How can he break my hymen without pain?

Me and my boyfriend have just recently started having sex. Lately it has been hurting a lot and my boyfriend wants to break my hymen but it does not seem to be working and the pain is killing me! It does it rough and everything trying to break it. What is the best way for him to break it without all the pain? Will it hurt after the hymen breaks so much???

This is a stupid question for me to ask but are you sure you know what one looks like and you have one, why do you care to break it so much maybe you dont have one. Your not a virgin anymore if you have had sex

Why are you so concerned about breaking your hymen? Youve been having sex, I highly doubt yours is still intact. The hymen may only PARTIALLY separate while growing up through exercise or stretching. It is also possible that through mas*urbat*on, tampon use or sexual activities, the hymen may not completely separate, so it is possible that if she engages in vaginal intercourse, this will cause the hymen to separate completely. If you are experiencing pain....it does NOT have anything to do with your hymen. You probably need to be more lubricated!!!

just let it happen on its own!

Like everyone else has said don't worry so much about your hymen anymore... its already been stretched / torn... now you just have to concentrate on slow sex with lube after a while you will feel better...

regards,
jason

I agree with everyone dont worry so much about it and about the pain thing just ask your boyfriend to go sloweritll hurt less

when he enters you does it hurt? or when your having sex? 'because normally depending on the size of him, it'll stretch and hurt a little when he first enters you when he's on top. but if you've already had sex then your hymen has already broken unless he's not long enough which I highly doubt. so use lotz of lubricant because if your not wet enough or aren't aroused enough it hurts at first. try that and see how it goes.

If it hurts, I wouldn't have him try to be rougher. Maybe go to a doctor and get checked out. If he is rough trying to break it, then yes it will definitely hurt and you will probably bleed.

One way to avoid painful sexual intercourse is to have a very hearty and effective fore-play. It opens up the pelvic and releases enough fluid to grease the entire vigina, making penetration less painful and most often, very exciting.

ok its imposible to break your hymen without any pain im sorry but ins the truth. I broke mine myself for the fact I didnt want it hurting durind sex so I looked it up. and found where it was ind broke it myself. good luck on breaking it kuz it hurts a lot and im sayin wantin to scream kind of hurt so good luck you will need it.

I have the exact same problem ... Everyone says since she's had a sexual intercourse she does not have a hymen anymore. For my case, he has never been able to enter, ... I think maybe because my hymen is still at least partially there ... What should I do?

I wish I had a better answer for you.

Me and my girlfriend of 4 1/2 years are having the same problem and I can really sympathize with how hard all of this.

I do know that their is a surgery that can be done but at 1500 dollars, it's well outside the price range of two college kids, like us, supporting ourselves.

Planned Parenthood is a good resource to use for some FREE advice. Unfortunately they don't really specialize in helping you to have sex. Planed parenthood are more focused in preventing unwanted pregnancies and helping new parents but despite that they are still all doctors who deal in this sort of thing.