I made big mistake

Im 16 years old and around Thanksgiving of 07, I made a big huge mistake. I slept with my brothers girlfriend by accident. I mean not accident but it was a mistake. I didnt mean to, it kind of just happened and I dont know if I should tell him. Me and...

her said that we should just keep it to ourselves but its getting harder everyday because I feel bad about it. It was stupid of me and im never doing that again but I dont know if he would understand that if I tell him. He is not only my brother, he is my best friend too so I dont want him to hate me or nothing. but I dont know if I should keep on walking around like it never happened. They are both older than me by like 3 years and they have been dating since I was like 14 and he tells me he loves her and how he wants to be with her forever and that makes it so much harder to tell him, I feel really bad. I mean I dont want to mess up their relationship because she dont want to lose him but its killing me to keep this from him. I mean we are young so is it really that big of a deal??? please help me I dont know what to do

You have to tell him.
It wasn't an accident, or anything like that. You cant just accidently sleep with someone.
If you didn't WANT to, you could have said 'no'. He obviously is going to be mad, I don't blame him. But, he needs to know. What if shes slept with other people? I feel sorry for your brother, cant trust his girlfriend or his own brother. How sad.

well if he really loves her and wants to be with her forever then it is vital that you tell him. he can't keep being led on by this girl that he thinks is the love of his life when in fact she is a cheater. if you really love your brother you would have to tell him.

then what do I do if he really gets mad at me. I know people probably dont understand the situation. It WAS a mistake, I know it wasnt an accident and I dont know why I did it,I feel stupid for it, I really truly dont know what I was thinking, I just dont want him to hate me you know. Like what do I say to him, how do I come out and say it? should I tell her im going to tell him or should I just tell him??? and she's not a bad person, you know, I know she is not sleeping with other people, its a real confusing situation to explain. She dont sleep around or nothing and I dont do this type of stuff all the time to my brothers, this is the first time something like this has ever happened. I mean I know if I dont say nothing then they could happy but if I do say something then its going to mess everything up. I dont want to be the one to ruin his happiness over something that was meaningless and a one time ordeal. you know??

first, you should talk to his girlfriend and tell her that it's eating you alive.
then take it from there.. funmail me if you need anything else. (:

you obviously love him if you feel bad, so I htink you should tell him. he might be mad at you for a while, but he should come to understand that it was better to tell him the truth than to hide it from him. it sounds like you have a close realtionship, so he should forgive you in time. bote the bullet and go for it. it isn't the worst thing you'll have to go through in your life. hope this helped a bit

Do NOT talk to the girlfriend first, because she will try to talk you out of it. Talk to him, tell him, he deserves to know. You and your brother are family, and will be bonded together forever. This is an outsider that will cheat on him with his own family member. He doesn't need her. He really doesn't need a brother like you either, but he's stuck with you. Tell him, get it over with, take your punishment (he will be furious), and try to work it out. You were both in the wrong.

well thank you for your help, I decided that im going to tell him by the end of the week, im just going to do it, so if I die you all know who killed me

Good luck tellin your brother. I think that you are sincere when you say that you are sorry. Everybody makes mistakes and the best way to move on and really accept your fault is tell him. He wont kill you and if you think he will then maybe you shouldnt tell him. He IS gong to be mad at you, no doubt about that. you gotta get urself prepared for that, but you gotta stay on him though, dont let him be angry hoping he will get over it, stay in his face, let him know you made a mistake and you are very sorry for it. good luck, I hope you dont die

If I was your brother, you'd be in big trouble...I probably wouldn't take it very well...but, my girlfriend wouldn't be my girlfriend anymore either. These things don't happen by accident...or you didn't mean to?...what? You were walking past her tripped and it slipped in? come on man!!!

I am a man and I also f*cked my brother g/f many many years ago. And it was not a problem for me to never tell this to anybody. This is the first time I mention it at all. Males has to keep shut up. What you did maybe seems to you like something terrible thing, but in fact it is quite frequent. The only reason could be telling this to you brother if you ask his agreement to repeat this in the future. There are thing in the past what it is better to bury for forever. That happened because the stars were in that constellation. And this may happen again when your borther will sleep with your g/f. The life may bring uncommon situations for us.