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Okay so one of my best friends, j.r. Is going out with this girl right and she is so cute she's nice, funny, smart just perfect, like if I had a list of things I would want in a girlfriend she would fit it. But yea I was talking to one of her friends who is also a good friend of mine and I told her my feelings and she was like I bet she would break up with j.r for you because she used to have a crush on you in the 6th grade (we are in 9th now we didn’t go to middle school together) and I know what your thinking she’s just trying to mess with me but she was being serious and she is one of my best friends like I know her really well so she wouldn't lie about something like that. And j.r. Told me that he might break up with her and tell her he just wants to be friends first because when they are together they don't talk much but I told him he should just stay with her because I don't think its rite for me to tell him to break up with her just because I want to go out with her. What do yall think I mean I really like her like we went to 5th and 6th grade together and I liked her then too I just never talked to her but now we talk and give each other friendly hugs in the hall way and she always smiles and her eyes widen up when she sees me I really like her like I almost never fall for girls I mean i’m good looking and I could get a girl if I wanted to. There are lots of pretty girls that go to my school and they like me but I have like really high standards like I don’t want to just go out with anyone and then break up two days later I like long lasting relationships and I don’t want to go talk to my best friend and be like I liked your girlfriend since like the 6th grade and then lose him and I don’t want to not take a chance with this girl of my dreams (like I have dreams about her lol ) and wonder what could have been and I also don’t want to tell my best friend to break up with her and then I go in for the rebound and date her and things end up not working out and then I don’t have a best friend or a girlfriend and I don’t want to go up to her and ask her if she likes me then I will just look stupid because she will be like no, i’m your best friends girlfriend so i’m really confused and twisted up inside like I feel sick just thinking about it, and I know shes not a piece of meat that we can just toss back and forth between each other but just give me some advice
Wow that is quite a situation. It seems like your friend JR isn't much that into her, just because they barely talk he's going to break up with her, that's a stupid reason. Well first you need to find out whether she likes you in the way you like her. Things change and just because she liked in 6th grade doesn't mean she'll like you now.
If you know for sure she likes you the way you do, and your best friends does not treat her the way you would want to(give her all the attention in the world). Then just talk to him. If they break up first, don't just swoop in and ask her out. Talk to him first and ask him if its ok for you to ask her out. if he said its cool, then that's great if he said no, You should respect that. It is disrespectful when a friend dates a friend's ex, especially when that friend is not comfortable. Remember the old saying " Lovers comes and go's but Best Friends last forever" Just ask yourself "Is it worth it"
I think you like her this much because you can't have her. Think about it, honestly if you had just met her and she hadn't been going out with JR, then I bet you wouldn't be so interested and desperate to be with her. So just tell yourself that they are happy together, and don't encourage JR to stay with her or break up with her, let their relationship go its course and in due time, when she is available and if you really do like her still, then you can go for it.
I am in the same situation, except the friend is not my best friend, but simpy someone who I really think is a good guy. In all honesty, I don't think I'll see him after high school. What I have decided is I will wait until they break up, and talk to her about slowly starting a relationship in a month, or tell her I love her at the end of my senior year. Oh, and play Jesses Girl while I do it
That was really sweet. You obviously really like this girl. I think you should see what happens with J.R. and this girl first. If she really does like you and they break up then wait a while, talk to J.R. about it and if J.R. is ok with it then ask her out. Just remember that the girl shouldn't be more important than you friendship with J.R.
Well if jr is okay with you going out with then see how it goes and if the things go okay the first couple of weeks then shes a blessing man. Go for it! And if it dosent go that well then sorry dude and remember that you didnt do anything wrong it just that she wasent the girl you thought she was.
don't act on it. you dont know that she likes you and if she does then what? they brake up and you lose a friend? I doubt that it's worth it. I know you like her but you will regret hurting your friend. Girls come and go but your friends stay with you.
I hae the exact same prob but I no she likes me back. thanks for the advice peeps shayne 808 has the best answer
im in the same situation. I like brock (girl) but connors my friend
