I guess you could say i'm jealous

Hello all, well, I have quite a dilemna that I don't know what to do about, so I came to you fine folk

Okay, well, about a month ago maybe (it doesn't seem like it's been nearly that long), my girlfriend and I broke up. At first, it was more like...

a break because she was getting slight feelings for another guy and kissed him and all that fun stuff, well, I forgave her and all, but she was saying how it wasn't fair to me. Well, about a week after we broke up, she told me that the real reason we broke up was because I broke a promise that was kinda one of those heat of the moment deals. The promise was not as serious as she seemed to make it, but I don't know, well, we have just been acting like best friends since we broke up, but at times, I had a hard time doing that because I only knew her for two weeks before I asked her out, so I didn't really know how to be a friend and not a boyfriend with her. Well, I kept doing stuff that was just me trying to be nice, nothing trying to get her back with me, but just being nice, and every single thing that I did, ended up having the complete opposite effect than I wanted, and she would end up pissed at me for a little. Well, that went on for maybe two weeks, and then last week, we hung out because I wasn't too happy and we just needed to get some things sorted out. Well, we kissed and that was like our closure but she told me a few days later that it shouldn't have gotten my hopes up because she'd never be able to go out with me again, I didn't get my hopes up, but her reason for not being able to go out with me again didn't sit too well with me and was nothing I could control. Her reason was because I didn't really have a very great family, they're not mean or anything, it's just that I don't have a complete family and we don't really do much together except my brother and I. She said that one of the things she was looking for in a boyfriend was a family to be a part of because her family is just her mom since her siblings are moved out and her dad and mom are divorced. Well, I just tried to get over that fact, and just let things go, but we're still really good friends and talking pretty frequently. Well, she trusts me enough to come to me with most of her problems because she knows that I am a good listener and can potentially help. Well, included in that, she is always telling me about this guy that she really likes and how he might like her back but she isn't sure and they hang out a lot and kiss and whatever. But when I'm talking to her, I am supportive and encourage her that he really does like her and she considers me one of her best friends, but really, I think I'm getting jealous because I feel like I got the really short end of the stick. I really want to still be friends with her and I want her to still tell me stuff because I enjoy knowing what's going on in her life, but at the same time, I wish it could still be me that she's going on and on about and at times, it seems like she tries to put the blame on me for a lot of things and not saying that anything is her fault. During those times, I feel like just giving up at being her friend and having nothing to do with her, but then when I'm thinking like that, things get better and I change my mind. Also, even if I do give up on it, I'll never be able to get away from it because she goes to my church and youth group every week and I am not changing churches because of her, especially since I'm the one that brought her. I just don't know what to do. Another thing, like she doesn't really make all the best choices, and I try to persuade her out of it but sometimes she gets mad at me because I'm being too pushy I guess, but I just care about her and know that what she is doing is stupid. So I'm trying to protect her. I keep trying to just be friends with her, but on the inside, I still with she was mine.

I'm not exactly looking for advice, I just needed to vent to someone that isn't a friend of mine. But if you have advice, feel free to give it, because I need it.

Be glad to be her friend. Imagine living with her. Sounds like constant drama, and she likes to project her baggage on you. Pick someone who will drop all of that kid stuff and just BE with you.

Wow, I'm surprised someone read all of that. But with the blaming stuff, she was fine when we were going out, but once we broke up, she made it seem like it was all my fault that it happened. But I really don't think it was.

ALL I CAN SAY IS GOOD LUCK... MAYBE SHELL COME AROUND IN THE MEAN TIME STICK AROUND AND BE HER FRIEND SOUNDS LIKE IF SHES MAKIN BAD CHOICES SHE MIGHT BE LASHING OUT AT SOMETHING THAT DIDNT GO HER WAY. SHE NEEDS A FRIEND LIKE YOU TO KEEP HER IN MIND. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL WANTING MORE THEN TO BE HER FRIEND THOUGH. BUT MAYBE SHE WILL SEE WHAT A GOOD PERSON YOU ARE STANDING BESIDE HER WHEN THINGS ARE TOUGH AND THAT COLD LEAD TO A BETTER THING FOR YOU BOTH IN THE END. GOOD LUCK.

Well, the bad thing is, I'm getting more and more convinced that I'm kinda glad we're not together anymore. Right now, she is making even worse choices than I stated previously, and she knows that I strongly disagree with them and I've been warning her of the consequences, but she just acts stubborn and all my attempts were to no avail. Lately, I've been doubting that she even wants to be friends with me, like at all, it's been seeming like if I say I don't like something she's doing, she'll go ahead and do it again just to smite me. All she is doing is making me angry and making me less and less want to be there for her. It seems like she's using me as a sort of punching bag to release all her stress on. I tell her that I don't like what she's doing, but she says she'll be fine and doesn't believe me about the consequences and when I say what is most likely going to happen. She's acting like I'm dumb and don't know anything, which isn't the case at all. She's acting like she is different than all the other people that do it and she says she'll be fine, but I really don't think she actually thinks that, she just wishes it was true. I feel like giving up. I told her that it was on her shoulders now and she can't say I didn't warn her, and she basically responded with yea, I don't care. I find it that I worry so much more about her health and her well-being than she herself does, and that doesn't exactly fly with me. I'm not going to sit back and watch her kill herself, basically, but it's seeming like I've got no choice.

My opinion is her reason for breaking up with you is kind of rude and a tad bit stupid..not tryna b mean but sheesh when you like sumone you don't break up with them bcoz there families not close..like that's a little mean. She was suppost to be going out with u, not tryna complete the void she had since its just her and her mom, by becoming apart of yours. I just think thats mean and not very fair to u..And about the whole her not caring about you tryna help her, well she really just needs to grow up.Your tryna help her out and protect her,and your letting her relieve all her stress and problems to you when you don't even have to and yet all she has to say is I don't care ??? Well she SHOULD care..she needs to c how good a friend you r and stop taking advantage of that..I think maybe you shud just giv her a little space and back off,giv her time to c what she's missing...but thats just my opinion,I wudnt b sitting around letting her act that way...Good Luck hope I wasn't to harsh and hope I helped a little