I'm addicted to porn and mas*erb*ting! is this dangerous?

before I met my girlfriend I masterbated to porn almost every night.

am I a porn addict? I mas*erba*e, or used to before I met her, to porn every night almost. And I pro-long the org**m for 10 minutes to an hour sometimes, on purpose, for pleasure purposes. Could this be dangerous? Is it normal? is this good that I mas*erba*e so much and watch so much porn? I find it harder for her to give me an org**m through a handjob. Could this be because Im used to the porn? Help me! I don't want to 'break' myself.

My LORDY, you are asking a LOT of questions. I think you've got a lot of stress on your mind right now, especially with all that's going on with your girlfriend, don't get too deep into anxiety PLEASE. It's a nasty thing to pick up, over worrying and over working everything. Let things happen naturally, that goes for all your questions, relax a little and try not to have to fix every problem right away. Take it a step at a time, it'll be alright. Also, porn addicts are addicts because their obsession takes away from time from the person's usual daily activities (sports, eating, hanging out with friends, schoolwork, etc.) And that doesn't sound like you. Yeah, you may watch it a lot, but as far as I know so does every other guy during teen years on this planet pretty much. RELAX!

You should lay off the porn a bit. While a little doesn't hurt ... too much can make you visually de-sensitized. Try using just your imagination. Teach her how you mas*urba*e. It's hard for her to know what signals cue her to go faster or slow down etc. She isn't feeling what you're feeling so help her out a bit.

Take it from me, mas*urbat*on and porn addiction will lead to difficult in reaching org**m with a partner. Porn is something that people usually watch alone (especially guys), and so is mas*urbat*on. It's a lone activity most of the time. Your hand, your computer (probably), etc. Depending on how old you are, the older you get, and the more you do this, will probably make it extremely hard, if not possible to even have an org**m and/or c*m with your girlfriend giving a handjob. I screwed myself up like this, and at 23, I actually am prefering porn and mas*urbat*on over being with a partner. Every night, I mas*urba*e, and I am in control. Well I don't care, I don't have long to enjoy all of this, so all I can say is enjoy what you want. Sex with a partner, or at least, the point is all about reproducing anyway.

What you might want to try with your girlfriend is to get some porn you both can look at, and enjoy with each other. If she likes looking at it with you, both of you will be turned on, and get a little busy. Me and my girlfriend tried it and she loved it (Of course my girlfriend is bisexual and she mostly likes lesbian porn but she doesn't like the thought of her being with me and a girl at the same time because she wants me to herself haha!, Anyways...) Yeah, if your girlfriend likes porn, get her some and share it with her. Mas*erb*ting is a normal thing, mostly depending on your age, usually occurs mostly in 12-16 or 17 year olds who mas*erba*e the most often, I used to mas*erba*e to porn a lot like you, but I couldn't everynight because my pen*s was still growing wider and longer in size and the skin would rip some and strangly it would grow but that's just how my body works, so I don't mas*erba*e as much by myself anymore because it hurt with the rips and stuff... (Of course I didn't use a lubricate because I don't like the mess, so my girlfriend just gives a handjob, or a bj, and I will let her know what I like and what I don't like, and I say it as sencerly as possible so you can teach her how to push your buttons (hehe). Try new positions, look them up from google try 'Educational Oral Sex Positions' but put Education in quotes because you might get more porn sites that won't help you as much as a site that would help you would. Hope I helped you some... Bye! ^_^

Hey gothik or anybody if my pen*s is little dry and some wut ripped is it because of I didnt use lubricant or wut ...I need to know or I just mas*erba*e way too much... I need ASAP

meh, doesnt matter if you did, dont do it anymore

It probably depends how old you are.
How old are you?

We will give you more answer when you tell us. email us if ytou like.

whatis your age? this may have a lot to do with your situation. We come from a very conservative point of view. A persons sexual organs do not belong to them self. They are theri for the benefits of the peronss future spouse give in the human nature and its strong desire to have sex.

When you have sex with anyone other than the perosn god or nature inteneded shoud be your spouse you pick up germs ( that we do not know everything about them. ) Each time you have sex with a different perosn you spread the germs of one partner adn everyone they ever had sex with to the new persons you have sex with.
You also keep every new strain of germ you pick up form each of these persons and everyone they ever had sex wiht and all of their ancestors and you pass then to your even=tual spouse and all your children and grandchildren for ever.

This is why we should not have sex with anyone until we are fully grown and mnature and have found oour spouse theon GOd or nAture created especialy for us. THi sis the way we prevent the spread of disease or at least we slow it down from generatino to generation.
Also we have sex in our minds much more than in our sex organs.

So when you learned how to have a org**m it wasa learing experience for you. YOu learned both new things aboiut how your body woprks and the expereince of the org**m. Each tim eyou learn new ideas it causes chemicals to be released in your brain that mame you feel especially good. When you didi this repeatedly and associated this high with pictures of naked persons having sex you started a situation that if you do not take contorl of is going to cause you problems in the future. It wil effect your ability to enjoy sex. in fact it is already doing that becasue your obviously realize some thing is not as it should be.

MOst perosn refuse these ideas becasue tio accept them then reqiuires greater responsibility for you are actions.
As we become teens and learn about sex we are also supposed to in our society learn how to control it and use it for our opwn pleasure and our own safety and the safety of all persons especialy our decendents.

God made a wife for Adam and he had made Adam for that wife. And GOd is not a respector of perosn so we believe that when you were born God caused to have born on the earth the perfect wife or husband and if you instead of focusing on how to have sex by doing things like mas*urbat*ng if you would concentrate on saying to your self what kind of wife or husband do I want the perosn GOd made form me to be partners with tohave. Then be busy preparing your self to be that bets possible spouse form the perosn God made for you.

THis ia a much more produyctive and satisfying way to have sex be a part of your life than the one you are suggesting.

Few persons today wil tell you this and yet it is still the same truth as it has always been. DO you love your future children? Then protect them by bieng monogamous and abstaining fomr sex till after you marry. If you find oyu need to mas*urba*e in the mean tim edo it wiht thanks to GOd for creating such an enjoyable experience and than God for the spouse you beleive he is preparing for you and ask him to help you prepare your self for them.

'Have joy and not guilt then. Sex is supposed to be between three beings you your spouse and god.

whatis your age? this may have a lot to do with your situation. We come from a very conservative point of view. A persons sexual organs do not belong to them self. They are theri for the benefits of the peronss future spouse give in the human nature and its strong desire to have sex.

When you have sex with anyon othere than the perosn god or nature inteneded shoud be your spouse you pick up germs ( that we do not know everything about them. ) Each time you have sex with a different perosn you spread the germs of one partner adn everyone they ever had sex with to the new persons you have sex with.
You also keep every new strain of germ you pick up form each of these persons and everyone they ever had sex wiht and all of their ancestors and you pass then to your even=tual spouse and all your children and grandchildren for ever.

This is why we should not have sex with anyone until we are fully grown and mnature and have found oour spouse theon GOd or nAture created especialy for us. THi sis the way we prevent the spread of disease or at least we slow it down from generatino to generation.
Also we have sex in our minds much more than in our sex organs.

So when you learned how to have a org**m it wasa learing experience for you. YOu learned both new things aboiut how your body woprks and the expereince of the org**m. Each tim eyou learn new ideas it causes chemicals to be released in your brain that mame you feel especially good. When you didi this repeatedly and associated this high with pictures of naked persons having sex you started a situation that if you do not take contorl of is going to cause you problems in the future. It wil effect your ability to enjoy sex. in fact it is already doing that becasue your obviously realize some thing is not as it should be.

MOst perosn refuse these ideas becasue tio accept them then reqiuires greater responsibility for you are actions.
As we become teens and learn about sex we are also supposed to in our society learn how to control it and use it for our opwn pleasure and our own safety and the safety of all persons especialy our decendents.

God made a wife for Adam and he had made Adam for that wife. And GOd is not a respector of perosn so we believe that when you were born God caused to have born on the earth the perfect wife or husband and if you instead of focusing on how to have sex by doing things like mas*urbat*ng if you would concentrate on saying to your self what kind of wife or husband do I want the perosn GOd made form me to be partners with tohave. Then be busy preparing your self to be that bets possible spouse form the perosn God made for you.

THis ia a much more produyctive and satisfying way to have sex be a part of your life than the one you are suggesting.

Few persons today wil tell you this and yet it is still the same truth as it has always been. DO you love your future children? Then protect them by bieng monogamous and abstaining fomr sex till after you marry. If you find oyu need to mas*urba*e in the mean tim edo it wiht thanks to GOd for creating such an enjoyable experience and than God for the spouse you beleive he is preparing for you and ask him to help you prepare your self for them.

'Have joy and not guilt then. Sex is supposed to be between three beings you your spouse and god.

only if you choke when you swallow your semen!

When you mas*urba*e a lot of things happen. God loves you and he made your body. God made sex a very exciting and enjoyable activity. It is best enjoyed the way he intends it in this messed up world. That means between two persons who love each other more than they move any other person and who want to do something with each other that they would not want to do with anyone else. That is called coitus. The persons who have the best lives relating to sex are those who have realized that God loves them so much God made a special specific person for them to have sex with.
That means a husband or wife. You know that or you realize that. This is why some times you feel some shame after you mas*urba*e. Most humans realize this. It is called a conscience. How old are you? What do you do to mas*urba*e? I mean do you have to think about certain things or look at stuff or does your pen*s get hard and you respond by mas*urbat*ng. How often do you do it? Once a day three times a day once a week or when your pen*s gets enlarged and you can not seem to get it to go down?

Do you have much acne?
Why do you do it? That may seem like a silly question but it is a good one for you to answer because answering it may make you delve into your own mind and heart and help you figure out if Mas*urbat*on is good or bad.

Those who say it is terrible to do are wrong but so are those who say go ahead and do it whenever you feel like it, it can do you no harm.

It can harm you to mas*urba*e. But an occasional mas*urbat*on will not cause you to die.

The problem with the west is we get guys thinking that if they want to have sex with a girl it is O.K. and what a guy should desire to do. The truth is that God made a special person to be your partner. A girl who is growing up to be your wife. If you want to have a happy life I suggest you believe that God loves you and cares for you to have a good life and realize that God made your body and made it possible for you to be able to mas*urba*e and that he is that one who designed you so that when you do it and have an org**m it is so enjoyable and pleasant and desirable to do. HE wants you to fulfill that desire after you have fully grown up and he wants you to only ever have sex with one other person the one he made to be your wife.

Some think this is old fashioned but it is not. If you truly believe God made you then you must realize he made sex. When you really feel good (many persons sort of say things about God and how good they feel. Like, “Oh God!”

Your brain is growing up and learning how to deal with emotions and feelings and the enjoyment of sex.

The reason you feel woozy a little is because it feels good while you are doing it and you are sort of paying attention to your self and you are sort of day dreaming. I suggest you focus your thoughts on the idea that God loves you and that he made a wife for you who you will meet as you grow up and think about here instead of looking at pictures of other persons having sex or showing their parts.

That is a more wholesome way to mas*urba*e if you are going to do it.

It can become a thing you do to satisfy your self and some times that might lead to bad habits.
What you think about when you mas*urba*e is going to effect you a lot. And ,who if anyone you mas*urba*e with if you ever do it with someone else will effect this too. Many guys end up being fooled by this and never realize it has happened.

Whenever you put your body parts next to someone else’s body parts millions of germs get mixed together you pick up germs from them and from everyone who they ever had sex with. SO do not touch other persons there or let them touch you there keep your self for your special partner God made for you. Do you understand? And this is something that you should talk to you dad or mom about. It really is. a great part of being a parent is to help your children grow up and learn about life. If you learn it right and include your parents in it then growing up will not have to become something that separates you from you parents it can be a good and enjoyable part of life that builds bonds between you and your parents. The relationship you have with them has a lot to do with your ability to relate to your wife later.

In order for your pen*s to get large like it dose an amount of blood to fill it up is required. That is blood that goes inside special sponge like tissue that makes your pen*s get hard. Where does it come from? Well it is taken out of the bloodstream of your body. One of the side effects is a little bit less blood in your brain. That is one reasons for the woozy feeling in sex. Also chemicals that make your body want to have sex called hormones are ebbing released into your body. They are making you interested in sex and desiring to do it. Sometimes when your pen*s gets hard in the after noon it is caused by these hormones. If that does not happen to you yet it will later on for a while at the height of your personal experience in puberty. The part of your brain that responds to that hormone is not fully developed yet and you are learning how to respond to it. Do you understand?

Also there is a mineral called zinc. It is in the fluid that comes out of your body when you ejaculate. You understand what that means? It is also the mineral that helps your body to process feelings like love and to sense things. It is involved in your growth. If you have no zinc in your body your bones can not grow and your pen*s and testicles cannot reach their maximum possible size. And there is a loss of zinc each time you ejaculate. This has an effect on your health especially since most American males do not have as much Zinc in their diet as they need for best health and optimum growth. If you want to grow the tallest and have the largest equipment between your legs as possible then you need to regulate the zinc in your body and have the optimum amount for you.
Do you understand? The less you mas*urba*e the more zinc you will have. Have you had a wet dream yet in life? It used to be that guys learned about sex after they had a we dream and usually they were naïve enough when they had it that they almost had to go to their parents for an explanation about what was going on. This was wholesome good family activity. Then your Dad or mom would explain a little to you about sex. Some time shortly after that happened. Today kids learn about sex too soon and often start mas*urbat*ng before they have a wet dream and that is not natural and may not be the best thing to have happen. The internet is great because one can ask questions like this and sometimes kids had no one to go to for advice or they were ashamed that they had a wet dream and did not know what it was and that is not good. Yet it is also not good that so many persons tell you there is nothing wrong with mas*urbat*ng an they really have no idea how the body function s or that they are telling you their opinion and it is not based on facts or science. God does not want you to be ashamed and feel guilty because you mas*urba*e. He does want you to be safe form getting germs from other persons and from making your self miserable because you are having a hard time being in charge of when you mas*urba*e and why. Learning to be in charge of when you participate in sexual activity and how is some thing God wants you to do. And our society demands it of you. Ifyou grow up thinking you can have sex when you want with whom you want you will end you p in Jail or divorced or making babies that you have to pay money for. God wants you to have great enjoyable sex with out feeling shamed and he wants you safe. He knows there is a Devil who wants to make you miserable and draw you away form feeling that God loves you and cares for you. One way he does this is to get you thinking you are doing something wrong and then you find you cannot control when you do it etcetera. Are we explaining this in way that you understand what we mean?

Make sure you eat whole grain breads. Have you mom buy the breads that are not enriched. If they are whole grain they do not need to be enriched and are much healthier for you than enriched breads.

There is a chemical that makes you feel good. Do you know what the name of it is? When you are mas*urbat*ng because you like to mas*urba*e and it makes you feel good then this chemical is released into your brain and you sort of get ‘high.’ This is a good and natural high. When you are at the height of enjoying the mas*urbat*ng, when the fluid comes out of you and you are really enjoying it this chemical is really in the brain. We have a response (natural) where the body is trying to keep a balance in the brain of not being too happy for too long or not being too unhappy for too long. It does thins by putting this chemical in the brain and then using another chemical to balance it out. Do you know what that other chemical is Called?

This is why drugs (illegal mind altering drugs) are bad for you. They cause you brain to release this chemical or they imitate it in your brain and you become someone who gets used to that chemical in the brain and so then when you are body is releasing the chemical to make you happy under normal circumstances then your brain does not get high from it. You brain has become used to that chemical and it needs more and more of you to experience the high. This is bad and helps cause addictions to alcohol or drugs. The best way to enjoy highs is to learn stuff. When you learn some thing new a little squirt of that chemical is released. It feels good. There is a similarity between that feeling and the one you get while you are mas*urbat*ng and at the height of doing it. You know what I mean don’t you? It also happens when you suddenly realize some thing you didn’t realize before or when you suddenly get something. Like an idea at school or a joke or a personal revelation about something that you realize is positive.

That is part of what happens. When this happy making chemical is being released after a whole the brain makes and releases the chemical that makes us less excited and that may be one reason why you feel a little down after wards and think maybe you should not have done it.

Are you having a situation where you are fighting with your self before you do it thinking I am going to control myself and not do mas*urba*e and then you end sort of almost being driven to doing it and end up doing it anyway and is that sort of making you feel sad that you are not in control of your body. That also may be why you feel it is wrong or wonder if it is wrong to mas*urba*e.

Some say there is nothing at all wrong with mas*urbat*ng. It is natural or normal. Then I ask, “If there is nothing wrong with it then why are so many kids asking questions about ‘Is it right or wrong?. Their consciences are telling them there is some wrong with doing it.

What is really wrong is that you are letting your self be taught by your actions that it is good to desire sex with whomever you are thinking about or what ever you are thinking about as you mas*urba*e. Do you understand what we are saying?

The best sexual life is when one thinks it is disgusting to have sex with anyone other than the wife you believe God made for you that in the future if you do what is right God will bring the two of you together and you will know and realize you are meant for each other. If you thought that, then all your sexual activities would be driven by that idea. That is the best idea to have drive your sex life because it is one that you can satisfy and feel good about yourself satisfying and not ever need to be ashamed or regret that you did so.

If you think that a girl or any girl depending how hot she is should motivate you to want to have sex then you are going to create a fantasy world that can never be satisfied. Eventually after you get a wife you won't be satisfied and you will need to drum up more and more wilder ideas about haw to enjoy sex. That is not good for you because it will either drive you crazy (make you uncomfortable with your self) or make you do things that in our society are not considered good like cheat on your wife and look up and at various younger girls who are considered good looking by guys who were taught they should desire a female. You should desire your wife and having anyone else make you get hard because it is erotic to you should be so disgusting to you that it is as disgusting to you as the idea of having sex with a horse or a cow.
DO you get what we are saying?
This is the truth but only to a few persons where their families have understood this and taught this. If you have sex with a girl before you grow up and are married you will get germs from her and pass them to every one who you ever have sex with and to your eventual wife and to your children. Each of us has certain germs in our genitals. If you only have sex with one person (Your future wife and she does the same) then you will only pass the germs of you family to your off spring. DO you understand? If you have more partners before you are married you will mix germs between all of them and get the germs from each of them and from each person they ever had sex with before you and pass them all to your children. Now no body knows what birth defects this could have on your progeny. If mas*urbat*on becomes a habit and you are doing it for the wrong reasons it can effect you. You might not bother going for girls at all because you can satisfy your self. You might fixate on it and it might unmake you feel bad and then who knows.

The most important thing is that you have a balance in your life. And that you use whatever mas*urbat*ng you do to steer yourself in a safe happy future life. One of monogamy and abstinence till married is the best one. Instead of mas*urbat*ng too much spend your time saying to your self and to God “How can I prepare myself to be the best possible husband (the kindest the most loving and faithful) to the wife you prepared for me so that when She finds me and I find her I can satisfy her desires and needs to be loved and to do all the things in our culture that good husbands do fro their wives.
If you do that you are showing God that you believe he is real and loves you and is preparing a wife for you and that will help you have a good and satisfied future. Do you understand?

Hmm, once a day is about average among my adult male friends. Some guys mas*urba*e up to 5 times a day, some guys only do it once a month or less. I have a friend who's a Catholic who's only ever mas*urba*ed once in his whole like, but he's a monk, so he's a bit extreme anyway.

There's no rule about how many times you can do it. Stop when you get sore.

The porn is optional.

Delaying your org**m is a good technique. Try setting an alarm clock for 20 minutes' time, and hold out until the alarm goes off. If that's too hard, try a shorter time. You should be able to last longer as you get older. Just slow down when you get close to c*mming.

You can't break yourself with ordinary sex and mas*urba*ion. It is possible to tear your skin or even 'fracture' your pen!s if you're too rough.

The main thing is to have fun !

so your telling me you suck your own balls? I thought that was phisically impossible!! LOL by the way your never going to get a girl doin it with yourself all the time she will ask you hey you want to do it and you will say sure when she gets out of the bathroom you will be suckin it yourself!!!1 LOL LOL LOL

this is for answerman...your an assh*ole...not ene that...u are a F*ucking religious as*hole...my di*ck is mine...not gods...not my future wife...mine...and for you to tell someone that it isnt is not only retarted but it also prove that most catholics(cause I assume by your answer and you long as* ramblings that you are) are stuck up egotistical facisits...

Lmao,, im catholic and I don't think that everything is gods bahah. and all the stuff he said , I don't think that is all true either

Altho there is way to much for me to waste my time reading lmao. But don't think ALL catholics are are the way he is.. because we are not lmao, Half of my friends are already not virgins.. haven been for about 20 times or more, they don't believe to wait.. no one else does so who cares? they are still alive.

No one is going to WAIT until marriage unless they have like a Chasity belt or something lmao. Like they would just get made fun of for being a virgin.. especially guys.

Lmao, and who rambles about how you are suppose to wait for sex on a mas*urbat*on page? seriously lmfao.

hi I am catholic, but I think sex is the greates thing ! I want to know though... how exactly do you prolongue your org*sm?

ok first off come the sht down!well for not having orgasems for a long time one thing dont mas*erba*e dont watch porn or any sexual activity for 2-3 weeks now that will make so you c*m earlier and more will come out now for breaking urself is imposible but you can break a blood vessel and the same thing should help to lower that risk which by the way is very low

no.
porn is fun and recreational
I like it lol
even ifyou have a girlfriend you can still be obliged to
pleasuring yourself.