I'm 13, but why is it so bad to have a baby?

I'm still a virgin, and I don't want to have sex ANY TIME SOON!
but, I want to know why it's so bad to have a baby at 13, 14, 15?
I mean, it's my choice right?
Why should I save sex for marriage? I don't know if I even want to get married.!

Honeslty, I kindof want a baby- of my own. NOW!

ahh.

I wouldn't say it's BAD to have a baby at your age, it's just not smart. In history, girls your age were married and had children. But these days kids aren't conditioned for that anymore, they've been kept home and taken care of by their parents and don't really have the capacity to take care of a baby themselves. And no matter how much babysitting you've done, how many baby siblings you have. NOTHING prepares you for the responsibility of taking care of your own baby. Trust me, you aren't ready for the 5 straight hours of crying because of colic...fearing that your baby isn't getting enough to eat because breast feeding isn't going right (or isn't getting the right nutrition from a formula)...the pain you face when going to the bathroom or even just taking a shower (if you have the time to take one) the12:00am feeding...the hour of trying to get them back to sleep...the 1:50am feeding...a nasty diarrheal diaper change...the 3:30am feeding...an hour and a half of crying because of gas...and at least 3 more feedings and trying to get them to sleep before (at your age) having to get ready for school, spending the whole day at school, then going to work to make enough money to pay for all the things your baby will need, and doing it all over again the next night, over and over for the next year or so. It's no fun at any age. Motherhood requires a maturity level that teenagers (and some adults) just haven't reached yet. Teenage mothers are more likely to leave their child with their parents when they move out (my sister did this and her son despises her for it), lose their children because of something irresponsible, hold a grudge toward their child because of all the lost time at the movies, sleepovers, and parties and all the other things you'll miss. If you aren't ready to give up your social life for quite a while, parenthood is NOT for you. I'd think all of this over. I'm not judging you because you want a baby, because I did too at your age. but I realized I couldn't and I waited. Now I have time for it, the money to pay for everything my baby will need, and a husband to help me with the responsibilities. It's so much better to wait. Good luck on whatever decision you may make. funmail me if you want to talk more, okay.

your right it is your choice but it is really hard to take care of a baby while also dealing with school friends and family and your going to have health changes and someone like a man to support you casue your frist baby cant be good when you have your man run off
so if you do make sure there is someone to support you
but please some young girls will jsut end up sending another miracle to abortion
so make the right descion and wiat till your older

It's really simple, because you cant take care of a baby.
Historically, or even today in other cultures, it is true, people had babies at your age. But these girls were married. From a young age they learnt how to take care of a home and a family, and by the time they were 13 they were married and living in an extended family household. Where they had a husband to provide food and shelter, and an extended family to help with the baby. And that is all they did, cooked, cleaned and brought up kids.
If you have a baby you have no means of supporting yourself, let alone a child... Legally you cant even work, let alone make any of your own decisions. What are you going to do? drop out of school? work minimum wage for the rest of your life? what about the baby you want to have? doesnt it deserve a better life than that?
You need to grow up a bit before you have a baby. You also need to realize that as a parent it isnt what you want, but what is best for the kid. And what is best for the kid is to have a mother who is mature and can support herself.

 
Not withstanding the fact that a baby is not meant to be a toy or a 'value' item with which to make your life have meaning, by having a baby in your teenage years you will be depriving yourself of so many experiences and so much educational opportunity that you will suffer for the rest of your life.

Now is the time when you are supposed to be preparing yourself, including your mind, for the future. It is how you prepare yourself in the next several years that is going to determine how successful and happy a life you are going to have.

Enjoy your life and your freedoms from responsibility that you now have and should have for the next few years. The adult world and responsibilities are going to fall upon you soon enough.

I have a three yr old sister that I pretty much raised with the help of my dad. You dont get much sleep, they are expensive, and they get into things. your always watching them, you dont get to do things on your own like you want like hanging out with your friends. They are attatched to your hip. I love babies I almost had one of my own, but had a miscarriage. They are a lot of fun, but at this age they will ruin your life. You will have no time for your self. its ALWAYS about the baby. They are a BLESSING but not at this age. im in class g2g byes.

Live your life. Enjoy your childhood. There are so many things to see and do. Having a baby takes away all of that. There's plenty of time to have a baby. Be patient.