I need a guys help here!

I have a boyfriend that has failed me in the past and says he has change but I doubt it sometimes... hes lucky to have me and he knows it...do you guys thinnk he will still act behind my bacck?..and why would he,if he has it all..

Well like most things in life, this is a two-way street. He could have changed, but he may not have. The only person who can really assess this situation is you and if you are unsure, you will have to find out for yourself. However, I will try to give you some advice in relation to this.

Seeing as your partner has let you down, he is definitely a lucky man seeing as you have taken him back and trusted him enough to do so. If you are uncertain that he is going to live up to his promises, you need to talk to him (and by talk I mean not simply ask). Think about all of the promises he has made and all the things you expect him to have improved on. Sit your partner down and explain to him what your expectations are and how the past has influenced your pessimism here.

He must understand that your pessimism is justified. He has let you down before and cannot blame you for being cautious/ concerned. Tell him how his actions have impacted on you and ask him specifically in what ways he has changed. Aside from that, consider your expectations in him and then ask him if he can support each of those expectations (eg. being faithful). You have accepted him, but he needs to prove himself and so there is absolutely no need to feel guilty/ awkward in relation to asking him about these things.

You need to make things clear to him too. Tell him that if he is to betray your trust again or let you down again, you will have no hesitation in leaving him. He must understand that you are a person too and that he cannot hurt your feelings and expect to get away with it. At this point he has to earn your trust again and he has to understand that this is the case. Just because you have taken him back, does not mean he has the right to start getting comfortable again. He has to demonstrate to you that he has changed.

Obviously no one here can tell you whether or not he has changed; we can only hope that he has. Talk to him and open up about what you expect and what ou need from him. All the best !

Star,
Try not and take him too serious. If you like him go ahead and hangout with him and watch his actions..Not what he says. In this case you want to REALLY pay attention to his actions without him knowing what you are doing. If you like him tell him OK you will hangout again..But YOU secretly just watch his actions...When he does not know what you are doing..He (through his actions) will never lie to you. Good-luck!!
Familycoach

I say you trust him because I have the same exact problem I messed up once and my girl wont forgive me she doesnt trust me at all and the gay part bout it is I really dont do stuff behind her back she asked me to stop doin drugs and I love her so I stopped and its the hardest thing in the world and her always tellin me im a liar doesnt make it any easier so I say have a lil bit of trust in him and let him earn the rest