I dont think im giving handjobs right... i'm embarrased when

My boyfriend and I have been seriously commited to one another for about three months now. We are in love, and we have had sex. We are teenagers and both live with our parents, so it can be quite difficult to have sex all the time, and I suppose that...

would get kinda boring. We do other stuff, or attempt to anyways. He always wants to finger me, and eat me out when he can.. he LOVES to do stuff to me, you know.. But thats one of my problems. I shave, he likes it that way and so do I, but no matter what different gels I use or what razors.. I always get red bumps and ingrown hairs... I think its hiteous looking and gross.. so I am usually a bit reluctant to let him venture that way with his hands... and I am completly infatuated with his penis as well... lol... I dont have a problem with preforming oral sex.. but sometimes we can#039;t, and sometimes I don#039;t really want to, you know. It seems like so many times, he wants me to give him a hand job, and thats where the second problem is you see. I want to, and I try to, but its like this.. its dry.. and it doesnt realy look like my hands moving.. it takes the skin with it, and im afraid im hurting him. I've seen him do it himself and it doesnt look like that. he says he likes it but im not sure... when its wet, like if I was preforming oral sex, it seems to work a lot easier. I think if I use lube it would be better but I dont know. and he said once quot;ky?!?! what the f*ck.. im not some kind of sicko masturbation freak...quot; so I dont think hes really into experimenting with that...

is there anything I can do to make his handjobs feel better, besides like technique and what not? And what can I do about my shave bumps that are soo embarrasin?

pleese help me!

hey... dont really know what to tell you about the whole hand-job thing but as for shaving... are you shaving upwards? like how you would shave your legs? because if you are then that can cause bumps. ive had those before when i was shaving like that... but ive noticed that if you shave down like in the direction that your hair grows then you wont get those bumps nearly as bad. also you could try aveeno shave gel... its really good about not irritating the skin. hope that helps. take care!

Try getting your hand wet with silva and just working on the head of it. Also you can try kissing and sucking on his niples while you are giving him a hand job.

ima beautician and truthfully even though it is popular shaving really isnt recommened.it wil cause bumps and ingrowing hairs whether it be shaving after once or twice or several times they eventually appear so as for shaving upwards or downwards it really doesnt make a differnce.if your not comfortable with the idea of waxing (which really isnt as bad as people make it out to be) try depilatory creams/hair removal creams try something free of perfume it would be less irritant to the skin.as for the handjob I would too recommend saliva and thrusting to the skin rather than the penis as somone has already stated

right im a guy and i get given handjob's and i masterbate myself so dont try pullin the dick off it wont work tht will hurt
just move the skin

Ok, So I think I'm a bit older so here's my experience. So the guy does not like ky.. its got a gross name any way. There are a lot of really nice water based lotions that smell good and feel good that you can buy. You can get them on line if u don't want to go to an adult store. Tell him its massage oil... there's nothing like a hand job with a nice smooth massage oil. Careful with condom though if its oil based. My BF loves my handjobs cause of the lotion and it smells good to

Moan while your doing it it tuns them on more so they would injoy the blowjob

For the bikini bumps, try shaving downwards or sideways. It will prevent a lot of them, but nothing can prevent all. Chances are, your guy probably hasn't noticed them. Remember these two things: You always notice things about yourself more than other people notice about you, and if it was really gross to him, he wouldn't want to keep doing it.

As for the handjobs, if he says he likes it, he does. Keep doing what you're doing unless he starts saying it hurts. KY jelly apparently turns him off, so stear away from lubes, lotions, and oils. If pulling his skin bothers you, wet your hands with water.

Hope I helped!

use lotion down there. I do and its smooth.

ok for starters with the shaving part if you use Nair that really does help and it works really goos without irration and to tell you tha truth waxingreally doesnt hurt all that bad and about the hand job try like spitting on your hand or sumthing and focus more on the skin and the head it always works for me I mean don't hawk a luggy in your hand but you know what I mean...

the way I see it is ask what he likes...
while giving a hand job just ask if he wants it rougher, softer, with more pressure... you wont know if your doing it right uness you ask

For the bumps shave downward and the handjon, use lotion or lube

give him a blow job first get it wet then use your hands

skinnymini22, Nair isn't supposed to be used down there... D;

I've been through what you're feeling. I know you're probably freaking out inside your head and wondering how can I make him go NUTS!?... but the truth is.. JUST BE YOURSELF. You need practice a little confidence boost. When you're giving a handjob, you have to make it fun for the both of you! You don't have to be a sex monster or addict.. and you don't have to try to seduce him with dirty talking, you can just be flirty and be seductive!
It's going to be really uncomfortable if you make it that way.

And as for the bumps, its called razorburn. And it itches! I KNOW!
The first time I let a guy finger me, I was SOOO scared that he was going to be turned off by the bumps I had from shaving. Try rubbing lotion on yourself after you shave, that might help. No gaurentees, though.
Hope this helped! JUST STAY CONFIDENT

u could try to do a blow job...full mouth no saliva on hand...but if your not into that

just use lube...oh ya and it the skin and if hes not circumsiced it will look weird depednding on what your used to

As for the shaving part, that is something every female has to endure when she takes her razor on an adventure down there. Much similar to the first response, maybe opt to try waxing or cream to provide a smoother, less irritable approach.

Now for the handjob, I understand exactly what you mean, because I had the same problem with my boyfriend. I've learned that the more comfortable you are, the better you will feel about it. I know it may not seem right and you probably will think its wrong, but I would just give it a little time, and wait for the pre-cum. That always seemed to work for me (;

If you have any other questions, feel free to ask me 3

when I give my boyfriend a handjob he likes it better if I go real fast and hard
I've enev asked him, it makes him get off faster
if your worried bout it being dry give him a blow job then do it

sorry I've got nothing for the other question

heyy.. I recently just gave my first handjob.. and I thought I was doing it wrong too.. uhmm your most likely doing it right.. lol its pretty simple.. its like jerking them off. and sometimes you can gently stroke his balls , it gives them a tickle .. and he will enjoy that.. but the balls are very senstive soo be very careful !!