How do you ask for birth control?

So me and my mom doesnt really have a great realsinship with each other, I cant tell her anything with out her getting mad. Or have a serois conversation with her. And me and my bf have been dating for 10 months [[as of tomarrow]] and i mean, he dont...

want me to get pregnate. and i dont want to either. Cause that would ruin everything. and well he wants me to talk to her about birth control. I mean its always a big thing for a gurl to ask her mother, that. you know, but when your not close to her, and its hard to have a decent conversation with her about simple things. HOw can i do this? I mean I want to, it would make things alot less stressful, and easier. but she dont want me to have sex. bf she dont want me to mess my life up, and my bf dont want me to either. Sex is important to him, and to me, but not like to the point were i have to have it, bc i mean he was my first and everything. but i mean i dont know how to start off. and i know if i ask her, she will think that i have been having sex with him, and wont let me see him anymore. i know that for sure. i know my mother. ppl say well it might work out different. but i KNOW her trust me. Shes my mom ive been with her for 16 yrs... just tell me how to start, what to say... im soo scared to bring it up...

help me.

Food for thought: If you waited to have sex until you're married, you wouldn't have to ask your mother that question or worry about getting pregnant - problems solved...I wish you the best !!

Waiting for marriage, just waiting in general is good. However, it seems you have made up your mind and at least you are taking steps towards protecting yourself. You and your boyfriend knowing that now is not the time to have a baby is very smart. I do commend you for that. Now let's get to your mom. It sounds like she loves you and is very concerned for you, but you two don't communicate well. I find it frustrating sometimes when I want to get something across to my son and I don't feel he listens and then I become angry. It does not make for good communication. The first thing I would say is, do not go to her with the attitude you are going to do this no matter what. Even though you may be thinking this, leave your defenses and attack mode under your bed. Attempting to approach her with a completely different mind-set MAY help. For example, Mom, I really love you and I know you want what is best for me. Thank you for raising me so far. You have done a good job, Mom. I am smart and responsible and you helped to shape me... She may suspect something is up because us Moms are pretty smart that way. But be persistant, yet respectful. Tell her your decision is not against her. Give your mom the credit for you being able to make responsible decision. It still may not go smoothly, but atleast you get the idea out there. It will be on her mind and if she gets angry when you first approach her, let her calm down and process the information and maybe try again in a couple of days. Just try not to argue with her if things start to get heated. Remember, you want to show her you can make adult decisions and handle adult situations. Good luck.

gurl i kno wat u r goin through.here's so sister 2 sister advice: go 2 ur mom and tell her dat u need 2 hav a talk wit her and then tell say mom,dont get offended by wat i am about 2 ask u and then ask her can u get on birth control and if she asks u y say becuz u dont want 2 get pregnant.then if she asks u hav u been havin sex just say no u havent been havin sex and then say u just want 2 get on birth control just 2 protect ur self from pregnancy becuz u never kno when it might happen.keep ya head up baby gurl much love 2 ya

well one you dont have to ask your mom you can do it yoru self got to the local clinic or gino...

tell him to get it. Father to Son is a lot more easier then father to daughter or mother to daughter. believe me.

Trust me you really want to wait to have sex. Even if you got on birth control it takes a couple months to actually work perfectly and until then you wont know how your body will do and everything. I just got started on it a couple weeks ago and i still bleed sometimes and spot when im not suppose to because its something different ur body has never did before. I had to go to the doctor because of getting sick with my throat and then I didnt think anything of it and I kept complaining also about my stomach hurting because it was and she was like is it cramps arent u on ur period and i said i dont know i never know really when i am n when im not and shes like well talk to the doctor about that so i did an he gave me a percribtion for them and said if u want to try them then do and my mom was like so which medicenes are we going to get filled an i handed her the birth control to

so now ive been on it and im so glad because ive had sex with 2 guys when i wasent on it and i was scared i could be preg. and i had sex with one guy a week ago being on it i didnt feel like i could get preg i just felt used

i really wish i would have made sex wait in my life i have felt so used and hopefully u wont make the wrong choices i have, just talk to ur mom and be like im cramping so bad and i dnt even know when i have my periods anymore do we have anything n the med counter or something for it and act like u dont even know nething about birth control and stuff

I completely agree with all the above advice to wait!!! Waiting for marriage is obviously best - or at least until you are an adult.. If that is out of the question I would advise against asking your mother.. It would literally make me sick to my stomach if I had a 16 year old daughter and she came to me asking for birth control. You may not have any idea now, but you will know exactly what I mean when your child is 16. -- I wish the best for you

Ok, condomns, condomns, and more condomns. If you can drive you can take yourself to the local planned parenthood, or free clinic and get some birthcontrol pills. No, I do not condone teens having sex, but if you can think about it and know its aboslutely important, you shouldnt be afraid to speak about it. Ask questions, ane learn everything about the options that are out there. Its not just about getting pregnant, its about STD's, and HIV. Please exhaust all your options and make the right decision.

bring it up casually
ask her to dinner
and pay if u have the money
or suggest that yall go shopping
and just be casual bout it
or maybe u cant talk to her face to face
send her an email
or a text message
thats how i told my mom about me having s*x for the first time
back then we didnt have any kind of relationship
except for mother and kidd
and u say she'll think u've been havin s*x with him
well havent you?
be straight up with your mom
she knows she's going to have to talk to you bout it sometime
she'll appreciate it

well I have had the same situation... my mom and I havent had the greatest relationship and I cant really tell her anything either without her getting mad at me. me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost nine months. and we were looking into moving out relationship up a nother step. which would be s e x. so he asked me to ask my mom about it. I didnt know how to ask her but all I did was I told her exactly what I was thinking... I told her that mike(my boyfriend) and I have been talking it through and if it would ever come to a point in our relationship to have s e x then I want to be prepared and so does he. I told her that I am still a virgin she didnt believe me at first then I kept begging her to please listen and care for what I was saying. so finally she did she wasnt too thrilled with the idea but she wanted me to be safe. orr if you are too nervous to ask her.. go down to your local doctor... and tell them everything.. doctors always understand and will give the best advice...

I hope this helps

p.s. its a true fact that is most likely a lot easier to tell your mom that you want to go on a birth control then your pregnant

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