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How do i tell my mentor that i was raped?

my name is dan Asked by dan41790 about 1 year ago, 9 answers.

I told her earlier this year and I couldnt deal with all the questions she was asking so I made it go away. She said I cant leave her anymore notes or she would just throw them away. I cant call her or she would tell my mom everything I told her. I was...

raped by a**h*le of an uncle that I used to live with but he just moved out. I cant tell my mom because shes really sick and she wont be able to do nonthing about it. and now its affecting my grades in shcool and I cant fail. Its so bad that during school ill go in the bathroom and just break down crying in the bathroom. I dont know anybody else to tell because I have to be sthrong at home and I dont want my mom to see me cry about something. Im to that point that if he tries it again I will beat his a** and go to jail for it because I need that son of a b*tch out of the house. He doesnt own the house or nonthing he just lives there because he just got out if jail for beating up his wife. Please answer fast because I really need some help!

Not nice to laugh at other's short comings Answered by ethmer (Online now) on Apr 24, 2008, 06:05AM
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If you are having problems or are depressed, below are a couple of sites that may help you:

Worldwide:

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If in the U.S.A., you also have access to:

Girls and Boys Town National Hotline

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meee Answered by fromautumntoashesx3 on Apr 19, 2008, 05:09PM
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go to a school councelor.. everything there is confidentional and so you can talk about your feeling and not have to tell your mom, they can help you press charges too

Answered by la16love on Apr 19, 2008, 05:21PM
334 answers

You don't have to tell your mom just tell a school councelor like fromautumntoashesx said. And please don't kept this a sercet to your self. Do it as soon as possible.the worst thing that you could do is not talk about this if you keep it in side it will just drive you insance. And just be careful. Goodluck.
Every things will be ok in the end =)

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Looveee thiss womann <3 Answered by sumagrl31 on Apr 19, 2008, 05:58PM
217 answers

Okay here is what you can do

1) Tell a teacher you can trust and tell her that you want to wit a little bit before telling someone else b\c telling the teacher is hard enough as it is

2) Call your local rape crisis center and see what your options OR you can call te RAINN hotline. You can find the phone number for your local center and the RAINN hotline at http://www.RAINN.org

3) Tell your school guidance counseler and say you want to talk about it for a while before taking bigger measures

I was in your situation and I used Number 2. They really help you A LOT. because they dont rush you and you feel confotable. Im not sureif its the same with you but I know that talking with a stranger was SO much easier than talking to someone you know. I dont know why it just was.

Hope you get help :]

P.S
Also if you go to the RAINN site you can talk to the online hotline if you arent comfortable talking on the phone. That is were I started out. Its 100% confordential and there is absolutly NO way they can track you. Just dont give them info that could say where you live. Thats what one of the RAINN reps told me.

love Answered by shawnlver on Apr 19, 2008, 06:29PM
88 answers

You don't have to tell your mom but you should. Talk to your school cousaler and your mom will probably call the police but you should notify someone IMMEDIATLY!!! It's the best thing to do.

Answered by sxylady on Apr 19, 2008, 06:57PM
130 answers

Tell a counselor at school...tell the police and they can put him in jail

how do i look? Answered by ameena on Apr 22, 2008, 02:16AM
299 answers

well try and gain her trust

this is me Answered by handmadejewelry4u on Apr 22, 2008, 05:21AM
21 answers

First, how old are you? There has to be someone who can help. Even if your mom can't physically do anything about it isn't there someone who is responsible for your best interests? I went through something very similar as a teenager and it was my uncle by marriage. I went through all kinds of emotions about feeling like it was something I did that asked for his unwelcomed advances. Then I realized that he was the sick one and it had nothing to do with me. I was just the victim. I told my mom and she did what was right. Maybe just letting your mentor tell your mother will help. Tell your mentor your fears about your mom not being well enough to do anything. Maybe she has the right advice. What I have learned is if you are honest, there is always a way to deal with something. Holding it back doesn't make you strong. Doing something about it to protect other people including yourself from a repeat offense makes you strong. I am not insinuating you are weak for keeping this in, I believe you are strong for surviving something like this. Do what you know in your heart is right. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to do anything to the guy who deserves the punishment. Good luck. If you need to talk fun mail me.
Kristy

Answered by getfreshh on Apr 22, 2008, 04:54PM
53 answers

if he just got out of jail , he is most likely on probation
so raping someone has fu* ked up his life, and I know it may be hard for you, but you have to tell your mom, or better yet, the police
I applaud you for thinking about others, but you really have to think about yourself too
really, just go to the police and tell them your problem !

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