How do you know if you are ready?

Okay so I am 14 and my boyfriend is 17 (please dont judge on the age difference we truely are in love) he resepcts women and he hasnt gone further than making out and neither have I. We talk openly all the time . But one day things got kinda spicy and he put his hand beetween my legs and thats as far as it went, but the next day it was spicy again and he put his hand down my jeans, but still above the underwear. Now my question is. What should I do to show the same afftection he is showing but still not letting it go to far? And also how should I react if he tries to go further?

if you want 2 have it wit him go 4 it but you dont want to be a mom yet so be careful

well to show the same affection you can just do small things while making out like put your hand on the back of his head and pull him closer or breathe a little deeper like your turned on but not too much also you can just rub his thigh up and down. as for what you should do if he goes further. ask urself this... do you feel unconfortable with him doing this? is it making you a little too nervous? if you are answering yes to either of these I would tell him that you love him but you arent ready. by the sound of it he really loves you and will respect that. if he doesnt then move on. if you answered no to both questions then let him go farther and let him know if you start to feel too unconfortable or if he is hurting u. hope I helped ~kaitlyn~

thats the way it started out with me. I just let him take control. but the second I felt uncomfortable I told him no and he stopped right away.
only do what you are comfortable with. you are kinda young, but when things are spicy, as you say, then put your hand near his package but dont go in the pants.
but again you should only do it if you are confortable.if you want to go further then do it.

that's not affection, him doing that is not respectful towards you at all.

I dont agree with tmsharp...I dont know how long uve been with him , but if its been more than a year (just cause your age) than you can explore sexuality a little. just because you're exploring, doesnt mean you dont have affection for each other. its human nature...just dont go far quickly... really...if you want to show him you want to further the relationship, you can hint (without having sex) by the way you touch him...instead of cuddling...start by massages, rubbing his thight with your hand...just take it slow...by all means dont do 'it' soon...

if he starts taking the hint too strongly, just kindly push him away...if he doesnt AUTOMATICALLY take that hint, then that is bad news.

well, I agree with myself, because of your age AND the age difference.