What should I do with my feelings about moving?

I'm actually being forced to move, down the street from where I live. It's a bigger house and all, but I live in a townhouse now. I love where I live, the neighborhood, the set-up, etc. I hate change so much.

I have tried multiple times to tell my parents how I feel, but they listen, but don't really respond to what I think. I got into this huge arguement with my mom about this, and I have been cryin' for the longest time now. Basically, I've been cryin' since the day I found out that I am moving.

Our house is planned to close on the 31st of January, and I am not in the mood to cry, and cry for the next who knows how many days. All I seem to do is cry about the fact that I don't want to move, and it's really pissing my mom off.

What should I do?
- Keep convincing my parents that I don't want to move?
- Keep cryin'?
-...or I don't know.

Dear modernwinterbreeze ,

I to am Moving ( this friday) and don't want to. THe way I look at it though is simple it is a brand new year and a completely fresh start. I would say be gla it is only down the street it could be a lot worse...I am moveing to another Island I live on Kauai now and I am going to be moving to Oahu...by my self to mind you that you at the least have your family.

Crying is good it is healthy and you should mourn the lost of t=your Home for another one that is healthy and normal.

I wouldn't get so hung up on it though there is nothing that you can do about it so why not make the best of it? It might be great after all. Plus nothing else in your life is going to change so rejoice that it is only this...

You really have a lot to look forward to you know. I am sure that your parents do care by the way just as I am sure they are doing what they think is better for you.

dark Wolf

come on it's only down the street...I have had to move to a different country 2 times it sucks. I hate it moving but I had to leave my life, my friends (I actually had some), life. I hate where I live now I would do anything to move back to Australia. It kinda pisses me off that your making such a fit about moving down the street. It's not like you have to leave everyhting.

I am sorry but you will just have to stay strong and it shouldn't be that bad if its just down the street. It means you will have to walk farther but thats a good thing. Honestly just think of the pro's. Sure its not the same but sometimes change is for the better.

A lot of our good memories and our sense of security can be tied up in our home. Moving is bound to make us feel a bit insecure. That's normal, and not something to fear. I've moved quite often and usually I feel sad to leave but excited about the new opportunities. I think the key thing is that you 'home' isn't really changing - you'll live with the same people, the same furnishings, even in the same town and area. It's only the 'house' which is changing, which isn't quite the same as the 'home'.

When my son was very unhappy about moving he made a collection of some of the things he loved most about the old house (photos, a pressed flower from the garden) and then took those with him to our new house, so he felt he still had some kind of link to the old memories.

A lot of people find it hard to deal with change. Changing from what we are used to everyday will be quite difficult. Just think, at least it's only down the street and you'll still go to the same school, have the same friends etc. I know that your house will probably hold a lot of memories but your parents obviously have a good reason for wanting to move. It will be a change, think of it as exciting, a whole new oppurtunity if you like.

Good Luck and enjoy your new home.

x