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How can I tell my boyfriend to back off about sex?

Asked by fau about 1 year ago, 7 answers.
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ok soo my boyfriend is realy great and all but whenever I talk to him he only basically talks about f*ng*ring me and me giving him a h*ndj*b and its so annoying because I dont want to. I told him I did, then I told him I didnt and then I told him I did again..and I dont want to im really not ready im only 14 and he is going wayy to fast. we have only kissed once. and now hes talking about going farther and im like uh NO. hes getting really annoying and I want to break up with him kinda because hes going too fast but I couldnt bare to break up with him because he would be devastated because he tells me he loves me so much and I mean everything to him and all this other stuff..I really need to find a way to tell him to back off a little, and if he doesnt, how should I end it?? I just feel like I want a boyfriend who isnt so perverted. I guess I dont want to get him mad so I just tell him he can do what he wants to me but I know im going to regret it if I let him because I dont think we should be together.

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Answered by liluxo on Jul 05, 2007, 10:48AM
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When you do things sexually with another person, it should be enjoyable for the BOTH of you. If your boyfriend loves you, it means he respects your need to go slowly and he will not pressure you into things you're not ready for. If he keeps up this behavior, he doesn't love you- you deserve someone who will be on the same page as you and respect you! It is okay to break up with someone for this reason, if he makes you uncomfortable then he isn't right for you, and you can tell him that.

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umm famous! Answered by hugsxkisses on Jul 05, 2007, 08:44AM
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I think you should tell him how you feel. let him know and hopefully he will be okay with the truth. if he wants to be a father at age 14 fine, but dont let you be the mother. wayy to young hun.

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Answered by angelfire2708 on Jul 05, 2007, 10:17AM
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You cant have that attitude! Listen to what you are saying> " I guess I dont want to get him mad so I just tell him he can do what he wants to me but I know im going to regret it if I let him because I dont think we should be together." He is NOT treating you like a person, he is treating you like an object. Any guy who truly cares about you, would never push you into doing anything you dont want to do! Thats NOT a great boyfriend hun! He doesnt seem to care about your feelings in the least, only what he wants! Tell him straight out that he is moving way too fast for you in the relationship, and that you want to take things slow, and get to know one another better. If he cant except that, and says your acting like a baby, or some other rediculous excuse..tell him he just isnt worth keeping! He needs to respect you. If he thinks thats all a girlfriend is for..then maybe he should get himself a blow up doll!

Dont lower your morals, and standards on a loser like that. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders at your age..stick with your decision, and dont let him talk you into anything. You will regret it if you do. Relationships are where two people make decisions together, not one being in control all the time! Never let any guy control you.

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Grandpapa Answered by llewellyn on Jul 05, 2007, 12:26PM
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I agree with the others. I would come right out and tell him to back off. If he pushes you even one more time after that, I would leave if I were you. It sounds like he is only after one thing. If he really loved you so much, then he definitely would not be trying to force you into anything or make you uncomfortable in any way. I wouldn't even worry about making him angry or hurting his feelings at all.

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Answered by emjo123 on Jul 18, 2007, 06:20PM
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If you keep telling him you dont want s*x and he keeps saying please or something just tell him we need a little time apart so you can think about staying with him or break up for good.

Thunder Robot Answered by funadvice on Jul 19, 2007, 09:23AM
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tell him that I can give him s e x..instead

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screaming without words Answered by alostandbrokenmind on Aug 25, 2007, 11:27AM
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im guna be blunt ok this is not nesarly what all guys do , but most will tell you that they love you and you are the everything when they want something , there are some genral guys who mean that sort of thing but most dont unfortunalty!!! and if you dont think hes right for you then to be honest I wud just break it off , if you really like someone thoses thought wont go through your head so much!!! but your only 14 so its unlikey that hes guna be the love of you life anywyas , if your not ready for a fast moving realtonship fnd some one who wants to go at your pace ok!!!
hope I have helped in some way sorry for being harsh tho!!!

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