its a quick painless way to get rid of the baby who possibly isnt wanted, so I think the esiest way of regaining you teenage life would be to have an abortion, you can even go about these without telling parents!

The longer you keep it away from her...
the worst it will be.
Just tell her, you dont need that kind of stress
while pregnant, take care of the situation as
soon as possible. Good luck.

did you ever think about that before you had sex with him?? and if your really pregnant your old enough to be your child's sister!! he is older than you and more experienced!! he isnt going to be the one that is going to be going thru labor?!!! you should explain to your mom that you really like him and want to be with him but..seriously I cant make you do anything but its kind of young to be pregnant at 14!! its not even legal!!

well I wish you the best of luck

Diana

well I went through the same thing when I was 15 years old and I never told my mom till I was 20 weeks pregnant I was so scared and the dad didnt want the baby but then he changed his mind and it is way better if you tell your mom now that your pregnant because you need a lot of support from her nad form the baby daddy but your mom knows more than him so just write her a letter saying that you need something important to tell her and then when you are going to tell her take a friend with you and if she gets shock get out of the house for a little time about 30 mins or 1 hour then come back and sit back down with her and tell her to listen to you then you listen to her but never leave school no matter what happens

well good luck with everthing hope eveything goes well bye take care

vanessa

girl I know how you feel I am only 15 and I am pregnant. I am almost 2months but I haven't told my mom. my because is also preg. but she is 16, I don't think that she will be mad at me but the real truth is me an my man has been trying 4a while. I no it sounds crazy but I am realy mature. she always told me not to get preg. till I was financally stable we both have jobs. !!!YOU CAN JUST WALK UP TO HER AND SAY 'MOM I KNOW WHAT IM ABOUT TO TELL YOU WILL BREAK YOUR HEART BUT THANGS HAPPEN AND I CAN'T CHANGE. I HOPE THAT YOU WILL SUPPORT ME ALL THE WAY I AM SORRY BUT I WISHED YOU CAN FORGIVE ME..!!! OR WRITE HER A NIACE LETTER

Young and Pregnant? How to Tell Your Parents
Young and pregnant? How do you tell your parents? Finding yourself pregnant at a young age can be very stressful, especially when it comes time o tell your parents. If you are like most people you fear that your parents will become angry, hurt or even reject you completely. Nobody likes to feel this way. So breaking the news to them can be very intimidating and just plain scary. However, there are a few thing you can do to lessen the impact of this task.

First, remember that children are a gift, not a burden. There’s so many misconceptions about giving birth at a young age. Having a child will NOT “destroy” your future. You can still go to school and even attend college. The only difference is that you have to try harder! And after all, nothing in life that is worth living for is easy, right? So don’t get in a slump thinking that your “life is over” or that this is “the end of the road”, because it’s not!

Second, take into consideration that you are now blessed with a life long companion. Friends come and go, relationships may even end but a child will always be there for you. Think of the good times ahead – trips to the zoo, first day of school, hearing, “I love you” for the first time…it’s the most rewarding thing ever, trust me. Nothing you will ever achieve in your life will hold rank to the first time you se your son or daughter smile, hold a frog or open a Christmas present.

Third, lessen the impact. Now that you have at least looked at some ways to be optimistic about the situation you need to take control of the situation. Simply saying, “Mom, I’m pregnant” isn’t going to help anything. Instead of focusing the conversation on the negative issues, turn the conversation positive.

Before you break the news take a serious look at your life. Make a list of the great things that will come out of your pregnancy – mom will be a grandma!

Examine yourself and write down your game plan. Do you work? If so how much money can you put away before the baby is born? Showing your parent(s) a game plan will show that you are responsible – and that’s what they really want to see. Even take trips to the store and record costs of baby needs like diapers, formula, etc. See if there’s classes in your area on parenting. Use websites like freecycle.org to get totally free baby stuff – cribs, strollers, toys, clothing! This is a site that is used world wide and there’s no fee to join at all! You’d be amazed at the great things people in your city give away for FREE!

Once you have all your information, then it is time to have a conversation with your parent(s). Try and pick a time that they are most relaxed and the easiest to talk to. Begin your conversation by reminding them of your accomplishments and your goals. Always start off on a positive note.

Expect anything. Parents have just as many thoughts as you have had about the topic. You may initially get a bad reply. Don’t let it get you down. Just try and use a “switch” technique during the conversation. You can do this by reinforcing the goods.

For example, if your parent says, “Well, there’s no way you can afford a child.”

Refer to your notes and explain that you have already taken finances into consideration. Tell them about freecycle.org and other resources available to you. Explain that you can get government assistance if needed.

Or if your parent says, “So I guess you’re just going to drop out of school?”

Tell them that you have no intention on dropping out. You may have to take night classes or if you are in college you can take online classes, but you plan to stay in school. Reassure them that you want what’s best for yourself as well as your child and that you realize how important education is.

Never try and “add fuel to the fire” during a difficult conversation. Using sarcasim, swearing or stomping off yelling, “You don’t love me!” will get you nowhere. If you feel that the conversation is going south just take a deep breath and think of the good things.

Surprisingly, the majority of parents will come around in a matter of days or weeks. They have to get over the initial shock just like you did when you discovered you were pregnant. You may even be surprised how supportive they become!

THAT WOULD BE THE BEST ADVICE IT IS GOING TO REALLY HELP ME B-because IM PREGNANT AND IM ONLY 14 AND TURNING 15 IM SO SCARED TO TELLHER! BUT FUN MAIL ME AND WE CAN TALK!!!

dose your mom like your boyfriend if she dose it should not be that hard she might try to kill him but she want she'll be mad for about a week or two but then she'll came around it's relly nort that hard to tell her

Yoo shood sit yr mum down and explain what happened .. yr mum will b shocked and disappointed but shewill be there for you because she loves you.

and when yu have had yr baby you shood think about being put on the pill or something just in case.
it doesnt help that peepo will think omg another young life ruined to me its none of their business what age yu got preganant .
I dont judge peepo about things like this I know a girl hoo is younger than you that is having a baby.
as yu know its illegal t have sex under 16 bu if the guy is over 16 and yr under 16 that is classed as rape in uk and the guy could get put on the sex offendors list , it doesnt matter if yu gave consent etc;

ANY WAY GOOD LUCK AND YOOHR MUM WILL CME ROUND AND SHE WILL HELP YO THROUGH THIS X