How can he break my hymen without pain?

Me and my boyfriend have just recently started having sex. Lately it has been hurting a lot and my boyfriend wants to break my hymen but it does not seem to be working and the pain is killing me! It does it rough and everything trying to break it. What...

is the best way for him to break it without all the pain? Will it hurt after the hymen breaks so much???

I feel so damn stupid asking this but...what exactly is fore-play? someone please msg me and tell me

foreplay is what you do with your partner before having actual intercource. for a girl, the guy can finger her to warm her up or lick her vagina. to keep from having pain I recomend that you are sure that you are completely aroused! so you have to be very hot and wet! see if he will do some of the foreplay things I mentioned above and it will be easier for you

I agree with the fact that you might need more lubrication me and my boyfriend when we first started dating would have sex multiple times in one day for months and I would get so sore to the point that I would bleed or I would be in so much pain it hurt to wipe after going to the bathroom. so maybe its not that you havent broke your hymen its that you arent wet enough. breaking your hymen you feel a lot of pressure and it feels uncomfterable and sometimes painful. so try lube not honey or any of that crazy stuff because if you want to experiance good sex try things that are actually made to help. not food...

Oh my gosh you seriously can't be the sharpest tool in the shed If you are in pain DO NOT get him to be rough!! your hymen is most likely already broken and well being rough will just make the pain worse!! sex is meant to hurt the fist few times so just take it slow and don't worry so much about your hymen. If it hasn't improved after a while see your doctor.

look hun if it hurts tell him why your feeling pain and tell him to go slow and in your own time use a vibrator to do things slower I dont think you have broken your hymen if you still feel a lot of pain look at it and go on a porn website or something and look at theres

He can't. If you don't want the pain, then don't have sex but since you already have...just let it happen on it's own and try Tylenol...or Aleve or something. :-)

Are you sure it is not broken? If you are having sex it should have already been torn. Maybe you are still too tight? or you may not be lubed enough. My boyfriend accidentally broke mine by fingering me too deeply it didn't hurt when he did it that way, however, sex was still uncomfortable because I was still tight. Just take it slow.

hi All answers, may be ok, but like to inform you that you may have elastic hymen. It needs an operation...small one...do it and be relaxed...!!!Enjoy

doesnt matter what technique you try, to break your hymen it must hurt! the first time it will not completely break, depends how much force he puts on you. It took me and my guy two times before breaking it, and it hurt like hell. if you wanna break it quicktime, I suggest you don't wait, because if you do your punny becomes a bit more tighter so it will make it harder.

whas a silly ques. woh lun mein depend karta hai jitna bda lun utni hi jyada dard hogi or vice-versa

get a boyfriend with a bigger dick for godsake..

dont worry about breaking it.. it is natural.. and if you feel its painful I suggest you go thru with the pain once and finish it than to be in pain ever time you guys make love. use lubes and consult a good doctor. ull do great.. dont worry..

hey guys, have you ever heard about the elastic hymen? it usually takes time to break because it would just stretch whenever you're having sex. it's painful. others needs minor surgery.

Wow there are some harsh responses here. YES your hymen can still be intact after having sex, but be sure you know correct anatomy of the hymen. My boyfriend and I had sex FOUR TIMES before I felt mine tare. I was on top, rocked back and forth and Arh! It was a split second of ouch and it was over :D
Lube is great and as others have said, you might be just sore Get some lube and ONLY DO WHAT YOU ENJOY! IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT HIM!
THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS A STUPID QUESTION GIRLS :D

it shouldnt matter if its broken or not .

damn! ok, well fore play is what you do before sex...fooling around and stuf...as for the hymen debacle, your hymen is not inside your vag, its on the outside...and it can hurt even after youve lost your virginity because you might have an elastic hymen...this may sound kind of gross, but if you reach down from behind, put your finger in your vag and pull back, slowly but firmly, you can break it...and it may hurt...thats all I can say, good luck!

It is quiet simple to break your hymen. Have sex about4-6 times and you will feel less pain if you continue to have sex very often. Its just a matter of time, before you know it all the pain is gone.

some girls need it to be surgcly brocken

Perhaps everyone should find a professional site with doctors who answer your questions to give you information. I am surprised at the misinformation and hurtful comments people are leaving for this young woman. Your hymen is/was a thin piece of tissue that probably stretched across just the bottom part of your vaginal opening. It is not someplace deep inside, and your partner doesn't need to have a long penis to be about to break it. Your best bet would definitely be to enjoy yourself in other ways and gradually work your way toward penetration. If you are warmed up and excited enough, it will make it easier. My fiance and I used to french kiss and make out for hours and then he would finger me just a little more each time. One day my hymen just broke by itself with no pain. Take it slow, get a good water-based lube to help you out, and enjoy being together.