How do i win my best friend back?

okay.
I have a friend named jeannette. she is my VERYY best friend. shes been friends with this girl named michelle for a while. I am also her good friend.. Me and jeannette have been friends since 3rd grade and now im in 7th. everytime we hang out,we...

have a great time. on time, we all got into a fight with michelle. we were mad at her for a very long time. then, fiannally I sucked it up and became friends with michelle again. so I talked jeannette into being friends. so now there best friends again. but, every since 2 or 3 weeks ago, jeannette has not been the same. shes been favoring michelle. and she has a distint way of showing when she mad at you. so, I can tell she is alittle upset. so I tried to ask jeannette whats rong and she just says nothing. but just today, I was told that she had said that I am changing and she doesnt really like me anymore. and when I heard this, I called my mom to come get me and I cryed the whole way home. im still crying thinking about it. im in my pjs writiting this beacues shes in school and I no she doesnt care about me. my mom says to work it out. but shes not that easy. I want to scream. I have had so many thoughts of sucide.
I cant tell you how much I care about her and I dont want to loose her so please,, please if you have any advice please , I could use it. if I can work this out, thats less step ill take to sucide. please, I miss my old friend and I want her back. please give me some advice. I really want to work everything out.
I love you jeannette and I always will no matter how much you like me.please forgive me.

this thing happened to me when I was in yr 9 my best friend emma went into a different crowd and left me out unfortunatly I was left out for the whole yr of yr 9.

she changed so much. in the end I had,had enough and decided to make new frends and I did.

now the frends I have now are better than the ones I have ever had.

your situation is kind off different uve been best frends with this jeannette longer than I was with my friend emma.

Try and talk to her and ask her why u have changed. c if you cood talk it out somehow if not still keep in contact but find sum other frends.

suicide should never be an option, especially at your age. but at the end you wrote please forgive me. I don't apologise unless I did something wrong, if you did you should have added that above. But You can't trust what other people say, you must confront your friend. If she still says nothing is wrong don't let up until she tells you. This might make her a little angery, but if something is wrong she will tell you if you are persistant enough. im posotive, everyone caves. You can't solve a problem if you don't even know what it is. Then take it from there

There could be more behind it other than you are changing. maybe it could be that both of you are growing up and changing. It could be that michelle could possibly have to do with it. BUT NEVER, EVER consider suicide. It's not worth taking your life over a situation like this. This happens to EVERYBODY and EVERYONE ends up finding other friends who will treat them better and with more respect and have more fun! I've had a best friend since my 8th grade year and I'm 21 years old now. We are no longer best friends but we are still friends. There was a long period of time where it took a while for us to talk to each other again just because our lives have changed so much between jr. high, high school, and college. just like you, your lives might have changed between elementary school and jr high that it's just time to go your separate ways.
people are put in our lives and taken away for a reason. it only makes a stronger and it helps us grow as a person! Do not try to committ suicide. YOUR LIFE is NOT worth losing this friendship.
if you need anymore help, fun mail me.

There could be more behind it other than you are changing. maybe it could be that both of you are growing up and changing. It could be that michelle could possibly have to do with it. BUT NEVER, EVER consider suicide. It's not worth taking your life over a situation like this. This happens to EVERYBODY and EVERYONE ends up finding other friends who will treat them better and with more respect and have more fun! I've had a best friend since my 8th grade year and I'm 21 years old now. We are no longer best friends but we are still friends. There was a long period of time where it took a while for us to talk to each other again just because our lives have changed so much between jr. high, high school, and college. just like you, your lives might have changed between elementary school and jr high that it's just time to go your separate ways.
people are put in our lives and taken away for a reason. it only makes a stronger and it helps us grow as a person! Do not try to committ suicide. YOUR LIFE is NOT worth losing this friendship.
if you need anymore help, fun mail me.

Hey, I just wanted to find some way to help you and I started analyzing your question and here's your problem. You are trying to CONTROL things that you have NO control over and it is making you suffer internally. We all lose friends due to the changes in life (and yes, there was a little change of heart in your friend)-- if she wants to befriend another person WHILE hanging out with you the way YOU like it , then your fine. But as soon as she starts to act a little differently you assume that she must be ultimately thinking of dumping you for someone cooler.

This is your distorted logic, trust me I've BEEN there and I KNOW. What should you do to better your life? Realize that you do NOT NEED anyone THAT MUCH. The only people that should be able to break your heart should be your OWN family because they will be there forever. Not your friend. Why would you want such a shallow friend anyway despite whatever you may like from her? Think about it, your worth more then that!

Hey, I just wanted to find some way to help you and I started analyzing your question and here's your problem. You are trying to CONTROL things that you have NO control over and it is making you suffer internally. We all lose friends due to the changes in life (and yes, there was a little change of heart in your friend)-- if she wants to befriend another person WHILE hanging out with you the way YOU like it , then your fine. But as soon as she starts to act a little differently you assume that she must be ultimately thinking of dumping you for someone cooler.

This is your distorted logic, trust me I've BEEN there and I KNOW. What should you do to better your life? Realize that you do NOT NEED anyone THAT MUCH. The only people that should be able to break your heart should be your OWN family because they will be there forever. Not your friend. Why would you want such a shallow friend anyway despite whatever you may like from her? Think about it, your worth more then that!

okay dont worry because I am in that sutiation rite now and its not that easy I know but dont think about suidide its not the awnser I know what yyour going threw and dont worry about it I think that you should sit her down and tell her whats going on and get her opion and I think that if she dont want to listen then she isnt a good friend

So I had this best friend named Kya and we used to be really good friends but one day this year she told me and I quote I don't need you anymore because I'm in a posse. I just feel so used and when she says I don't need you anymore it sounds like she was just using me. She has never even given me a reason or explanation of why she doesn't need me. I miss her so much so how do I get her to be my friend again?

I actually know the answer to that question probably more then a lot of people. This has happened to me 3 times with the sameee person. Your probably thinking why dont I let go. Because she's the most important thing in my life. First of all all of you need to appreciate every friend and best friend you have because when someone you care more then anything about moves states is so hard. Its physically impossible to see them to break it to you there's nothing you can do. Your friend is having fun. She's with someone else, someone new. Don't act like you care then when she sees that she'll come to you. I trullyam sorry and I know you want to die but don't because then you'll never see her again. If you really wantto do something about it then go to your both favorite hang out spot and bring up old times. Its hard to win someone over it hurts so much. But the trick is ALWAYS be there for her and be fun and yourself and that's all I hope that helped all of you

Well thats like me and my best friend.we been best friends since 4th grade and now were in 7th going into 8th.it's been too long,so you have to try some how to work it out.you dont want to say that your friendship was a lie right? and even with my other friend I had since kindergarden,we fight and barely talk,but we can still have a good time because we know it's been way too lnog to end it now.

for once my sister's right.but shes not in 7th grade,thats when it ended lol.im in 7th grade,and me and my best friends since kindergarden and 4th grade and all the time,we cant break it now.it has been too long.

You can send her a card on Best Friend's Day, write down all your thoughts and emotions into it. Gift her something she loves and say her how you feel without her beside you. I am sure it will work.

http://www.123greetings.com/events/best_friends_day/flowers/

I would totally commit suicide if my best friend was mad at me. I love her that much too... I don't know just know your not alone.

im in a similar problem...
my best friend Greg stopped talking to me... I met Greg in 4th grade and we're going to be Juniors in the fall... he started talking to this guy named Jeff.. Jeff hates my bloody guts.. and apearantly now Greg does too... I've been crying on/off for the last month and 1/2..

Without greg the world doesnt make sense... and I feel like im in a shadow.

but , hey, I dont really have much advice except that I can tell you that youre not alone.

I know EXACTLY how you feel the exact same thing happened to me. if you really are that good of friends you shouldnt need anyones advice to work it out, no body knows what your friend ship is like but you guys if you think you can work it out then go for it and I really hope you can. with me I found out that she wasnt that good of a friend anyways and im better off without her. sometimes you only notice things after you get in a fight think back and decide if she really deserves you as a friend. if she does then I hope you guys can work things out good luck

ok seriously, DONT WORRY ABOUT IT! Do you know how many other people are out there you could be friends with? I was best friends with a girl since kindergarten and in 8th grade I told her off because she was controlling me! Try to talk to her , but if shes not feeling it, who cares! I know it sounds harsh, but I've been there. Its a waste of time to worry about that. Go out and meet new people! You eventually realize this is nothing! I've noticed a lot of young girls like to do this to eachother. Because they ar immature and like to go from friend to friend. Rise above that petty bulls*it! Be the bigger person and act like this is just a grain of salt!

I can not believe it!
when I read this, I felt like I was reading my own story.
I have gone through the exact same thing, the only difference is I am in grade 12. see, were going to be dealing with this kind of crap our whole lives. I know ti is really hard, but there is no point in getting to upset about it. people change, and wehn they change themselves, sometimes they also need to change there friends. If you and her are really best friends, if you give her some space, she will come back around. she is going to realise one day, that she needs you. if I were you, I would just say be friends with who ever you want, I cant stop you. I am always going to be around if you need someone
the best advice I can give you, is to be friends with everyone. dont get yourself into the whole bestfriend thing. its always good to have that one persone who is like...your ultimate friend...but sometimes sh*t happens , and you need other friends to fall back on!
good luck with everything...funmail me and let me know what happens!

That's happened to me. Well first I recommend that you make new friends just incase she wont take you back (then u'd be a loner). I think you should email her and just tell her how you feel and that she knows you more than she knows Michelle. Try and invite her over even tho you know she hates u. Or just ask Michelle to back off (but it won't work). you should make other friends so that jeanette mite be jealous and try to get you back instead of the other way. Hang out with other people but still keep in contact with Jeanette.
Try that (it MIGHT work)

well if your friend was really your friend she would never leave your side if she loved you that much. she wouldnt betray you for someone she hasnt known as long as you, its all apart of middle school drama trust me I know im in the 8th grade I've been through it all and when you get high school half of the people you associate with now will be nobodys to you. but give her time to come around because all friends get mad at each other after a while if you dont see any change in her behavior just drop shes probaly not meant to be your bestfriend

Same thing is happening to me, I dont know if im on my bffs acount or mine, but anyways, I dont know what to tell ya. I dont think you should kill your self tho, its not such a good idea. My friend is now best friends with someone els and I have cried every day. I seem like I dc but I do!!! But if shes like that (like my friend) shes probably not meant to be your best friend. We will both fund a bff that we will actually keep forever. I hope I didnt complain about my own needs to much. Well dont kill your slef, defenitly dont. OKay? se ya.