I love this girl but she has a boyfriend

First of all , I learned to know her from the net , from a game even. Been playing with her for about 4 months not knowing how she was like. Cause you never know with people from the net. Last week we started talking online and seemd like we have tons of...

things in common. Thats the first thing people search in a new relationship , common ground. Seems like she is exactly the same as me. I knew she had a boyfriend but still , when I spoke to her on msn and once we were bussy talking for hours and hours , cams on (not that I'm a perv or so) something just happend . Some invisible force was in the air. Drawing us together. Only it can't be , she said we both know there is something going on. She doubts about what it is , for me its like totaly in love.
We've talked a lot since then and it always comes back to this, She knows there is something going on between us , even tho we haven't met irl , yet. and that reason is , she can not meet male persons from her boyfriend. Can't blame him there as I clearly have feelings and intentions. Somewhere I know this love is quite impossible but I can not let it go.
there clearly is chemistry but she has been in a relationship for over a year now with her current boyfriend, she said she loves him and he loves her ,, she gets attention , romance , ...
ofc every relationship has flaws so. I was so crazy enough to get my hopes up , believing I might stand a chance as she said she dreams about it.

But it always come to this, she doesn't want to leave her comfort and secure zone for something she doesn't know how it would turn out. she feels special , according to her she never felt like this before. Might use the word soulmates but we are not sure.But she likes the safe zone of her current relationship.

I am tottaly clueless how to handle this, I know I feel like wanting to know her , be with her , it makes me feel complete(thats the first though people have when starting a relationship so I'm at the first phase ,( dreamer ) ) , but she doesn't want to break for something that is unknown. Me.
I do however accept that opinion as I have the greatest respect for her but I can not let this go as it would feel I would have lost to much.
so any advice would be welcome , either the hardest solution give it up to ways of letting her see what she misses ( which she clearly does in some area's of her current relationship) help , I cant sleep I can't eat totaly unfocussed and letme tell you 4 days 4 hours of sleep , not healthy but it keeps me wondering

talk to her more and more and let her get to know more about u. and TELL HER How you FEELl - like how you can't sleep... and etc etc. btw, do you two live far away?

It's Funny, when I started reading your post I thought 'when did I write this?' because I am in the exact same situation. the only difference maybe is that we met face-to-face twice, and are friends now. we met in an online game, we talk every day, have talked over the webcam, all of it. and she has a boyfriend. she lives 2 hours away (with her boyfriend). I too feel like she would complete me. but I have no doubt that her boyfriend (who has the same name as me, ironically) also feels this about her. I respect him, and despite the fact that he is 5 years older than me, I feel like we could have been best friends if he didn't love the girl that I love.

I'm completely sympathetic, man. how has it gone so far?

Damn, I wish you both luck. I can't stand the sickness I feel when the girl I love goes back for weekends with her b/f. She claims not to love him but feels he is unstable and she needs him to keep her heart under control. We slept together and we have kissed and told each other we love each other. We are perfect together. But still today I am alone and she is with him. It's only been a few weeks but I cannot stand it. I know if I am patient, I will win, but I feel so bad I can barely live.

I do love myself and I agree that is very important in being attractive to the other person but when I'm ravaged by this longing, I cannot be a happy person No happy person means my chances decline.

Me to...I am a 15 year old boy and I am totally inlove with this girl Charne... I love her so much I would die for her but she has a boyfriend... The pain when I saw them have there first kiss as a picture on Facebook really brock my hart and I wish I never met her... I think she likes me but I dont want to say anything to her because she tells her boyfriend everything...(she knows I like her though)... I am friends with her boyfriend but I am really gealous...any advice please ( Thanks

I'm in a similar position too, I'm 14 and completely crazy about her. we talk and text all day almost every day, including right now lol. but she has a boyfriend... kinda, hes been her best fried for three years and she left her previous boyfriend for him but he doesn't seem all that serious, they've made out twice (which kills me) and he has the nerve to not even say they're even officially going out we can tell each other everything and normally do. I've even told her that I liked her but not nearly as much as I actually do but she really likes the guy shes going with now and turned me down because of that, I would have never asked he out if I knew but almost no one knows because hes so secretive. I barely sleep and when I do I sometimes have dreams with her in them (even if thats kinda creepy), I barely eat anything anymore, I've pretty much given up video games which used to be a big part of my life. and I even ride my bike for four miles every day because I'm... big and shes athletic so I'm hoping that if I lose the weight she might be more interested. I can't stand it when she doesn't respond to my texts because I feel incomplete without her. I guess what I'm saying is that we get along so well and her boyfriend doesn't even treat her with respect, but she likes him instead of me, it makes me so sad I don't know what to do... I guess just wait until they break up but it hurts my heart so bad to be without her. the best thing thats happened to me in school so far is when we got sent to the office to get some papers for a teacher and we had some alone time. I understand the whole move on thing that people say to do but I've already done that with another girl and theres still a small hole in my heart from that but not as nearly as bad as this one is. I LOVE HER. don't give up.