I'm majorly in love with my first cousin

I'm way past in love with my only guy cousin. I think he likes me too because he's always holding my hand. We watched a movie together and right at the beginning he reached over and grabbed my hand and hrld it through the entire movie. the only problem...

is, he's 16 and I'm 13 plus I don't know if it's right and I'm a christian so I just don't know.
PLEASE SOMEBODY RESPOND!!!,

I am 34 and have known my husband since he was 14 and I was 13. We met at the hospital where we were both doing volunteer work. We have 3 boys together and our oldest is your age! Feels strange giving advice like this. I am also a Christian, so I guess I will have a different viewpoint on this than most. Take it for what it's worth. I listen to My Chemical Romance, The Used and tons of other music that teens do, I do teen stuff with my kids and their friends. Being Christian doesn't mean you aren't allowed to have fun or something. It just means that your want to is different than many others. You strive to be better than most. You can still have fun and do that at the same time, right? You gave your heart to God and he wants you to be happy. Now then, the other subjects. There's a book you can read: Forbidden Relatives: The American Myth of Cousin Marriage (1996), anthropologist Martin Ottenheimer if you really want to get indepth on the subject. Don't forget one of our presidents was married to his cousin.... do you know who?? Okay, now let me also say that this fellow is also several years your senior. Granted it's not by much, but in puberty years, it might as well be 10 years. He's thinking of things that you aren't. Be very cautious. Also, there is a difference between love and lust - don't confuse the two. Even though I have known my husband since I was your age, I didn't know what love was until I was around 17-18. Give it time, I imagine this is the bloom of first love also known as a crush. There are so many different guys out there. I dated several more fellows and he dates several more girls before we married just to be sure we were right for each other. If you can stand the test of time, then you will know you are right for each other. Take it slow and try to be as rational as you can in your decisions. Don't be led by hormones alone. K? Good luck and hang in there. You aren't going to burn in Hell just because you like your cousin. Besides, if your home is like mine was - this fellow is most likely the only guy your able to even get close enough to to even think about dating!!! It's called lack of opportunity!!!!!

wow, ok, um, ya. Now, ive answered many questions in my day, and this is the second time ive ever seen an im in love with a cousine. Now, although i wont tihnk u will burn in hell or anyting, id advice you not to do this. Because, first of all, hes your cousine! (dont listen to what tigger put about the president, that was Franklin Delano Roosevelt and it was a distant cousine, not even related like you and him are!) And the fact that he is your cousine would be highly frowned down upon and you would be laughed at. And, i dont think your family memebers would like this either! I would advice u to just stay away, another guy will come, and trust me ull like him more and think hes better looking, however, if by the age 30 u and him are still un-wedd and have dated others go for it. But god did not make family memebers to date, he made them so we have people to fall back on when our friends arent their. Also, say what if u do date him, and then you finda out hes a real ass, sure you can break up with him, but hed still be in your family, and then it would be really akward if u tried to talk to him. Well, thats all im gonna say, and i say, good luck to the decision you make, and i hope it turns out for the best, just dont go with tiggers advice cuz u like it more, please, please, please, date other guys before u decide to take on ur cousine!

If you will notice, I wasn't advocating the relationship. Read it again and slowly! I was simply saying that her feelings weren't abnormal. Franklin D. Roosevelt, married his 5th cousin (once removed if you want to get technical). For that time period and within that family it was considered a horrible thing. Mostly amoungst the family I believe if I recall all the stories correctly. At any rate - it wouldn't be an easy thing to do which is why I said you really need to date elsewhere,that and I also think you are too young anyway. It is simply my opinion. But I don't want you thinking that you are an awful person because you are attracted to him. Now, in Leviticus 18:6-18 (During the time of Moses on Mt. Sinai and the Ten Commandments) it gives detailed restrictions on sexual relations and marriage regarding kin and near of kin. Notice that cousins are actually not on that list. So, from a Biblical standpoint you'd lose that one. But, from a modern society in this day and age, I have to agree I don't think it's a good thing. I still think it's because you haven't been able to look outside of your very strict home for companionship and I also think you are too young to consider yourself deeply in love as well. That takes time and maturity. My other post was long and I figure the person just didn't read all the way through but it's there. Your family would have kittens (maybe that is the reaction you are looking for however.....) society as a whole would ban you a freak - and banned in the Bible or not, relationships these days are hard enough - why add just one more obstical to have to overcome?? During Biblical times they were also short on marriage viable sources, you are not.

Hey wasn't there a president who married his first or second cusin what i am tring to say you don't need to ask advice just ask your heart it has the best answers

brocks_gal/katie

I'm in that EXACT samn boat. I'm 13 and my (guy) cousin is 16 he's crazy in love with me. He's always asking me to do realyl gross things and he wants to well... fuck me. I think i might like him too but i'm afraid that if i do like him it'll hurt way too much to let him go. He's always trying to feel me up and stuff, but because i'm not the prettiest girl in my skool it really rare for a guy to do this to me. If I let him go he might be the last guy to ever love me. Once i told him to please leave me alone that was just after Christmas and i was fine until the next time i saw him which was Easter and i started to like him again. This time its goin gto be alot harder then before because i have liked a few boys from christmas to easter but none of them liked me back so i know what its like to have your heart broken. After easter he asked me to not let him go again and i told him i wouldn't. And 1 of the letters that i was reading from above said that it'll be weird if i like him because he's my cousin and i'll have to see him for the rest of my life. Well as soon as i tell him to stop things will be weird again. I need help too PLEASE.
P.S i can't be too harsh he's my favourite cousin.
Girl in a boat

Anything about 4th or 5th cousins? I'm 15, 16 next month. And my cousin is 18. When we first met we did'nt even know that we were related, but amazingly long after we knew eachother we found out. I'm still not quite sure if we are 4th or 5th. We talk, nothing romantic. Hell, I don't even think he likes me anymore than a really close friend. I am really confused. I don't know wheather to push myself to stop thinking about him or I dunno. We get along perfect. When I'm with him I put on a fake smile and pretend that no real feelings exsist, only one of my friends know, only because she seen through me so clearly, she has a gift with that. I'm going insane, if I'm not already psycotic. Please help.

,Lost in New Jersey

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hey im going through the same thing! im 16 and my cousin is 18! we both have went through the same stuff with our moms and dad! i live in georgia and he lives in michigan. he came down 2 years ago and he was an ass around ever one but when it was just me and him he was the guy of my dreams!! but he is my cousin. well this summer i went to michigan to visit all my family.....i hook up with him and me and him did things we was not sopose to (not sexual) but close to it. now i think it is a sin and crap but what can you do hide your feelings and get buried in to regrets????? i don't know what to do but keep it on the low....but also im afraid we both might get hurt soo jsut go with your heart

I can tell you the first Prime Minister was married to his first cousin. It was his second marriage. The real life Christopher Robin married his cousin. Jessie James married his first cousin. It can be a difficult relationship because many people don't understand just the same as you may say eww about your other cousins. To be with anyone beyond the second cousin is no different than being with a stranger as far as genetics go.
Cousin couples are not the popular choice however it is not incest. It is legal to marry your cousin in 1/2 of the USA and all of Canada, Europe, Australia, many, many countries allow it. We don't have children that have disabilities.
Your young you have lot's of time to date and feel out what you want. Don't feel guilt over holding hands and having a crush on your cousin, it's no differnt than having tose feelings for another person.

Thanks you so much for the advice lol.. It's been 2 years since I last looked at this hehe..!! I have realized it totally not God's plan for me and stuff! I want to thank tigger for her viewpoints and I thank all of you for your comments on this subject! I have dated other guys and stuff and just totally realized that it was a crush and all.. Thanks again!

im actually engaged to my cousin..now call me sick, but I love him just as much as you'd love your boyfriend. no, scratch that...I love him more than youd love your boyfriend for the fact that it is so hard...its the sickest thing to mom and well she doesnt know...but it doesnt matter because when you love someone and youre planning a future together you eventually have to create a family all your own...now many may say I can have mutant babies?? when was it ever wrong to have a child with deffects its not selfish of me because id love my child with all my heart. after all id be the one caring for it...I brought it to life with the person I love...therefor hee a blessing...but there is also genetic counceling...now I know youre not marrying your cousin...but when I started my relationship it was hard, I felt guilty and at times I wasnt attracted to him because we are related and we have the same grandmother...but after a while love became blind...I didnt ask for it...I didnt go out and say oh im going to fall in love with my cousin but now that I realize everything...I do realize that he is one of the best if not the best thing in my life...now it gets tricky you cant lust after your cousin...its a series matter, life altering actually you have to be consent to ALL the consequences...feeling isnt a bad thing just be aware of all the negatives and positives if you were to start anything...though youre young I suggest you wait...a bit and think it through gravely...

OK gross...no seriously I cant be any bolder thats freakin gross and mabye you need help sweety!

Lolz nasty. But if he wants it and you want it , then I don't care just like I don't care if GAYs marry gays .
As long as your happy and it feels good then keep doing what you do, LOve is love at the end of the day

Hey you can talk 2 me on AIM its shakeemnewyork

Lolz nasty. But if he wants it and you want it , then I don't care just like I don't care if GAYs marry gays .
As long as your happy and it feels good then keep doing what you do, LOve is love at the end of the day

Hey you can talk 2 me on AIM its shakeemnewyork

I rele don't think that it's a sin to love your cousin. If you are happy and in love nothing else matters. Forget what society thinks. What the hell do they know. It doesn't matter whateveryone else thinks. If that's the only way your going to be happy and in love go for it. Just don't marry your cousin without dating others first

Hey =]
I'm in love with my first cousin too. sometimes I wish it never happened because of all the family and social drama I'm soon going to have to face, but then at times I don't worry about it at all, because we're truely in love and we'll fight for eachother and maybe if everyone turns us down and away, we'll still have eachother. That's enough for me cause he's everything to me, he makes me feel loved and like the most important person on the planet to him and its just great. I don't think I can love anyone else like I love him. Just do what your heart tells you babe and let us know how it ends up =]

all the best with you two!

I feel u . My cousin would just pull me really close to his chest . He often would put my hand over his heart and I'd pretend I was asleep. But yah I live it when he caressed my waist cd danny I got love handles LOL and um fourteen going to fifteen and he's twenty- one. We almost kissed because our faces and lips were so close. I'll work my magic the next time I get to sleep next to him. just tell your cousin how you feel when you feel it's time

Hi im 16 and my cousin is 17 and im completely in love with him. He is in love with me as well. However he lives in California and I live in Michigan so its too long distance. So weve decided this--were gonna be together when we can. We have time alone so we can have our time to just be together. But when were not together we date who ever we want. We talk all the time though. we tell eachother everythinggg. Dating other people kills me but it just proves how strong I feel for him. I do wanna be with him and I could really see myself marrying him one day but hey were still young so things could change. I do want you to know though that 20% of couples are cousins and most places allow marriage between cousins. Less than half of america doesnt but that means you just have to go somewhere that does. (like not Michigan lol)

good luck to you and just follow your heart. Love is a beautiful thing no matter who you love.

im 18 and my cousin is 20, I strongly love her, and im nervous to tell her my feelings, and that god allows cousins to be together...we have done couple-like things with each other except kiss and have sex, so I think she feels the same way too, but of course she wont bring it up because shes shy, so I gotta be the man, and bring it up, someone please give me advice, what should I start saying to her?? I hope nothing changes between us if she god forbids rejects me lol

Try reading this...
http://www.straightdope.com/columns/read/2564/whats-wrong-with-cousins-marrying
it was very eye-opening for me.
Darwin married his first cousin, and so did Jerry Lee Lewis. They are not the only ones. You CAN and most likely will have healthy kids if you marry a cousins and procreate.