I just cant talk i dont know why i think im afraid that i'll

ME AND MY BOYFRIEND HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR ALMOST A MONTH NOW AND JUST THE OTHER DAY WE WERE TALKING ON THE PHONE AND I GUESS HE JUST GOT TIRED OF TALKING ALL THE TIME SO HE SAID WELL YOU KNOW WHAT IM ALWAYS TALKING ABOUT STUFF THAT GOES ON IN MY LIFE...

LETS HERE SOMETHINGS THAT HAPPENED TO YOU IN THE PAST . SO THEN I WAS LIKE quot;I REALY DONT HAVE ANYTHING TO SAYquot; THEN HE SAID quot; COME ON JUST TALK TO ME ABOUT ANYTHING quot; AND ONCE AGAIN I SAID quot;I REALLY DONT HAVE ANYHTING TO TALK ABOUTquot; THEN I GUESS HE JUST GOT MAD AND SAID quot;YOU KNOW WHAT I WILL JUST TALK TO YOU LATERquot; . I JUST FELT SO STUPID NOT BEING ABLE TO TALK ABOUT ANYTHING I COULD#039;NT CALL HIM BACK BECAUSE THEN WHAT WAS I GOING TO SAY?... IAM A ANTI-SOCIAL PERSON I NEED HELP I HAVE A PROBLEM SOCIALIZING WITH OTHER PEOPLE ......SOMEONE ANYONE PLEASE HELP ME WITH THIS SILENT RELATIONSHIP BEFORE IT GOES BAD
SIGNED.... Silent

Hey,I kinda know how you feel.I still have trouble finding things to talk about with my boyfriend but the best advice I can give is to jsut be yourself. If you have something that has happened in the past or just something you find interesting dont be afraid to talk about it. It#039;s always good to talk about things that you have been through when your in a realationship.I know its hard sometimes but dont be afraid, even if you think it may sound stupid. He may find it interesting. Well I hope my advice helps. Let us know how things work out. lt;3Kimlt;3

I 2 HAVE THIS PROBLEM, IT SEEMS THAT I NEVER HAVE ANYTHING TO SAY AND THE CONVERSATION IS ALWAYS DULL BUT I HAVE NEVER HAD ONE OF THEM TO HANG UP ON ME BEFORE. IT IS ALWAYS SO QUIET BUT THEY SEEM TO ENJOY JUST BEING ON THE PHONE WITH ME. I GUESS ALL THAT I AM SAYING IS THAT MAYBE YOU SHOULD SHARE YOUR FEELINGS WITH HIM AND GIVE HIM MORE INSIGHT ON YOUR LIFE SO THAT HE DOESN#039;T HAVE TO FEED OFF OF YOUR CONVERSATION. WELL I HOPE THIS HELPS AND I AM ALSO GOING TO TRY THIS ON MY NEXT BOYFRIEND. GUESS I AM TAKING MY OWN ADVICE !! lol

Even if this relationship is over I can say that his reaction to your silence is a bit much. I would suggest that you start tracking privately how much you talk in general and is there a time when you really feel at ease and conversant, a cousin, parent, sibling, friend and/or places you feel at ease. I hate to try and have conversations on the phone, but was forced to be seperated some 1,000 miles from my girlfriend for several months for work. As much as I dislike the phone, it was all I had and I wanted the relationship to be sustained. I would guess that he may not be the right kind of guy; not enough in common, not the kind of conversations style that works for you, something on those lines... If you find that you do not talk to anyone ever...You have made the discovery (the hardest part) now find ways to improve.

Don#039;t get too worked up or agonise over what you are going to talk about with your boyfriend...its easier if you just let the conversation flow...and sometimes silence can be a good thing too because it shows that you 2 are close together and there is no need for words because you know what eachother is thinking! But it#039;s another thing all together if the silence is awkward and is very frequent...like if you are walking along together and are not either holding hands or wrapped in eachothers arms...in that case there#039;s no need for words...but if you are walking along just like mates along side eachother that shows you are awkward if you cannot think of a conversation!
Also remember that guys and girls also like 2 talk about different things...so sometimes be prepared 2 chat about something you#039;re not so interested in...and your turn will come...just learn to be flexable and work in with the other person and everything should be ok. Another thing 2 keep in mind if you are worried you won#039;t have anything 2 say to your guy or girl next time you see them...is that as soon as you meet them you will surely be in different surroundings...thus creating new and exciting things to talk about or comment on...JUST GO WITH THE FLOW...and girls...if ur really stuck 4 ideas...u can always bring up the footy!!! HAVE FUN AND DON#039;T TAKE THINGS TOO SERIOUSLY...

well try to think of what you say that doesnt sound stupid you could start there....then you could try to change the subject and maybe thell notice and start talkin to you..then if it does work your not goin to be shy nomore
sincerely,
saDdeYesz

Well, what I do with my b/f, since I do all the talking.
You have to start off with something easy. Like how your day was. Even if it was boring or quiet. Just say some of the things you were feeling that day. I know you had feelings about something that went on in school or at work. So you have to get personal with him. Then, you could even ask questions. The questions dont have to be related to you, they could be related to someone you saw that day. somehting you saw that day. that will start a conversation as well. now if you didnt see anything that day, think of problems and conflicts yo u saw on tv. voice your opinion about it. say something that you know he will disagree on, so that you can hear his opinion. its all about being open. then later on, if youre doing well with that, you can get into the more personal questions. not just about sex, but daily life. what goes on in his head and your head as well. personal hygene. other things as well. im telling you, there a million things to talk about, they just havent been introduced to your brain. you have to invent them and find them.

i just wanna ask how will u b in the future nothing to say no one is ever gonna notcie you like that u shold have called him u could have even brung up a dumb story u need to stick out more and having nothing to say is not going to help you stick out like a rose at all bring yourself out more just try to find something to talk about anything Good Luck!!!

i cant tlak either, to a friend. i tlak alot on msn to her but cant in skool. dont know why. can anyone help? plz email me

Why dont you right a diary of things that has happened to you daily, and your thoughts and feelings. Then it will be eaiser to make conversation, also it is a good thing to ask questions like how was your weekend and then you can tell them about yours.

Well I went thruogh the same exact problem you know I did all I had to was just told him interesting things the things boys like if you dont know what he likes ask him maybe during that convo you'll find something that you guys have in common. heres A tip DON'T ever lie cause then he'll ask you more about it and then you really wont have anything to say.! well I hope my advice helped a bit

Good Luck
sighned,Sexy

..You dont have to learn to talk ! Coz u wont !! Iam not trying to let u down . But its true .. Actually you are big enough to have BF , so u already passed so many years safely , succeed in ur study and have a BF .. I think that quiet proof to urself that u r not spcially isolated or suffer problems !! If you dont talk much , then you are a quite person .. Calm and wise .. ITs not a disaster , he is ur boyfriend , he should learn patience with you , maybe u guyz need more time ! Month not long enough to get along with somebody ...If he is mad of that , then its his problem .. He should learn patience and let take all the time u need .. Actually he is the one who needs to learn something , not you ...

Tell him to ask you a question