I'm torn!! help!!

Ok. I have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs/hlf. We have a somewat good relationship, but our fights our insane!!! now. I just think its gross and too dangerous I dont want to have problems with my butt in the future. He does not seem to understand that,...

at all.

Anyway, he's gotten a litte fat, his belly has gotten really big, which is not such a big deal to me because I still love him. But I hate the fact that he makes no effort in looking good for me. I workout and keep in shape for him( I'm pettite), but he thinks his belly is funny. he shakes is around and making dumb jokes and thats really starting to piss me off. Actually everything he does is starting to piss me off now days. I hate the fact he drinks 5 cans of coke a day, he does not stop even when I tell him its bad for his kidney. I thought he was going to give up his immature ways, but it doesnt seems like he ever will, and that ticks me off!!! What can I do?. I dont know how long I can stand this. I'm already day dreaming about breaking up. But I dont want to hurt him. I'm torn!!! Help!!!1

It sounds to me that he feels so comfortable with you becos you've been together for so long, he doesnt need to impress you anymore.
I know what you are saying, I like staying in shape too, whether im single or with someone, you just feel better about yourself when you look and feel good.
But some people, like your boyfriend, dont worry that much about their appearance, esp if they have been with the same partner for this long.
Maybe try speaking to him about it, becos there must be some attaction to make a relationship work, nothing worse than being with someone you are no longer attracted to becos it causes worse problems in the long run. Mention some things to him to open his eyes that you make the effort to look damn fine for him, you deserve the same!

U could ask him to join the gym w/u and say its cause you just want to spend time together doing something fun and healthy since lately the health in this country is out of control and staying ahead of the game would be good for both of you internally and mentally...OR you could just break up w/him but only if your heart doesnt want to be with him. OR, you could just accept who hes become and love him unconditionally and just hope he changes.
I have found that you can never change a man. He has to want it from within. Btw, a little weight gain isnt something to harp on or get irritated about. The physical isnt the only important value in a relationship. And I know you go to the gym and stay in shape but if he never really ever did before, then dont expect a sudden change too fast. you guys could go walking along the beach every saturday evening. Suggest outdoor stuff so he doesnt feel nagged and it also wont come off hurtful in any way. About the coke thing, that will come from himself. I am w/someone who loves coke and drops about 3-4cans a day and I hate it too but I find that the only way to get him to not drink so much is by getting him to do things outside and away from the coke. Walking the dog 2x a day, talking about health in general instead of saying stop drinking the coke etc...its like telling a smoker that they are going to die from lung cancer...they still dont get it you know...u cant win but you can educate.
If nothing works, then maybe you need to be with someone more like urself.