Hymen not broken?

i lost my virginity recently and did not bleed. it hurt like hell even though we used lots of lube, i was relaxed and trusted and loved the person. we have done it a total of 5 times now and it still hurts just as much as the first time, with all the...

necessary preparations... and still no blood. just pain every time. is this normal? what can i do? if the hymen hasn't broken, wouldn't the damn thing finally stretch, at least? i know it's only 5 times but there's no tendency of lessening of the pain. i'm starting to associate sex with pain and that's not good. please help!

p.s. i'm a dancer and sporty, ride bikes a lot and all that, but it seems like i have one hell of a hymen.

Talk to your doctor, it can be cut if necessary.

Some women's hymens cover the vaginal opening with only small holes for menses to pass. The hymen can be quite flexible so it is possible that it has only stretched when you've had intercourse. This could be your problem. You should see a doctor.

omg that sounds scary! losing my hymen to the scalpel. anyway, thanks for the responses. i should stop being chicken and go see a doctor.

This is why you need to goto the doctor its because every women has a different shaped hymen and sometimes its closed w/ a very small opening. http://www.healthystrokes.com/hymengallery.html (no explicit photos) So you may need surgery to modify yours. You could also try different sized dildos... ie start with a small one and work your way up... but thats just an idea...