I'm in love with my cousin.

I'm a 15 year old guy, and she's 15-going-on-16. I've always thought she was attractive, but lately I've been having romantic dreams (not really sexual) and my high school counselor helped me realized that I was in love with her. At first, I thought it...

was simply physical attraction, but now I think I like her for more than that. She's very smart, beautiful, and she's always been very kind to me. So my question is: If she and I get into a relationship but refrain from sex, is that still a bad thing?

I think it is bad and kinda weird dont you think? I mean is this a far cousin of yours?

Its okay to think a family member is attractive, and yeah it sounds like you are falling for her. I don't think you should date her though, shes your cousin and that would be really hard for your family to accept.

*If she and I get into a relationship but refrain from sex*
Thats easy to say at the beginning of the relationship, but the more serious it gets, the more harder it would be to refrain from sex. Eventually you'd both want to, then what?

okay, so it's alright to think that a family member is pretty or attractive, but to be attracted sexually to them is not a good idea. You are young and even though you probably think you will never like anyone else, someone else will come along and your cousin will be a distant memory. I suggest you leave it in the dreams, don't talk about it to her or any family members because this could haunt you in the future. Give it a year or more and if the feelings don't pass then maybe you should talk to a therapist about it. Try to make yourself distant from her, not the family, but try not to do things with just the two of you if you are going to be around each other try and make it more of a group thing.

I think it is ok. I have two friends that are cousins who got married last summer. They are devout Christians and found a church that accepted them. Churches that aren't catholic should, because the bias resulted from catholic doctrine. Some Pope who didn't want to lose his power to the royal family. Having kids might be dangerous but that is really the only thing you should worry about. No one can help who they love and there is no reason to let societal biases based on an old dead pope's ambitions stop you. Good luck, there have been a few other questions like this that got better advice. You might want to look at those.
Brian D.

personally , I think its okay , if shes like your first or second cousin I would have second thoughts about it. but other then that you really cant help who your in love with.