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I don't understand him! please help?

Asked by fallenmoo 10 months ago, 7 answers.

I was hanging out with an old guy friend ( no longer friend's) and we had sex. Only reason why I had sex with him was because I was curious and he just wanted it. After that he said that he didn't want to hang out anymore after tonight, which is fine....

Anyway I was fine up till after ward we finished, he decided to smoke a cig and tell me about how I should get a boyfriend. (note: I never really wanted to be in any kind of committed relationship so there for wasn't really looking for a boyfriend) He told me I need to change my hair color, change my style to show off my boobs, and I need to learn to talk more to guys. It hurt when he said all of those things. But I told him I already did talk to guys and that I did have guy friends. He then said well those are just friends. I then told him well I'm not interested in committed relationship. So he preceded to give me a lecture on and on at how bad it is to live with no committed relationship. Now this is the part were I felt mixed up because it made no since. Here is a guy that doesn't want any commitment but is telling me to go into a committed relationship? I don't understand and I'm so confused. Does anyone understand what a guy means by saying this?

Answered by funadvice on Jan 13, 2009, 05:41PM
53829 answers

Um what a douche bag... wtf... that sounds like it was awkward...
Just ignore him, he sounds stupid..

Answered by 1984_star on Jan 13, 2009, 05:42PM
38 answers

it could be that he would wanna be your boyfriend but doesnt really like your style
or maybe he was just trying to make a conversation

Answered by keyonna_23 on Jan 13, 2009, 05:44PM
13 answers

wow..

He's Saying He want you in a commited relationship probaly because he doesnt want to hang around youand see you alone; but has he ever been in one or at least tried to?

you dont have to change who you are to get a boyfriend even if you wanted 1 .

Answered by americaneagle77 on Jan 13, 2009, 05:44PM
547 answers

maybe4 he wants to be your boyfriend but thinks you should change and be a little bit more social with the guys. but who knows? sometimes guys can confuse you. it depends.

Answered by bonita94 on Jan 13, 2009, 06:01PM
39 answers

Wow. SOMEONE needs to develope some moral values. I mean, come on! You have sex with a guy, yet you're not looking for any kind of commitment? How low is that? Honestly, that's what's wrong with the world today.

Answered by angelfire2708 on Jan 13, 2009, 07:20PM
7794 answers

Its obvious you dont like yourself. You have sex with a guy that you dont even like, because you were curious and he just wanted it. Talk about your lack of self respect! It doesnt matter why he said what he said...Ask yourself why you did what you did!!