I am too shy!! i really do need some help!!

I am really shy and I don't know what to do. My parents laught at it and say that it will go as soon as I'm a bit older but will it???
I can't speak in front of people, and when a teacher asks me a question I look stupid, but I'm not - I just can't be...

able to make myself to speak!!!
Or when I had a boyfriend, it was really aquard between us, I had no clue what to talk to him about and he dumped me saying I was boring - but I'm not, I'm just shy!!!
When we're in a group, everyone talks about big brother and what they watched in telly and I can't even make myself to do that!!! Seriously - there must be something wrong with me.
People give me excuses like that I'm not english and stuff, but I know it must be something else.
And the teacher's get annoyed with me as well, cause I'm good at things and they want me to answer questions and I just sit there looking idiotic.
And what's more, I go really red and then I cry and my ex keeps reminding me every day how shy I am, which is sad to hear from a person you love.
But anyway - always, since I was little, I loved acting and making films and once when I was nine (which was ages ago) I overcame my shyness, and made this really cool play, which I and my friends performed in school and in a nursery. But since then I just keep writing scripts, no one knows how much acting meens to me as I'm so shy and I just need to overcome this or I will never achive anything in my life which I love. So please help!!!

Due to the severity of your problem, you might have social anxiety disorder. I have it and require psychological help.
As for advice, I've been shy since I was a little kid. I'm still shy but it gives me confidence to know that I have other talents that compensate for my lack of social skills.

Oh wow, it's like hearing myself speak some 7 years ago... Everybody has their own way of growing out of shyness, so I don't now which way is yours, but I can tell you that it will happen, so don't worry, you'll find your way! This is what happened to me too - I was *extremely* shy in school, until I got into high school and started changing, then I came to the USA for college and that changed the rest of me dramatically... Now people can't believe I was ever shy! And I'm not English/American either! So don't worry, you can do it too! I don't know how old you are, but you sound like you're in high school - that's when people change the most, high school and then college. Find something you love and concentrate on it - like acting - that will give you confidence. The key is to be confident and comfortable with yourself. Then that confidence will radiate out of you and will connect you better with other people. Be strong and love yourself, and others will love you too I hope that helps, and good luck! (btw are you latina? I'm just asking because of how you say telly like la tele hehe

U know, this could sound unbelievable, but allot of actors were very shy once. It sounds ike you could be an actor.

What helped me, is I stood in front of any thing that you will think that will help you and keep doing it untill you feel better about it. Then you can call up one of your friends and have them come over and you can talk to them!! But with your x-boyfriend when you are not so shy any more blow hom away with all of the things that you can do now and he will feel so stupied and you will feel a hole lot better about your self!!!!!!!!!!1 I promis If you need any thing else e-mail me at Fun mail me

well think if u can talk about it online maybe u need to teachur self how to talk to someone in front of u try practicing like if u have a picture of ur boyfrind try practicing talking to the picture or just tell him about ur problem. just think if u can talk to people on line why not in person

I can't give you any advice, but I feel your pain because I'm super shy too. People have asked me why i'm so quiet and I don't know what to say, it's kind of a stupid question. Don't worry I understand how much it sucks to be shy, but hopefully you ( and me!) will get over it as you get older ( not meaning to sound like your parents).

i am really shy infront of people i dont really know good and i got dumped cause she said i was stupid cause i didnt knwo what to say or do. and when i do talk noobody even listens to me and i dont know what to do. please help me. i just want to talk to new peopel without just standing there staring at random things.ts so embarrasing. and when im with my friends im am still shy and i dotn know what to do.

your stupid

You have the same problem i have! I just wish i can get over it. I used to be bullied for that in school. But i wish the best for you

loosey goosey, man. loosey goosey. even in those tight situations where you feel like exploding, keep your cool.

Hi, I am 13 and have the same problem as you. When a teacher calls on me I cant say anything, I get so embarrest I almost cry, everyones looking at me. I know it sucks SO bad, but my mom says you have to push yourself and try to come out of your shell. You must believe you can overcome your shyness and it will work.

Ditto with me. I didn't have a computer when I was in school so I'm glad I have one now so I can at least have SOME sort of social life. I'm 29 and live with my parents, still. I DO have social anxiety but medication (ALL types) for it in my family have had very bad effects so I never went down that road. The worst part is when people try telling you that you can just get over it when some people can't (but HAVE tried many times). Or those people online who insist you just need to meet them and take chances and they'll get you through it. Don't let people talk you into it if you don't feel comfortable. Some people don't and will never know what this feels like. I sure wouldn't say it's at all healthy, but there is far worse that could be going on. It sucks to have missed out on so much in life because of these feelings. For me, I wasn't popular in school, got made fun of a lot and it stuck with me. The low self esteem, the feeling of failure, etc. People say that makes you stronger or you deal with it, but it's not always that easy for some people. I used to have to do oral reports in school. I did wrote them down and did the work, but said I didn't when I got called on to read. One time I actually volunteer to read first and nearly passed out (nobody noticed, teachers never cared). I did pass out in a haunted house once because it was so crowded (had to stand right next to people). I can be fine in a store one second and the next about to get sick or black out. Having a regular job is a no-go at the moment. I've had them but they didn't go so well. I think for me, it's the fear of being rejected or having someone see/hear me flub up. If I have someone with me, I let them do the talking so they don't witness me being so nervous. I hope those of you with the same problems do manage to overcome it. But know there are others like you dealing with it.

sounds kinda like me.I was really shy in elementry but then like 2 years or something I wasn't..but then my shyness came back.I have no clue why. I'm home schooled but before that I was in a public high school last year and I was very shy.I had no almost no friends.Only like 5 or something.but I didn't sit with them at lunch.I sat by myself:[ then there was a new girl was at my school and we became best friends right away.because I guess we have lots in common.so yeah anyway.I'm homeschooled and like 10 min ago my mom knocked on my door and said I have to go back to public school because my sis is getting really depressed and if she goes I have to go back too.Now I'm like super sad because I'm afraid to go back to school and be the really shy lonley girl again.and omg I want to be an actress too! no one believes me that I can:/ like every time I've told someone that I want to be a famous actress they just laugh, and it really does hurt me b/c I want it so bad.Like even my dad just tries to move on to the next subject when I talk to him bout my acting dream.But I know I WILL someday.So yeah just like when you see someone in your class that looks like they might have a lot in common talk to them.just say hey.omg I was almost late.and smile..
like you know stuff like that.
hopefully that will help.

I was really out going in my first primary or elementary school but when I moved this boy kknocked the confidence out of me but now im up in high school or secondary school I have loads of freinds have met a boy I like and have started to get my confidence back

I think that you should feel comfortable enough around the pple your with to talk to them join in the convo feel like you can do watever you can including overcoming your shyness

IM THE SAME I cant think of stuff to say and so none hangs around me and I cant help it! but yes you will grow out of it! because I did! dont worry its a phase

IM THE SAME

I am the same and I want to be an actor aswell. Sometimes I am shy sometimes I arent it depends on my mood. In class I just sit hoping that teacher wont pick me sometimes she does and I like panick and sometimes muck up what I am going to say. In primary school grade 2 to 5 iwas confident, but then my friend moved away and I grew shy I have no idea how? I am also afraid of the phone which my mom thinks is immature because I cant even answer it or call anyone, which really annoys me!!!

im really shy too... I cant get over it (im a guy) but ill say just try your best to stop

I think I'm shy too :S I mean somtimes I'm crazy and it seems like I get along with the people I'm with but then I might say somthing and they do a sarcastic face at me. It really hurts and I feel horrible. I now go to a private school and occasionaly som1 says why are you so serious? because I guess I just forget to smile somtimes and there's the sarcastic face again. I think Im losing confidense :s any suggestions to what I can do to be more possitive?

I am the same. I was not really that shy in middle school but I had to move and when I went to the new school I tried to be myself and people kinda treated me like I was weird. Then when I got to high school the shyness got so worse. I had like no friends at all. I hung around two people but I like never talked to them I just listened and when they went to there friends I would follow them and not say anything. It was so awkard and embarrasing! Now Im homeschooled and I hate it cause I have no one to talk to and I feel so lonely every day