How to break up with a girl you got pregnant

how is the best way to break up with a girl you got pregnant I was going to break up with her three nights ago but didnt get the chance because she told me she's pregnant.
now I don't want to make it seem like I am breaking up with her because she is...

pregnant, cause I dont want to hurt her, but today she was taking about marrige that made me freek out and now I want out but dont now how to do it some body help!!!

I think that telling her that if she decides to keep the baby, you will be a father to that child. However, the feelings have for her do not run deep enough for marriage.

I don't think you have to say much more than that. Once those words are out, the break up will happen naturally...

But you DO have to pull thru on the father part...regardless if you two aren't together.

phrannie

thats your fault you should've thought it before I'd check to make sure she isn't be 4 you do cus tats f-uped it'll b your kid thats not rite just to leave like tat no matter what circumstances do you know how hard it will be for her you should be there to help her out but check first she may just b sayiong she is to keep you you better double think on this I only have one life to liv dont screw it up

Tell her the truth. Say I know I got you pragnant but I have a really big future ahead of me. Tell her that you will send her money to help her pay for the baby. Also say that you wanna call her to tell her to tell the baby happy birthday. Then when she starts to cry tell her its probably best for you to leave then never see her again but send her the money and wish the baby happy b-day thats it.

well she is deff pregnant I made sure of it anyway shes not the type to lie but why would I stay with some one I don't like any more I am not going to just ditch her I just dont want to be a pair any more

kitkat123
thanks for the addvice again

If you want you could give your friend her number and tell them to breakup with her for you.

that is the worst thing you dont get your friend to break up with someone, especially when she is pregnant

thats kind of a childish way of doing it I would rather do it in person but I need to now the words to use

Be a man and father your child.

It took both of you to make a baby and you shouldn't just leave her alone with it because you don't have feelings for her anymore. You should take some responsibiliy and agree to taking care of the baby equally. You don't have to be together, but you need to take care of the kid, be in his or her life and show them that you're not a complete jerk that just got their mom pregnant, fell out of love with her, and left.

As for breaking it off with her... well you says she's talking marriage and you want to break up... it's not gonna be easy on her and you know that, it's obvious. Tell her you love her as a really good friend, but don't really want to be a couple anymore. Explain to her that it wasn't because of her pregnancy, you just want some space and don't have as strong of feelings for her in a couple kind of way.

Good Luck, and like I said, be a man and be responsible for your baby.

thank you very much here2help

No problem!

just as I post in my other comment..you need to talk to her..tell her..advice her..tell her nicely..and love ..that you and her are not ready..to put this stress on your selfs or your parents..you to need both start your carer first.. you have every right to state what you fill.. and just slowing go to your uc... and chat to her and sloiwnf let it die out

or you can also talk to her..but dont make it sound like your breaking up with her abotu that. I say dont even break up with her right now.. jsut focus on the part about telling her..not to have the baby..becasue both of you are not ready..again both of your need your school .and dont need to put this stress on your family..

well first see if she is really preg! I know people who would do anything to stay with somenone so make sure she is telling the truth. if you are really not feelin her anymore because she said marriage than maybe tell her that you two can still be together but you are not ready for marriage, but I you just dont like her than tell her what you have been telling the people on funadvice , stay in the kids life you will regert not being there in the end

there is no easy way to break up..
just be honest.. !! and tell her that you will be there for the baby.. case close.. if she cries..let her cry...but dont get married. if you aren't ready to get married..
if you guys live together.. move out!!

Tell her you don't have feelings anymore and you don't want to be with her. But also tell her you will be there for the baby and she better make damn sure she gets child support.

One of my friends got into such situation last year.. any way lets put it my way.
This is life, it might sound selfish and what ever and as an I am a aeithest don’t bring the religious crap in it either. To me the most important person is me, most important thing is my well being, my life, fun, sex and what not.
I don’t always like protected sex, matter of fact I hate it, and that’s why I just wont sleep around with every girl I see in the street.
Any way..this is your life, Sex is Sex, straight up…. Its not like you applied force to have sex with her or what ever, if she gets pregnant its not all your or her fault. She has the option to abort the baby. If she doesn’t want to that’s her problem not yours, you didn’t plan on to have kids with her and it may be convincible and don’t take it the wrong way… Not your responsibility… heck with the important future words and stuff. This is your life, We are human, Sex in our nature…. Just cause 1 women gets pregnant doesn’t mean you have to settle down and chose to live a different life style. Tell her you was gona break up with her before the news break..and most of all you don’t want to marry any one any time soon nor have any kids., its your life and you want most outa it.. the world don’t give a thing about u… nor should you give a stuff about it…
Coming outta me, a very well off dedicated bachelor. All the best