Am i a bad person for believing a rumor?

Ok so around Valentine's day one of my friends told me that I had a secret admirer. I had to know who it was. After nagging her for more information, she finally cracked. She told me who he was. When I found out I was practically hypervenalating. I have...

had a crush on the guy for years and he likes me. ? So I went back to school on Monday and scoped out my school until I found him. We stared to talk a little. The on the actual day of Valentine's day he walked up to me after class (a class we had together) and he handed me a box of candy, he was so sweet. Then about a week later I heard these awful rumors that he was a player. After heard this I had a hard time talking to him without wonderingif he was really a player. Ater a while we barely talked and then I found out that he was going out with another girl (a younger one at that) and I kind of felt crushed but I also knew that I probably hurt him by ignoring him for so long. Am I a bad person for believing a rumor? Now I think about him a lot and I might be going to the same college as him, so eventually I will have to face him again. What should I do? Will someone please help me with this dillema?

Even though you werent talking all that much to him after you heard those rumors, he didnt have to blow you off so quickly. I have learned that if one person says something about someone, i might tend to push it aside, and wanna see for myself, but when more people say the same thing, chances are its true! He sure didnt waste anytime moving onto another girl! Players tend to do that. You have nothing to feel guilty about. If he cared for you in the least, he would have tried harder to communicate with you.

Dear prettygurly21,
Since you're about to start college then I am assuming you are at least 18...this is an age where and a time in your life that you will have to start being a little less gullible and more self-confident. What a wonderful way to start with when you see him walk up to him and ask him, remember when you gave me a box of chocolates for V-day...that was very sweat and it touched my heart I just wanted to thank you. I believe from there you will have a great conversation with him and perhaps get the answers you're looking for. You both are older and will have a more mature conversation.
Sue...good luck

this kinda stuff happens all the time, so i wouldn't be too hard on yourself.
and from personal experiance, rumors aren't always true- so it's not good to jump to conclusions, but in the same breath, something usually happens to cause a rumor to start.
so, i guess my advice is to not beat yourself up about it, and if you really feel bad, just confront him about it. h
ope i helped and good luck! :]

People stir up rumors to break people apart, it usually works ironically. You need to tell him what happened and say you're sorry i guess. Tell him what you feel too. I hope this short response question helps, if you need anything funmail me

-steve