Should i date this girl or suggest just being friends?

I've been in this situation before and I ended up dating the girl... one of the many bad decisions in my life that I've made. I recently hooked up with a girl I used to work with. And last night I took her to the movies on a little date (Good Luck Chuck...

was an amazing movie, by the way, lol). I like her and I WOULD date her. However, there are certain things in my life, at this moment in time, that make me have no interest in dating: I don't have the time or the money. I have too many things to focus on such as school, work and family, etc. I feel that I'd be taking advantage of her in some way by not being the best boyfriend I can be. I mean, it's still too early for us to be considered boyfriend/girlfriend, but I feel that it will, most likely, head in that direction.

There are times when I really want a relationship and there are other times I don't (where all I want to do is hook-ups). And when I'm in a relationship, I want out cause I either feel like they are not the one for me, after a few months, or it just takes too much out of me to the point where I'm sick (literally or figuratively) thinking about it all the time. For example, there were points during today where I just felt sick and I had a kind of gagging sensation in my throat thinking about being in a relationship.

This girl is pretty, a lot of fun (so far... but I'm thinking it can get annoying to experience all the time, lol), and we have a lot to talk about (so far). Besides the problems stated previously, she is 17 and I'm 19. I'm a sophomore in college and she's a senior is high school (some may see this as a problem, others may not). She's of age to have s3x legally with me, but that's not really crossing my mind at this time because it's too early and plus I'm not like that... Anymore (I've grown up, so to say).

So my question now is, should I date her, should I suggest being just friends or should I suggest that we just openly date, still be able to see other people, and see where things go (like getting to know one a little better)? If the latter, then how long before I make a decision?

If you have any questions before you answer or would like me to expand on certain points then feel free to ask. Thank you!

i feel like your not ready for a relationship in general. try suggesting being friends an see how things go- because then you're not committed .. openly dating is basically friends with benifits which is probably the worst idea ever. no matter who the girl is she'll get attatched so you'll feel like youre in a relationship anyway. having a girlfriend is expensive even if she doesnt ask for anything some how you manage to run out of money.
you cant ask how long before you make a decision because its eventually up to you. people can give you advice but its if you choose to take it or not.

if i was in your situation i would focus on school and having fun. there's always time for relationships. and if it happens it happens.

I agree, it really sounds like you're just not ready to have a commited relationship at this stage in your life. Maybe you should explain to this girl basically what you have said here and let her know that you enjoy her company but you are just not ready for anything long term. Its better to explain this to her now before she falls madly in love with you. Good luck with whatever you do, just remember do what feels right, follow your heart.

I consider openly dating and friends with benefits to be two different things. You can date multiple people at a time and not not be in a friends with benefits relationship with them, but this is how I feel (Maybe I'm seeing things old fashion and you don't agree [u don't have to]). However, this is something I feel that older people do more: Date multiple people and find who you connect with more. Sure one can take it to the next level of either a relationship (where you can not see other people) or friends with benefits, but that's something I feel that someone would have to be careful about and make it clear, to the other person, what one's intentions are.

I think in this case I'm going to go with the flow for a little bit to see how things go and how I feel. If she wants to be in a relationship, I will tell her what I told you peopel here and if she understands and would still like to be in a relationship then cool, if not, then we'll just be friends. Thanks for the help!

If anybody has got anything else to say, feel free. I'm open to suggestions or criticism ( Although, I feel like I'll be critcized more, lol)

i think you should try open dating. it seems like the best thing for now. and just see which girl interests you the most, then go from there.

if you wanna ask say/ask/talk about anything just message me

Thanks, I appreciate it. : )

If you don't feel 100% ready then I think you should wait till you are, it will make the relationship so much better. I think she will understand. My main point though is
you should tell her right away what you decision is and talk to her about it or else
she might like think you are leading her on. Good luck

We're dating now and everything seems pretty fine. I mean, we're both busy with our own stuff so we see each other maybe once or twice a week. I warned about this and she seemed to understand it, but I think she's starting to realize it. But I explained to her that once this semester ends and winter break comes around, I'll see her a hell of a lot more; this semester in college just seems to be a really busy one and I'm not enjoying any part of it. But anyway, I see her once or twice a week, which is fine with me. I have my priorities and she's got hers, plus I only want to be a part of someone's life not be completely consumed by it. I think she'll understand eventually, plus she's still young so it's okay if she doesn't. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out... no big deal. I've learned to move on and I'm cool with that.

well it seems liike you dont have the tiime to be in a relatiionshi
dnt get me wrong you can stiil date but it sounds liike ur to busy for dat rite now
soo juts giive iit tiime and giive a shot WHEN UR READyyy!!to be in a realtionship
because being in a relationship takes your time and you have to give it ur all!!
so i suggest you just date riite now!!
besiides ur cute any giirl would be happy to date you=]
kk;
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If you want her to be you girlfriend!!!Firstly, you must be her FRIEND and know her VERy DEEp,then you ask her Would you be my girlfriend?