Should I give up this relationship without a fight?

A few days ago my boyfriend broke up with me. We dated for 2 years and 7 months, and were high school sweet hearts, first person that either of us dated, kissed and we lost our virginity to each other. I am 17 and entering into my first year of college...

and my ex is 19 and going into his second year. To say the least, I was extremely surprised that he broke up with me...I didn't see it coming at all. Over this past year, he went away to college and we stayed together. He called me all the time and came home often just to see me, even though his college is very far away. He told me that we should go to college together and that I was his ONE, he wanted to be with me forever...he sent me letters through the mail all the time and emailed me constantly telling me that I was his 'baby' and nothing could ever ever EVER change that. In one specific letter he sent me he said that I was the best thing that had ever happened to him and that he felt most himself around me, and that if he ever tried to break up with that I should stop him because he would regret it in the end. Overall, we were in love and I had a wonderful relationship, we did everything together and had fun all the time and were very close to each other. We did fight occasionally but I think it was more like healthy disagreeing. I shared all these feelings with him that he said in this letters, and honestly think that he is the one. But the other day he broke up with me saying that he just wasn't in love with me anymore. I tried to ask him what was wrong, if it was something that I did; and he said no, saying that he was him not me. I asked him to explain to me what he didn't like about me anymore; he said that he liked basically everything about me; he just said that he was confused because he doesn't have 'those' feelings about me anymore. Everyone I am friends with thought that me and him would be together forever. I know that is a lot to think about when I am 17 years old, but I am very level headed and I could just feel that this was it. And now that he left me, I have a broken heart. I don't know if I should try to win him back or just give him space. I still want to be with him because I love him...but should I be with someone who I can't even trust loves me back? what about if we are married with kids one day and he decides he doesn't love me anymore? But would it be stupid for me to give up this relationship without a fight? Most of all, I just can't stop thinking that this whole relationship was a lie, and he was just pretending to love me because he didn't want to hurt me. Should I try to move on, or try to convince him that he loves me? (because I really think he still might even though he says he doesn't). I just don't know what to do and I've been spending all my past couple of days crying and thinking about him...I am miserable. Is there anything out there that can make me feel better?

DONT WORRY IF IT IS MENT TO BE HE WILL CALL you SOON because HE WOULD BE FEELING THE SAME WAY. I FELT THE SAME WAY HE DID ABOUT MY BABY'S DADDY AND NOW WE ARE GREAT. WE CANT WAIT TO RAISE THIS BABY TOGETHER AND DO GOOD. WE SEPERATED FOR A LITTLE BIT BUT NOW WE REALIZED THAT WE CANT BE APART FOR TOO LONG. IT HURTS TOO MUCH.

Hi ,
To be honest with you it sounds like there is something going out there .. maybe he found someone else while he was there and doesnt want to tell u or that he really can't take the long distance relationship anymore...( I know how thats feels trust me in that one since I also have a b/f who we have been going out for close to a year and the long distance is starting to get me ) try to see what really happen and tell him what u feeling since like you said it been 2 years and some months... try talking to him in a direct way but face to face not over the phone... that way you can see face (and normally when a person is lieing you can see it in their eyes unless they are just that good of a liar or something that he does when he lies .. you will fighure it out)and see if he is lieing to you or not... if you think that your relationship is still strong go for it and fight your own battle with him.. and if you see that he really doesn't love you anymore than just move on you are only 17 and there are a lot of guys out there for u ...and look at the bright side .. everything happens for a reason.. maybe there is a better guy for u.. b/c if you truely are met for each other than you will end up together in the long run...if not then there must have been a reason .. you will see that everything will work out for the best .. hope this help and take care .. and do stop cry since and enjoy life since you only got one so enjoy it while you have it.. if you want to see what happens go out with guys and have fun you need that...

Dear broken1234,
When dating young as you both did and making promises to be together forever is why we older folks lecture so much about dating young and making promises. Life goes through many different changes and he went off to college got to know other people and most importantly experienced a different lifestyle. This is one of the stages we go through and yes, they can be life altering. It can be a lesson well learned by you and sadly with much heartache. Take time to reflect, pull yourself together and start dating again. This time try a more casual approach. You also have entered a new stage in life and will no doubt meet new people.
Sue...good luck

Hi,

I know how it feels, To have someone ripped out of your arms... Believe me, it gets better. I can sware you that. Hang in there and you will get better I can promise.

if you feel down feel free to message me, I'll answer.

-Steve