I need a serious answer please!!

I started having an affair with this man..I think that I want to be with him, but the problem is that we're both married and our spouses and us are all friends..I think that he loves me..on their anniversary instead of being with his wife he was up my house with me..he keeps telling me that good things comes to those who wait but I'm not really sure if he really plans on being with me..he does come and call me every chance he can get..he even begs to come down his house with his wife there when he can't get out just so he can be near me..I'm just so afraid of falling in love with him without knowing for sure he really loves me..help me to know what to do..we're just so great together..we have so much in common and are so happy when we're together..I can have fun with him doing absolutley nothing..I dont know what it is about him

Since you and your spouses are all friends your situation is the best to stay almost as close and as many time to each other as you like it. I think it is important to keep in mind that you can ruin your present life if you are too selfish or unguarded. So, if that man has his annversary with his wife YOU should send him home saying that the other day is better to see each other, since you have so many occasions for that, not only that anniversary day. Even,if you get really close to each other you should keep your affair within the frameworsk of the present set-up: both of you has his own family. Enjoy your friendship or love, but do not ruin your marriage and that nice circle of your friends. If you do this, later you two will remain alone, and slowly you will hate each other because of the lost paradise.

1st of all... What are you doing? You are the type of women we hate. You are cheatin' on your husband. Why not just end it with him, or get a divorce? I mean, do you have kids? Is your marriage failing? Because if it is, it doesnt give you the right to go and ruin someone elses. Someone who has a family and if there are any problems could be worked out. You need to do something about this.... You WILL GET CAUGHT!!!!! Believe it.... It will come right back to you....It can take along time and you think it will be ok, but reality..... IT WONT! Girl, 'WHAT GOES AROUND, COMES AROUND'.... TWICE AS HARD..... THINK ABOUT IT!!!!

TORONTO, ONTARIO

well first of all im not ruining a happy marriage..he dsn't want to be with her either but right now we're just not in a position to leave..as for getting caught your right it probably will happen..yes we do have kids thats the only reason we haven't ended our marriages yet..me being the kind of women you hate if his wife wasn't such a b**** he wouldn't have to go and be with someone else..thank you for the advise..

well first of all im not ruining a happy marriage..he dsn't want to be with her either but right now we're just not in a position to leave..as for getting caught your right it probably will happen..yes we do have kids thats the only reason we haven't ended our marriages yet..me being the kind of women you hate if his wife wasn't such a b**** he wouldn't have to go and be with someone else..thank you for the advise..

Stop the affair now, you are not supposed to have feelings for one another, end it now....