I'm in love with my first cousin

Okay... Basically As in the title I love my first cousin, and she loves me back, I am 15, and she is 4 months older then I am. Recently we have been talking about being more then just cousins, but not to the point that we are like Boyfriend/Girlfriend....

About 8 years ago, due to a problem with my mothers side of the family, I was not allowed to see her side of the family. And now after this time, we are finally able to see each other again. And from the past to present, we have both changed a lot, and we are so alike. Recently My father had taken my phone to read through my text messages- he had seen that we were talking about one day in the future we might have sex.

My father, mother, and her mother all disagree on this, and think that it is wrong. I really love her... and I want to have some other peoples inputs. Is it alright to have emotions for her, is it alright to do anything with her, etc.

I am not religious in any way, and I dont need the explanation of its sin, or that there is a higher risk of birth defects etc.

I want to know what I should do... Can anyone help me?

there is a highr riskes of defects because you have similar DNA. use a condom and if you want a kid I suggest you adopt I think if you love her you should treat her like a girlfriend

I agree with some of the opinions that have been posted, I believe you 2 should talk things out and take your time doing so. Figure out what is it exactly what that is that you want and be open to many things and reflect on them, take it slow because you both are young and in time things will work out the way they were meant to be but don't get desperate and don't rush anything and more importantly don't let negative remarks and actions affect how you feel, in the end the only ones that matter is you and her. I speak from personal experience, I am 20 years old and my cousin is 16, we have been together now for 1 year and 3 months and we love each other so much, our family does not know this but they do suspect that something is between us, love is hard to hide but we try our best to hide it from family, only certain friends have been trusted with our secret. As for sex, we talk about it and we are confortable with the subject. We do small pleasures like touching and kissing but we have not engaged in sexual intercourse because it might lead to consecuenses like for example, everybody finding out about our secret. We do want to have sex but we agreed not to for the moment. As for our family, they will be told when the time is right, we wish that we could come out and say this secret but due to our family's religous and personal beliefs and my cousin's age (16), my uncle will not allow me to see her I right now she is the only person I trust fully from the heart, we have fun we talk, we laugth together, if we are not together at any point in time, the moment is short from perfect. GOOD LUCK AND TAKE IT EASY WICH I AM SURE YOU ARE.

ok same thing is happening with me. im adopted and he is my biological 1st cousin. im 17 and have never met him or his side of the family. I dont love him but im starting to like him and we have talked about sex, even tho we dont live in the same state.

I too love my cousin and I have been searching for a yes or a no on how I feel. the truth is that it is not incest. and you cant help who you love. the family will accept this or they wont. and if its a true love then you will have a healthy long relationship. my advice. cousincouples.com you will learn a lot and be accepted.

I have the same proplem I love my girl cosuin I dont know she love me or not I am 12 years old and she is 15 years old and I love tell me what to do to make her love me I love her so much I am thinking about to marry here in the futer I duno I want to make here love she form another state she is living in america and I am living in egypt we see each other every one year she is cute :D

Well I think its wrong.
but then again its love.
if your willing to live life like that with people judjing and stuff then go head.:D
I hope you guys end up happy.

If you want to have a good relationship with your parents and aunt then you should consider their decision and respect their wishes. However if you really don't care what people think at ALL then its up to you. You're 15 and there are a lot of great girls out there besides your cousin, also you are young. I would suggest you wait it out and see what happens in the future...be open to new relationships with other people.

This happened with me, actually... We had a really hard time, but we silently agreed that it shouldn't happen this way. It's wrong. We're like best friends now, though, but it's sometimes awkward because we don't talk about the relationship we had at all.

Whatever floats your boat I guess.
No one dropped dead and named me Jesus Christ so who am I to say.
Just dont have any babies.
Haha
Good luck

What ridiculous answers.

A) you ARE just 15. That whole raging hormones thing is going. You should take a step back, take a deep breath and think about it. Don't confuse carnal lust for true love.
B) it's not a bad thing to love anyone. Naturally you love her first as family, but again, don't confuse love and lust.
C) it's not incest as one poster stated. Incest is sexual relations between direct kin (your parents, your siblings, your children).
D) defects are statistically UNCOMMON in children born to 1st cousins. In fact, it's been proven that the chances of a defect are only slightly higher (a little over 1%) in such offspring as they are in the general population.
E) it's not illegal. At least not in most states. It's not even illegal to get married, with various stipulations.

Look at Albert Einstein. One of the smartest men to ever live. His second wife was his first cousin maternally and second cousin paternally.

The bottom line is this: if you both know it is true love, no one short of God Himself is going to stop you from being together. Truly loving parents will eventually understand that this is something you both want to do to be happy. They won't stop loving you or anything drastic of that sort. If it *is* true love, you will know - if it can withstand the judge and jury that is family, then it'll probably withstand anything else.

Step back, deep breath and think. Talk about your feelings with your cousin and make sure they align. Talk with your parents and explain how you feel. In the end, the only two people that have to be happy are you and your cousin.