I'm i wrong to keep him from knowing we have a child?

well, I'm 14 and pregnant. I know I'm very stupid. but anyway, my boyfriend is the kind of guy who's really responsible, a little too responsible. I told him first though, and I also told my friends but then it got way out of hand. my friends were very...

concerned, giving advices and opinions here and there and they were all different. I on the other hand is very confused, scared, and I didnt know what to do. the worst part is, my boyfriend is being indifferent about it. he says he'll support me no matter what I choose, which is basically leaving the decision making to me. my parents dont know about this stuff, I had my nanny bring me to the doctor the day I found out I was pregnant. and you know, I'm 14 and lets face it, 14 year olds dont value lives too much. so I decided to get an abortion. there's a medicine that you can take, that will make you bleed, basically it kills the embryo in it's early stage. I was 3 weeks pregnant. when I was about to take the medicine, my nanny said, another accidental child in the family. I'm an accidental child as well, also illegitimate. when my nanny said that, it got me thinking, if this child really is an accident or not. I know you all think that since, were very young that were not capable of loving so deep. well, I actually think that, that's what our problem is. we love each other too much. and like what my friend told me, you guys love each other too much that you two keep on thinking about each other instead of thinking about y'alls self. well, I couldnt do it. I cant take the medicine. but I was thinking about my boyfriend and I felt like I was ruining his life, helding him back. I dont want him to overwork himself because he feels like he has to support our child. the thing is, I'm very financially able to raise the kid by myself. I can even raise it without my parents knowing and helping. but of course, guys have prides. so when I got to school, I made up this thing that I'm on my period. and you know, you cant have your period when you're pregnant. I told him that im going to go to the hospital and get it checked. then I told him that the results say that I'm not pregnant but suffer from excess ovulation, something like that. he was happy. so, days past and you know. he doesnt know, and everyday we continued to do what we usually do, just you know hanging out. then one night, I was very sad. I told him that I was moving to a boarding school. well, I was. that was my decision. I'm going to keep the child and go to school. but ofcourse, I told him that it was because the school saw that I qualified for national quiz bee in science when I was young and gave me an acceptance letter and that my mom accepted it. he believed it, since he knew about the things I used to do before I moved to america. and it was true that that night, I was really sad that were not going to be together. so he said he's going to tuck me in to bed. I said ok. so he went to my house and laid with me. he said he was just going to leave when I fall asleep since, he has to be in his house as well. I usually wake up around 4 in the morning because I have zero hour classes. and my grandma who was with me because my parents are in the philippines wakes up at 5. well, what happened was, josh also fell asleep. and we both woke up later than 5. when I woke up I saw that the light in our house's hallway was open so I got up of bed and opened the door, and when I opened the door, my grandmother was there standing opening it at the same time. then she turned away, quiet. she saw my boyfriend and I in the room. 2 minutes after, my boyfriend's mom called asking where he is. he tried to lie and said that he was picked up by his friend chrissy who usually gives him rides but it was a little bit to early. it was 5:15. so his mom figured that he was at my house. after that, we had a big talk. and his mom said that the two of us has to end. at school, I was sad but okay to know he's there. we talked about being seperated by parents before but he said he'll do everything to stay with me, he will never leave. at night that day, he called and told me about how mad his dad was with him, and how he was almost disowned. so that night he said goodbye saying that he loves me more than anything and that he loves me so much. I said ok. my boyfriend has problems with depression. he has to be in a relationship to keep from being sad. that day, I felt very helpless. I told my friends about the secret I'm keeping, I'm pregnant. he that day got back together with his old girlfriend, who he doesnt love, just a cover up. I feel very confused everyday because he keeps on writing notes saying that he loves me so much and that he's sorry and he keeps on telling me that I'm the only girl that he loves. my friends tells me to tell him about our child because one, the child shouldnt grow up without a father and that he has the right to know. I'm I wrong to keep it from him because of my care for him and his future? also, seeing him being with another girl even as a cover up because his depressed made me feel like he wasnt strong enough. of course he wasnt. so how can I believe that he can be strong enough to take care of our child with me if he's not even strong enough to hold himself up strong? aside from that, he wasnt strong enough to fight for me. to fight to be with me. still, he keeps on saying, he will take responsibility for his actions. if he gets me pregnant, he will do his responsibilities.

Oh my where do I start. One, if you pregnant you need to tell your parents. You can't hide it forever, they baby is going to come. Two, you need to realize that you are not keeping anything from your ex because of your feelings for him. If because you want to. Now matter how many times you tell yourself you can not take care of this child without your parents. You are not old enought to get anything but a part time job by yourself and who will watch your child while you are at school and work. I don't want you to think that I am scolding you, I am not. I am tired of teenagers popping up pregnant thinking they can take care of everything by themselves and can't even take care themselves. If you weren't using protection you were trying to get preganant its that simple.
I am a grown woman with a husband IT IS NOT EASY OR CHEAP. Any teenage mom that trys to tell you any diffrerent is lying. I don't know what to say about you ex he could just be telling you what you want or need to here. He didn't have to get back with he ex, thats BULL. I wish you the best of luck. And you also have your nanny is a very bd position if she knows you preggers and your parents don't. Stop thinking of yourself and your ex. It is not about you anymore. It is about the baby growing inside of you.
Last thing, don't think of yourself as accidental. I was on birthcontrol everytime I got pregnant, I have 3 kids. Birth control does not work for me I have accepted it. I have to be vey caareful. I know which week of the month not to have sex. Even though I was not trying to get pregnant I do not love my kids any less and I don't think you parents love you any less. Take your time and think about the situation. WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU.?

I have 500,000 in the bank, is that enough for 1 or 2 years until I can get out of the house to raise the kid? because if that's not, then I deffenitely have to tell my parents. also, well, we were actually using protection but ofcourse, it's not 100% successful. but accidental, I guess our child is not. because if it were it's easy for me to abort it.

Im pretty sure thats more then then you'll need! ( money)
I wish you the best and do what your heart wants.
it will be hard but you'll make it though.

Everything happens for a reason.

(And by the way what do your mom and dad do for a living?)

First of all you should not be having sex any way at 14 years old.And now look at you pregnant at 14 what are you going to do now because your ex boyfriend might be saying he will help you with the baby now.But you wait and see if he will be there for you when that baby is crying all night long.And do you think he will be buying all that stuff the baby needs do you know how much that stuff cost.Your ex boyfriend is only 14 or 15 years old do you think he wants to be buying stuff for a baby when he could be buying the newest game that came out or newest cd.He is not going to want to take care of a baby at that age so stop thinking that he will be there for you ubtil that baby get's 18.Now you can not take care of a baby by yourself you might think you can but you cant your to young.I'm 17 and I couldn't take care of a baby with out my mom there is to much stuff you have to do for a baby taking care of a baby cost so much money.And you need to have more then a part time job to take care of a child if you can only get a part time job you need to get like 2 more part time jobs if your going to take care of a baby by yourslef.I hope you don't think I'm being mean or anything I'm just telling you the truth so tell your parents so they can help you with your baby because you xcan't take care of it yourself.GOOD LUCK

I think you should tell him...but if you have THAT much money in the bank I think uv got yourself covered...
I dont think this helped but I hoped it did a little..
im 14 and I have a friend that was pregnat before she had a miscarrige,
she told the guy and he was going to work to support all three of them. I think that as a good idea..but sorry if I didn't help

Yes, be a good person and tell him the truth, but first you need to talk to your family, no matter if they flip out on you or what, they are your family and they need to know the truth too - you cant leave youself alone like this.

I dont know if this is a law nationwhide, but here in massachusetts you can buy the pill PLAN B over the counter. its about $45.00 and if taken within 72 hours of intercourse itll prevent you from ovulating...just an fyi for others... at this point you are in what trimester? you need to check out medical womens health sites like webmd.com and others about pregancy because your body will be going thru many changes. please please please get a support community together around you family friends and whoever else you can rely on. even go to a therapist but whatever you do dont go it alone..

secondly determine if h seriosuly wants a part in this or if he needs to back a way for a while - had to ask, but seriosuly you dont want him running out on you because he ;thought' he could handle this.