How to stop the love of my life from leaving...

I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year now. We were best friends for a while then we dated for 5 months once before but she left me because she still had feelings for her first love that didn't end up turning into anything. She dated for a...

while and we hung out on a friend basis for about 8 months. She began to realize that the person she was looking for in the other men was me and that she did love me so we gave the relationship another shot. The first few months were amazing. We were highly sexual and had a great time together. We finally said I love you to each other. From there it began to deteriorate. She slowly backed away from me. The time in between sex became greater. There was a lot of stress in both of our lives. I gained 30 pounds which I know contributed to our lack of sex but I was still the same person. The past few months have been really bad with her switching from a very close affectionatte mood where she holds me all night long to a mood where she appears like I'm the last person she wants to be around. She says she has doubts and that the relationship has gotten boring and dull, yet she is the first person to go straight to the computer and ignore me all the time when we get home and she is the person that causes the silence most of the time. SHe says we don't talk like we used to and have the same fun as we used to. We have very different hobbies and our music taste has drastically changed from liking the same things to hating each other's music. Since we have been together we have grown apart instead of grown closer. I am fairly certain that a large part of it is because her ex-boyfriend hurt her so bad that she just can't bring herself to commit to another long term relationship, despite the fact that I know she really does love me. She says she can't see her love going any further than it is and to the point where we could spend the rest of our lives together. We almost broke up about 2 months ago but decided to try things again, but she didn't try very hard at all. It almost seems like her decision to break up now was so that she could spend all her time on the computer instead of with me. I know that she is struggling greatly with her own feelings and emotions due to all of the problems with her life and I know that forces her to stay distant. Is there ay advice anyone can give me on how to help her escape this fear she has of letting herself truly love me and commit to a long term relationship instead of running to her computer and ignoring issues? She means so much to me and to be without her is going to be so hard. Those 8 months that we were apart last time after we first went out were the worst of my life. It's so hard seeing the person you love so much in the arms of someone else. I know that everytime she thinks of forever and the one for her to spend the rest of her life with she thinks of me, but she can't go through with it because of some mental and emotional block. Can anyonehelp me?

my boyfriend was like that. He was scared and hurt but he told me this and he tried. surprise her with a romantic dinner.Take her to a romantic spot that shes probably never seen. If she goes to the computer go over there and talk to her.

well we have officially broken up but i refuse to accept it. she is the one i want to spend the rest of my life with and she makes it obvious that she loves me but keeps saying that she needs to work on herself and fix herself so that one day, we might get back together or she might be able to fully love someone else but that she cant keep trying anymore. i think its total bullshit and she is just a quitter. she is my best friend and the reason i get up in the morning. i know she is hurting badly now that she cant figure out herself and her life and thinks that being together right now would just make it harder because she would feel even worse that she couldnt be the girlfriend i deserve. she still wants to remain close friends while we are apart but how can i do that when im still so much in love with her. i would give up everything and do anything to have her back. argh. do i just hit the bottle and drink til i forget she exsists or do i continue to chase her and possibly push her away or do i just go along with things and give her her break up and hope that she will come back to me one day? im hurting so bad right now i almost wish i had never met her. how can one person make you feel so happy and then cause u so much pain?

what i think is that if she's scared,and has fear in her heart,you'll have to let her be alone and let her be to herself,let her get herself together give her some space a woman gets tired of a man when he's all in her space sometimes,try to talk to her ask her what's wrong? what do i need to do to make every thing alright?wat can i do to make things better between us? and if she ditches you,mabey she don't want to be with you anymore,and she just don't know how to say it.
mabey she's getting to a point where she does'nt care about being in a relationship anymore
and if you love her so much you do anything in your power to please her do anything to change her mind about that fear,if it takes every breath out of your body,you have to switch up a woman gets tired of the same ol thing do some more exciting things,something she might be interested in doing,if she still acts the same don't give just yet,go to GOD with these issues because we all know he can help us better than anybody,and anything,talk to him tell him your problem,you can talk to god like your talking to your brother or friend,but he understands better than anyone,talk to him and pray to him,if things still go wrong,and you prayed to the good lord above,that means IT'S NOT MEANT TO BE! LET HER GO!! if people wanna walk out your life,and you do all you can and they still wanna go LET THEM GO!! you have no control over that at all.
you'll meet people that GOD sends in your life that means they're the people who are gonna stay in your life. that's what i believe.but i wish you guys the best of luck!! and may GOD BLESS YOU BOTH!!!