How embarassing is my s*x situation?

Six months ago I lost my virginity to a past relationship of mine when I was completely drunk. Since he was drunk too, he wasn't even hard. At the time, I didn't even notice that he couldn't get it up but we still tried it anyway (keep in mind, we were both drunk). It didn't hurt me, so does that mean he was small? (it hurt quite a bit the next day, though). And, I didn't bleed. I don't remember bleeding from masterbation/getting fingered, or anything rather before. So, I guess it means I haven't popped my cherry. Also, I have been in a relationship with someone who's almost 3 years older than I am who ins't a virgin, and I'm ready to have s*x with him. I'm worried that I'll bleed due to my cherry not being popped, and what he may think because he knows I've had s*x once. What do you think I should do or say incase without it being akward?

So, to rap it up all over again my questions are:
- does it mean he was small?
- what should I do to make it not akward if I bleed, or how to tell him I might bleed without him thinking I'm weird or laughing at me because I've had s-x but my cherry didn't pop
- how embarassing is my situation? lol.

Your situation is not embarassing. Tell this boy that you THINK that you lost your virginity, but you are not 100% sure of it. Why? Because of the circumstances you detailed here. So he should be more careful then in a usual s*x situation with a non-virgin girl. There is nothing ashame in your problem, it is rather interesting & exiting, I mean sexually, and the boy must accept it and adapt to it. Anyway, my oppinion is that you are still virgin.

What!!! The person above me needs some se-x ed. Badly.

You are not a virgin. If you've had any kind of v*aginal penetration by a guy's pen*is, you are NOT a virgin. Doesn't matter if your hymen didn't tear or he wasn't hard. Sorry, but you're not. And just because you didn't bleed doesn't mean he didn't "pop your cherry" And it doesn't mean he was small, either. You said yourself he wasn't hard... obviously size increases when a guy gets hard. He didn't get hard, therefore he wasn't very big. Many, many girls tear their hymen before they ever even have se*x. Gymnastics, horseback riding, swimming, exercising in general. Also, some girl's tissue is more elastic or weaker than others. It's VERY easy for you to have already torn it just from being fingered or mas*urbat*on. And IMO, you already have.

So if you sleep with this other guy, and you bleed, what's the big deal?!? I'm sure he'll understand, and if he doesn't then you guys WEREN'T ready. There is absolutely nothing embarrassing about your situation. Totally normal and happens all the time!! Just tell him what you've experienced before and if he's a REAL man, he won't care!

Yeah, I know I'm not a virgin. Thanks for pointing out that the person needs more s*x ed than I do.

I know, but just incase my hymen hasn't ripped yet, I was just wondering. Do all girls bleed when it rips, though?

I just don't want it to be akward if I do bleed while having s*x with him, is all. I'm totally ready, and I know I'm over reacting because he most likely wont care, as long as it's spent with me. But still, I'm just.. embarassed.

You should NEVER be embarrassed about still being a virgin. You have issues if you do!!

Are you dumb? I AM NOT A VIRGIN!

I don't know if my hymen has ripped yet even though I've had s*x, and I didn't bleed. Yes, I am well aware that it could have blead earlier due to sports or something, but just in case if I have s*x with him, I'm embarassed that if I do bleed. And, if he is like "what the hell, I thought you weren't a virgin" or something rather.

TAKE A CHILL PILL GIRL!
In my opinion, you are still a virgin!!! If he couldnt get hard, how did he ever get it in? A guys p*nis has to be totally erect in order for penetration to take place! The reason it didnt hurt, was not because of his size, but because he probably never got it in!!! Its kind of hard to have s*x when a p*nis is soft!!
So, you need to think again, if s*xual intercourse even took place that night you both were "drunk", because I dont think it did!! When a guy cant get it up, he cant get it in!!

woah! angelfire2708, a guy does not need to be hard for the penitration to take place. my and my boyfriend had sex. he wasnt hard, and I was bleeding for like 4 hours.