What do i do about my crush when i'm married?

Ok, I have a huge problem. I have been married for a few years and have children. Our marriage has not been the best. My husband has been emotionally and verbally abusive over the years. He has even thrown a couple of things at me and pushed me a few...

times. He's told me he's wanted to leave me a hundred times. I finally decided a year ago to stop having feelings for him and start planning a way to leave. I would have left sooner but my kids and I were financially unstable to do so. Anyway, a month ago, I started talking more to a friend at work. He's 10 years older than me, but he's so sweet and we have so much in common. I thought he could be a great friend, nothing more. We went out one night as friends and we kissed. It felt so good. This guy and I have hung out a couple of times outside of work since then and we both want to pursue other things but either he or I comes to our senses and realizes that we can't. I have asked him directly if he likes me and he has said yes but I am married so I am off limits to him. He says it's too soon to hang out outside of work anymore because things always happen. He is single and has 2 children and has always made his children his priority which is great because I am like that with my kids. I am just so confused about him. We talk everyday after work and he always stays on the phone with me so I get home safety. He always finds weird little nicknames to call me, and we talk on the weekends as well. Sometimes our work conversations become more exclusive and I think some people have noticed that. He's always finding ways to tease me playfully. Sometimes at work, our eyes lock and we stare at each other for what seems like forever. It's weird though because I am married (my husband has moved out and a divorce is on the way). This guy has told me that I don't need to worry about us (he and I) right now. He says with my children and the divorce I have a lot of other stuff going on in my life that I need to sort out. He says he has a plan for his live and he wants to pursue it. He says we need to start as friends and go from there. He wants to take our relationship slow and have patience. He also tells me he's not going anywhere and I always know where to find him. He just keeps saying there are things more important than us that need to be faced with first. I guess my question is: what is up with this guy? Do you think he has my best interest at heart and is it possible for us to have a relationship later down the road. It seems neither one of us can pull away from each other no matter how bad we want to. BTW: he is not seeing anyone else and there is a girl at work that likes him and he's nice, but everyone can tell there's something different about he and I. What do I do? I really like him.

i think you should try talking to your husband tell him what your feeling about him that your questioning yourself about where this relatonship is going,and tell him that if he doesn't change his ways that your going to leave him.But i think you should definitly talk through it for your childrens sakes.good luck.

I think the guy at work is a prince and you can't do much better than a guy that respects your current situation. He also shows maturity in that he knows you are very valnerable right now. I think he is right to want to take things slow and easy. Develop your friendship and let the romance thing just happen. You will feel a lot better about yourself and have a lot of respect for him if you do.
Good Luck
Gino