I just yelled at my girfriend's best friend.

I've been going out with my girlfriend for just over 2 weeks now and I've just got into a fight with her best friend. basically, a couple of months ago they went out but it only lasted for a couple of weeks because she really didnt like him in that way,...

but im certain that he still has feelings for her.

yesterday she tells me that he'd asked if she still has feelings for him and she didnt know what to do and asked me to talk to him. well I totally lost my temper with him and now he hates me (rightly so - I was completely out of line!). im not usually an angry person but he just got to me.

so now he's blanking me and I know that if she had to chose between me or her best friend I stand no chance - theyve been friends for years and I've only been close to her for a few months. so I really dont want to lose her but im worried that I've gone too far and mucked things up.

has anyone got any advice about what I should do to sort this mess out?

wow... that sucks but it's not unfixable. go to him and tell him you were out of line and you apologize. be the bigger man, as lame as that sounds, and just say sorry. tell your girlfriend that was messed up and you shouldn't have gone off on him like that, you just let it get to you for some reason and it hit a nerve. as long as you're girlfriend's happyall of you will be.

but the problem is that I've already done that.. when we were arguing I realised what id done and I appologised there and then and he said to me that he understands and claimed to forgive me. but today he totally avoided me and he told her that he's angry at me

Dear smithymcsmith,
As people get older their opposite sex friendships are no longer just friendships this is fact. The fact you got upset was probably a gut feeling and you probably are right that he has feelings for her. So now you are experiencing the dilemma of more mature relationships. You really don't seem many couples who are tolerant of the opposite sex friends. You are at the age where you are caught in between the two types of relationships. I suggest since this is going to happen over and over until you end up with a slightly more mature female that you step back. Asking you to speak with him shows her lack of maturity in handling her own affairs and feelings.
Sue...good luck