I have no idea, but any input is appreciated.

alright, so I'm sixteen and my boyfriend is eighteen. we've been dating for three years and recently started getting sexual. this is mostly because I've been taking medication my whole life and one of its side effects is decreased sex drive , I happen to...

be an extreme case. I love him so much and we've been friends for quite sometime, like since I was 11. and after dating for about two years he was seventeen and I honestly felt bad because he was super horny and aroused and I felt like I was obligated to do something about it like why should he be stuck playing with himself because his girlfriend is practically a plant, you know?. so we've done stuff and I kinda enjoyed when he fingered me once but other then that even the sex, nothing I can't even act like I enjoy it and sometimes I get distracted and look around like I don't care, but the thing is I do I just don't enjoy myself I practically put myself through it just for him. most people participate in some form of masturbation I'm not even there I never feel sexual about anything; well anyhow me and him broke up a month and a half ago and I'm pretty sure it was over all of this he moved into his own place and he is growing up I respect that and I'm not all on his case, just a little disappointed because I'm almost positive if it weren't for how weird I was in that division he would still be with me, he is a really good looking, witty, artistic, and musically inclined recently working with jason mraz on a demo. and I'm a cute dancer full of energy and life I'm just really lost as to why I can't get to that point of sexuality and frankly emotionally drained, I'm also a little scared to even begin dating again merely because I don't think I can satisfy my partner or even myself. as it is I feel incredibly stupid for posting this, my friends just don't understand. so I was mostly just wondering how do I manage this, and what are your views on my situation?

my preference would be that you weren't rude, I'm dealing with enough as it is.
I've resorted to anonymous site to help solve some of my life issues.

you sound like your dealing with a lot for someone your age. I think the you should ask him if that's why he broke up with you, dont sound angry, upset or nagging, just tell him you would like to improve yourself and you wondering if that was a major problem in your relationship, since you guys have been friends for so long he should truthfully tell you right?

I think the talking to him should help you sort out your problem

well if he broke up with you cause of the sex.. I think its pephetic on his side!! you shouldnt try to dtress your little head out, cause a relationship is not meant to be based on sex its meant to be based on love, trust and communication..

REMEMBER: sex is a bonus

You are far too young to be beating yourself up over this. Boys yours and his age are obsessed with sex and usually confuse it with love. He does not deserve you and as you meet many more guys who will value you for your talent and kindness and looks (U are beautiful!) you will come to realize it was his loss. The sex will come (so to speak LOL!) but do not put all that pressure on yerself. Real men will be patient and help you achieve that level of arousal you are looking for...it takes TIME and can't be rushed.
Hope this helps!
Jennie

talk to your doctor about what the meds are doing to you. they may be ale to help you out. no one should have to go through that.